Single and in Debt Part II

Lula-Hula

They probably are sarah, it's just that I have continued to use sugar :doh:I will investigate in boots.

Am now retiring to my boudoir alone to revel in the whole bed & duvet ( the way i'm expanding i need it too :rolleyes:)

night night
x

sarahb123_3

Night Lula, am having a glass of wine;) so am listening to the radio debate on being single, will report back on anything remotely hopeful.:D

I know what you mean on having the whole bed, it's bliss:j

makeup

Shoe_Gal wrote: »

Guess who I love best - and where my name comes from !! :rolleyes: Carrie actually uses the name Shoe Gal when she sets up an email account so she can get in touch with Aiden again

(Realise I now sound like a proper geek - I do have a life - honest! )

Oh No! I thought I was a true fan but I didn't spot that at all!!!

It is probably because I dont' have the Aidan series on DVD....I'm missing 1 and 3 or 1 and 4 can't remember now.

Sarah - very weird idea 'is it possible to be single and happy'?? I mean ridiculous?!! There are lots of people who are are single and happy. For example all those couples where one has died? Does that mean if your husband dies you might as well jump off a cliff as you are never going to be happy again???

I think it is a very personal thing as well. There are some people who really love being in a relationship and that is really important to them. Even to the extent that this defines them. And there are others who are much happier being on their own and doing their own thing.

And there are some people who shift between the two!

What conclusions did the radio programme come to?

ClipClop_3

Hi Lula,

Why not just try without anything sweeter??? it tastes funny to begin with but you get used to it, just keep remembering that you are sweet enough, it might help with the calories.

SATC is bad...makes me want new clothes, new man oh hell mainly just a whole new life!

on the note of being happy and single, i reckon that about 80% of the time im reasonanbly happy then something happens like someone gets married, mmm no one to go with, or ex OH just finds a new gf and then I feel rubbish...im sure it will all get better :rolleyes:

very_silly_and_scared

Hi all. I haven't been on here for ages so thought would catch up with the founders (hi Sarah) and the newbies (which would be everyone since about December!)

Am far more organised on the debts than I was when I first joined this thread and am still single mid 30s with cat- it's DEFINITELY possible to be single and happy though without a doubt- and surely equally possible to be 'couple-d up and happy or miserable'.

I think the secret is that it's not the best to be miserable BECAUSE you're single or in a couple or happy JUST because you're in a couple or single. It's all about you as a person and how you feel about yourself and how hally you are in yourself. Does that make sense?!

And as you were talking about Sex and the City, I was thinking about that episode where Carrie has her picture on the cover of the magazine looking awful and entitled Single and Fabulous? then says she thought it would be Single and Fabulous! We should all think of ourselves as the latter. Single and Fabulous EXCLAMATION mark!!! that way until someone does happen along (if they do) then life is still pretty damn good!

very_silly_and_scared

makeup wrote: »

Oh yeah, that is carp! I really love getting flowers but practically all of my exes have not been the gift-giving kind.....aargh! (maybe that is why I'm happy being single, my exes have just been rubbish!!!!)

I just read this and it made me laugh. When I lived in Manchester one of my exes turned up to my house for the first time with 3 matching bunches of petrol station flowers, one for me and one each for his grandparents who were both buried at the local cemetery and whose graves we then proceeded to visit.

Though dead relatives are nothing compared to the live mum and dad I once had to go for lunch (UNANNOUNCED) with on a SECOND DATE. Both mad as hatters. I think I may have posted about this before. She asked me was I wearing makeup and did I dye my hair.

There was unsurprisingly no third date (though me and petrol station gravestone flowers dated for 2 years what does that say about me?! haha)

sarahb123_3

makeup wrote: »

What conclusions did the radio programme come to?

I had to turn it off half way through, it was so hugely annoying:mad: :mad::mad: Definitely not a balanced view (at least not the part I listened to) more of an, "I have a husband, so I've won," view. A completes refusal to acknowledge that there might be any benefits to being single or that some people might prefer to be alone. :mad: I hope there was a more sensible debate later but I just could not listen to any more, it was just too one sided and patronising. :mad:

Willsnarf1983

I don't get the dating thing really, I get really claustrophobic quick with people but i still aspire and believe that I will find the one (not sure how if i despise dating lol!).

Also i don't have that drive to find the 'special one' at the moment (never really had it either!) if that makes sense (plus i need to shift a tonne of weight :rolleyes:).

Plus i like being single really, no crying women lol! and my money can be spent on moi!

sarahb123_3

very_silly_and_scared wrote: »

Hi all. I haven't been on here for ages so thought would catch up with the founders (hi Sarah) and the newbies (which would be everyone since about December!)

*waves*
Welcome back:D

Am far more organised on the debts than I was when I first joined this thread and am still single mid 30s with cat- it's DEFINITELY possible to be single and happy though without a doubt- and surely equally possible to be 'couple-d up and happy or miserable'.

I think the secret is that it's not the best to be miserable BECAUSE you're single or in a couple or happy JUST because you're in a couple or single. It's all about you as a person and how you feel about yourself and how hally you are in yourself. Does that make sense?!

So true, I know people who are miserable in their relationships or who feel they have settled, at least we don't have that problem. I think when I am feeling down about being single it has been triggered by something else I feel down about and being in a couple wouldn't necessarily fix the probelm.

And as you were talking about Sex and the City, I was thinking about that episode where Carrie has her picture on the cover of the magazine looking awful and entitled Single and Fabulous? then says she thought it would be Single and Fabulous! We should all think of ourselves as the latter. Single and Fabulous EXCLAMATION mark!!! that way until someone does happen along (if they do) then life is still pretty damn good!

:TI should have made that the thread title. I will remember for next time:D

very_silly_and_scared

Good to see you still around Sarah (in the nicest possible way of course!!!)

Have read through the last 10 pages or so and on a more practical level to those of you who are trying to lose weight, in another incarnation I am a qualified fitness instructor/personal trainer (but not in a scary gym fascist way).

Qualified years ago and last year started teaching again as a debt-reduction strategy. I just look on exercise as an excuse to eat/drink whatever I like (there are no 'naughty' foods!) but still stay healthy and 'reasonably' in shape!

If I can give any of you advice/encouragement/motivation I would be really happy to do so... (and let me assure you that before I started to exercise I hated it and all involved with it!!!) It's finding something you enjoy and that doesn't seem like a chore that's the secret (and seeing your bum and upper arms tone up that's the motivator!!!)