Sad single and lonely,

found_a_bargin

Hi all,

As the title says it seems that when a relationship breaks down like mine has there is so much to sort out you just feel so lonely and bored.

I have my little one who when im with him or he is here it is fantastic but after he has gone the bordem starts,

Im not intrested in seeing anyone at the moment or maybe for a while i dont really know yet nut as funds are so limited due to saving for a place of my own and living with parents is dull to what can i do?

Im a 26 year old male and feel old before my time HELP.....

jenjade

I would just try to keep yourself as busy as possible. It is a hard time and you must really miss your kid. This site has helped me with boredom

Thinking of you. Maybe catch up with some mates for a bit or something

Tesco_points_addict

Hi found, I just wanted to say, I have been in that 'lonely' place to, when you feel like life only has this to offer...times do change, and chating on forums like this make you realise you ar not alone.

TPAxx ((hugs))

found_a_bargin

jenjade wrote: »

I would just try to keep yourself as busy as possible. It is a hard time and you must really miss your kid. This site has helped me with boredom

Thinking of you. Maybe catch up with some mates for a bit or something

Have tried to catch up with old friends and things have joined facebook and found a few, some have changed for the good and some for the worst so a bit on the fence there,

The worst part abount the break up is missing my little one.

MrsTinks

Have you thought about doing some volunteer work or something? I know when I was at my lowest many years ago I joined St Johns and not only did I learn loads of skills but I also met a lot of very interesting people (and some weird ones too but hey ). I also got to go to loads of events and concerts etc for free (ok I was on duty but 99% of the time when the main act is on you have nothing to do unless you're at the sides of the stage and get the ones that have been squished or just passed out). Not saying St John is for everyone but there are obviously loads of other charities you could join or volunteer for depending on your interests and it's a cheap or free way to get out, meet people and just not sit at home and brood

Deep_In_Debt

I'm single and have been for a while and to be honest am loving being single! I'm neither sad nor lonely. I was in a relationship for as long as I can remember and broke up last year after 15 years together...don't be down...there is life out there.

found_a_bargin

MrsTine wrote: »

Have you thought about doing some volunteer work or something? I know when I was at my lowest many years ago I joined St Johns and not only did I learn loads of skills but I also met a lot of very interesting people (and some weird ones too but hey ). I also got to go to loads of events and concerts etc for free (ok I was on duty but 99% of the time when the main act is on you have nothing to do unless you're at the sides of the stage and get the ones that have been squished or just passed out). Not saying St John is for everyone but there are obviously loads of other charities you could join or volunteer for depending on your interests and it's a cheap or free way to get out, meet people and just not sit at home and brood

Thats a good idea ive never thought of that, when i was at first and middle school i was a first aider with the red cross and would of carried on but i started working late and then missed it.

I think ill make some enquirys in to that.

found_a_bargin

Deep_In_Debt wrote: »

I'm single and have been for a while and to be honest am loving being single! I'm neither sad nor lonely. I was in a relationship for as long as I can remember and broke up last year after 15 years together...don't be down...there is life out there.

I must admit the other part im enjoying at the moment is if its not to do with my son or work thatn its up to me what and when i do things.

becky_rtw

Hey found - perhaps you should take up a sport - exercise releases endorphins and makes you feel good and you can pick a group sport and meet some like minded people - football, hockey, and cricket are good ones

found_a_bargin

becky_rtw wrote: »

Hey found - perhaps you should take up a sport - exercise releases endorphins and makes you feel good and you can pick a group sport and meet some like minded people - football, hockey, and cricket are good ones

Its a good idea but i spent my hole school life trying to avoid pe an games,
Id only do sport at school if it were rounders or table tennis..... lol,

And i dont think ill ever understand football.

worried_jim

sounds depressing but welcome to the real world. If i even think about it i get depressed, at least you have your son and your parents nearby.
I was talking to a chap about this and he was saying that a lot more house holds will be single in the not too distant future. In 25 years most homes will be occupied by 1 person in Scotland and I am sure the rest of the UK wont be too far behind.
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/scotland/7390250.stm
How bad will it get before you join http://uk.match.com/ ? Do you have courage for speed dating? Or like me prefer a potential future alone as I cant face the embarrassment/rejection of going through it all again.
I share your pain brother, it will get better. See you at the singles night !