Single and in Debt Part II

PinkTwirl

Shoe_Gal wrote: »

Thanks - but I an scared of the concept of any walking that isn't around shops - I just don't get it :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Is that shoe shops by any chance? :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::o

eco

Shoe_Gal wrote: »

Thanks - but I an scared of the concept of any walking that isn't around shops - I just don't get it :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

I find walking really relaxing, on Friday morning I was coming home from taking the mutts out for there morning walk, when I noticed this white van going really slow at the side of me, when I finally twigged and looked at it I thought that's our works van wonder who's driving it, he said you were miles away I've been crawling along for the last 100 yards how come you didn't see me I was just about to pip, I was miles away. At work I'm loud and always on the ball so no one believed him that I was away with the fairies.

Shoe_Gal

PinkTwirl wrote: »

Thanks for the nice things you have said though x

Because they are all true - and you're very welcome

Shoe_Gal

PinkTwirl wrote: »

Is that shoe shops by any chance? :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::o

What - you mean there are other kinds ????? :rotfl::D

PinkTwirl

Shoe_Gal wrote: »

Because they are all true - and you're very welcome

I used to get so frustrated as to why people treat me the way they do. I used to get angry and turn all of the anger inwards and get very depressed, hence running up £20K in London, moving in with ex and then paying it off, splitting up with him and then running up £22K. It didn't help at all.

Now, I know that I'm still a decent person and that's just my lot in life.

x

PinkTwirl

Shoe_Gal wrote: »

What - you mean there are other kinds ????? :rotfl::D

There are bag shops, clothes shops, home shops (well, The Pier used to be great when it was around) and of course chocolate shops!!!!

Slurp!!!!

x

Buffythedebtslayer

PinkTwirl wrote: »

Now, I know that I'm still a decent person and that's just my lot in life.

x

I still say you don't know what the future holds.


I watching Biggest Loser, wow its motivating

btw I found this site for Weight loss for any one who is interested in recording their progress on line - and actually it has loads of resources and will e mail you an exercise to do every day (and yes I am easily pleased!!

https://www.sparkpeople.com

sarahb123_3

Hi all, am having a rubbish day and am here for a rant. Have just got back from my weekend, I went to a party on Friday and an anniversary party yesterday, I decided to stay the night for the Saturday one as it was too far to drive really. Friday was okay, but it was mostly people my own age and I was, of course, the only one not in a couple.

I knew a few people there but only one really well. I did have a nice time but just for once I would like to be there with someone to buy me drinks and look after me (not suggesting I should just have someone there to attend to my whims, I just mean someone to do boyfriend-y things) instead of having to cling on to other couples. I am lucky to have nice friends.

I am so sick of it though. Everyone looked nice and I looked like a fat lump. I had a really long cry when I got home, am just so sick of everything being the same all the time and being known as the one who goes to parties on her own and having to have nice people babysit me. I just felt so rubbish and lonely.

After all that I had to go to a party on Saturday, it was much more of a mixed age one, but still full of couples. I had people to talk to but it was just like the night before really, I felt fat, frumpy, old, single, embarrassed, lonely, awkward. I couldn't wait to get away.

To be honest a lot of it was down to how I look, I will never in a million years meet anyone looking like this. I was ashamed and I felt stupid. Any boyfriend would have been ashamed to be seen with me. I must do something. I just feel so low. I have been out to buy some hair magazines today and the diet is on again. I will stick to my 1lb per week target. So I know I can do something, but I just feel so overwhelmed by it, which is a feeling I am trying to avoid.

I will lose weight. I will get a decent haircut. I will wear clothes that fit me. I caught sight of myself in the mirror in the toilet and I could have wept. I don't want to be skinny, I just want to be normal. I know I am rubbish at making an effort, but this is why I avoid it, because I am let down by the way I look and I just feel so embarrassed by myself. Everything is wrong. I am overweight, my clothes don't fit, my face is fat, my hair is awful, awful style and awful condition.

Well, at least it may have given me a kick up the !!!!! in some ways. This week has been a real shock to the system, I have used all my savings, paid a lot of things off and spent 2 days feeling very single and hating everything about myself.

So I am at square one with a lot to do. I need to start looking after myself properly. I need to dress well. I need to eat well. I need to lose weight. I need to sort my hair out. I need to improve my health. I need to stop feeling so low. I need to add to my house savings. I want to meet someone. I want to have a baby. I want a house. I don't even know where to start. Sick to bloody death of struggling with everything. I shall have to make a baby steps plan to avoid getting overwhelmed.

It shouldn't be like this. But it is so I will have to sort it out. And quickly. Because I am not just going to miss the boat here, if I do not get this sorted and soon I am going to miss all the boats. God I hate feeling like this. Spending the weekend confronting how I look and feel has been a very distressing experience. There is so much work to do. I know I have been rambling, I am just blurting it out as it comes.

Buffythedebtslayer

Sarah, although I know what you mean please don't be so tough on your self, I know you are good fun and don't look like the fat freak you describe yourself as!

This week is going to be hard for me at work but after the next fortnight things should ease up and I have my exercise bike and my gym ball (so far handy to dry towels on... with occasional bouncing!) I shall got for two pounds a week once work stops with all the night mare stressy crap.

Why don't we start a proper weight loss programme type thing? weigh in on Weds, log exercise and food here daily? no small font allowed!!!

Look at this great thread YOU started all this people who feel better cos of you. you do great things - you just don't give yourself credit. I know its hard to go out on your own and be the single one - I told my friend about how I was watching the biggest loser and her hubby looked up and said new boyfriend - cos lets face it they normally are........... and it was genuinely a joke but honestly its true I am a loser magnet!!!! and it really doesn't help when everyone is paired up!

good for you for getting all out, ((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))

Summer74_2

Wow Sarah I hope you feel better after getting all of that off your chest!! Like most of us you are being too hard on yourself. I'm slim and relatively attractive and just got dumped for not being a subordinate. I know lots of women who aren't your average size 12 who are happily married and seem to have it totally together. I wonder what they have that I don't. How did they get it right and I seem to be such a bad judge of character. Stupidly I am mourning the loss of a relationship with somebody who has proved he is not the man I thought he was. I am still hopeful that the right man is out there somewhere but he is not going to come and knock on my door (unless he's a postman :-)) You are getting out there and that's what is important. Stop focussing on what you think is wrong with you and get a pen and paper and make a list of your positive points put it on the fridge and make yourself read it everyday.

OMG I'm giving advice and a couple of days ago I wanted to curl up and die....these tablets are really working!!!