I'm back (VERY SCARED) debt free diary

mogchops

((((((((((hugs)))))))))))) Kelie hun. Make sure he phones the doctor. He's just taking the proverbial now. You've got enough to deal with, without him emotionally draining you as well. Please look after yourself, YOU are your number one priority, not him!

Seaxwyn

Hi Kelie, Sorry to hear of the terrible time you're having. I hope that your Dad's funeral goes well and you feel you have given him a good send off. You have a lot on your plate without having to support your boyfriend, help your friend find her dog etc etc. Please make sure you prioritise doing the things YOU need to do (like sorting out your office) before being at everyone else's beck and call.

Dare I ask..... did he phone the doctor?

kelie

He did!!! On speakerphone too so I heard. Plus I dialled the number. His appt is wednesday morning at 9.10am

Had a bad day spending though. Me, mum, sister and niece went shopping for bits for the funeral and I am not even going to post what I bought as I think I might get my wrists slapped. Ok I will . Gulp. I had to get some black tights for tomorrow and I also saw a necklace/ bracelt that actually will mean something. Everyone at the funeral is wearing a splash of red and my sister/ her friends are all really glam. I have nothing really red so this necklace is a red love heart and a silver love heart which is inscribed with 4 lines to do with love being the most powerful emotion. I am however wearing a dress and jacket and shoes I already own so saving money from that angle.

I'm not trying to justify it. I know I shouldn't have. I just wanted something special for dads funeral. I took it to the till and it was less than it said on the tags and I managed to get both for 60 quid.

I guess what doesn't help is shopping with my sister who hasn't got money worries. Mind you I was on my own when I got the jewelery.

OH is drinking. He says tomorrow will be too hard for him (bearing in mind it's my dad and he has known him a year) I feel so tired and haven't done any work. I'm supposed to be delivering my Avon brochures tonight but really don't want to. My mate who lost/found her dog took 2 brochures to her work and has got me £120 worth of orders already!!! Bless her

dawnybabes

((((Hugs)))) for you.

I really feel OH is taking the michael though !

Swinstie73

Hi Kelie,

Just to wanted to offer condolences about your dad, I lost mine at 19 and it does get better with time, he'll always be in your heart!

I agree with the other posters about the bf, relationships should be equal or even a wee bit of you being taken care off, not so much financially but emotionally as well. Sounds like your bf has a drink problem, I had to ask my OH to not drink so much last year as I dreaded going out with him cos he got drunk easily (and is diabetic) and he has cut down drastically - it was either that or it was over for us. He changed because he wanted to be with me, you should give him an ultimatum.

Will look out for updates, and wish you lots of luck with everything x

redstararnie76

Kelie - wishing luck for tomorrow.
Don't beat yourself up about the spending - quite understandable under the circumstances... give OH a kick up the backside though, he should be supporting you through this, not the other way round - drink problem or not.

Mrs_Boo_Boo

Oh love I'm with you all the way. I know others have offered advice but I just want to send you positive vibes and the power of self belief. You have the awareness and that's 99% of solving the problems.If you think of your core its so strong inside. Give yourself time to sort this cos you need to grieve for your Dad. All the best.

kdalwayskint

Hi Kelie

refering to my earlier comment about the SL/Avon, Its going back 2 years ago, I think the start up has changed now, and I think my problem was my marriage brokedown as I started to lose other SL and my sales went down all at the same time, I kept trying to buy stuff to keep my earnings from my team, got in an awful mess and could not see a way out!

I have just ended a relationship as the bloke had started to take the p*ss out of me, and I was just letting it go on, not saying much, feeling a bit low really, but I know I will be ok soon. Just makes me feel like cr*p as I dont have much luck with blokes!

Hope tomorrow goes ok hun (((hugs)))

Kelly

Wordsmith

All the very best for tomorrow, Kelie. You were right to buy something special for your Dad's funeral - it will always be special to you now. Look after yourself and your Mum tomorrow - you are the only two you have to think about - everyone else can look after themselves ... including your b/f. Don't let him turn this into his tragedy. Take the space to grieve, everything else can be tackled later. I will be thinking of you.

rosered1963

Hi Kelie - just read your thread and sending you sympathy for your loss. x