New Noisy Cint Neighbours From Hell

Lakey

How was the night PN. Hope you managed to get some shuteye and have woken up to such a beautiful day outside.
The only good thing about noisy nightbird thugs is that you can get em back early morning playing Sarah Kennedy so loud. That's punishment enough. That'll make em think.
It's really interesting to hear you talk of your aspergers, my son is diagnosed autistic with asperger traits. He finds it so hard to communicate what/how he's feeling etc. So when I read some of your posts it really makes me think. Couldn't you consider starting blog/writing book?
My son doesn't really feel pain either, a couple of years ago he broke both wrists and I didn't realise it until they swelled up like balloons. He couldn't communicate pain.
Like you say PN, unless you wear a T shirt, people are not accepting of any different behaviours. Went through all that stuff when DS was small, tempers, frights in shops etc and people tutting me. Felt like wearing a F*** O** he's autistic T shirt, but didn't have the balls.

SingleSue

Know what you mean Lakey...the amount of times we had people moaning about my youngest son, one even said that children like him shouldn't be in shops where normal people were, that they should have their own special shops where normal people wouldn't have to put up with them.

You can imagine my response (I am no shrinking violet when it comes to that sort of thing) but it is something that happens all the time.

Youngest has ministry of funny noises and movements when he gets stressed , middle one gets aggressive and sometimes violent...the looks we get when out shopping is horrendous and of course, the looks and comments just make the situation worse.

At least now that youngest is older, we don't get the little old ladies patting him on the head and saying how cute he looks...saves the embarrassment now as it used to take a fair bit of explaining that they really shouldn't touch and look at him directly or he will hit out, they always ignored me and were rather eeekkk when he then went for their eyes.

Edit - Ex mother in law though refuses to believe there is anything wrong with either of them. She is all very blase and says middle one should be walking the 2 miles+ to school on his own as he is now 12 years old no matter how many times I explain that he has no road safety and is like a tit in a trance and easily distracted by things around him. He would never get there on time as he has no concept of time! He has also no streets smarts at all, he is very very trusting and would be the one who would go off with the one offering to show him a puppy despite my constant warnings.

With the youngest one, she will still insist on cuddling him without warning and then tells him off when he reacts badly to it...apparently I am to blame for everything.

PasturesNew

Lakey wrote: »

How was the night PN. Hope you managed to get some shuteye and have woken up to such a beautiful day outside.

Yes, no noise after 10:50. Hurrah, it seems they're chavs with an eye on the law ... just moving in exuberance it seems. No visitors so far today, bonus.

Lakey wrote: »

The only good thing about noisy nightbird thugs is that you can get em back early morning playing Sarah Kennedy so loud. That's punishment enough. That'll make em think.

Except I have no noisy systems myself (no stereo) and I can't stand noise at all, even in my own home.

Lakey wrote: »

It's really interesting to hear you talk of your aspergers, my son is diagnosed autistic with asperger traits. He finds it so hard to communicate what/how he's feeling etc. So when I read some of your posts it really makes me think. Couldn't you consider starting blog/writing book?

I could ... and I've thought about it, but you have to be "in the zone" to do it. Being an Aspie it's "all or nothing", so it'd be a 60 hour straight session of doing it, without interruptions. Have to lock in and be obsessional about it. It might happen. I've written a couple of brief articles so far, which need a bit more work.

Lakey wrote: »

My son doesn't really feel pain either, a couple of years ago he broke both wrists and I didn't realise it until they swelled up like balloons. He couldn't communicate pain.
Like you say PN, unless you wear a T shirt, people are not accepting of any different behaviours. Went through all that stuff when DS was small, tempers, frights in shops etc and people tutting me. Felt like wearing a F*** O** he's autistic T shirt, but didn't have the balls.

FO/autistic.

My issue is that there's nobody fighting my corner - and I am unable to fight. It is nobody else's problem, so they don't have to accommodate me, so instead I avoid people/situations/environments - and walk away from things - where I have been or will be misunderstood.

I had a job interview this week and failed on the first question. It was odd, one question and that was it. The rest of the interview (from feedback) went fantastic, but they couldn't get over my very first answer. The first question was something I didn't know the answer to, had never been asked, didn't know what they expected: "How did you prepare for this interview?" - THAT is a very confusing question for an Aspie ... eh? So I told them "I got up, showered and came here ...." at which point I realised this probably wasn't the right answer, so continued as they looked pretty horrified. "Oh, I looked at your website for 5 minutes".

Wrong answer.... after that, even though I was apparently able to do the job standing on my head and clearly had all the skills and experience they needed ... they didn't want me because I'd answered their odd question wrongly.

*shrugs* ... anybody know what the right answer is? I've no idea. Was I supposed to have some practised/lick 4rse slick answer to hand? Nobody's ever asked me that before. There's my CV, ask me questions, I'm good. When do I start? What's all this stupidity about? These random odd questions?

They lost a good worker, I missed out on working with box ticking idiots.

I can't/wouldn't declare I am ASD, people take me as they find me ... if they find some of my responses odd then that's tough. I don't want to be treated as odd "because", I want to be accepted as "odd for some unknown reason, but great with it"

Lakey

It never ceases to amaze me how people get really spooked when a person doesn't "act as normal". What the bloody hell is normal.
I expect you have an extremely high IQ, which usually goes hand in hand with aspergers. I am assuming you are female PN, and from what I know, which is not very much, autism is somehow linked to fragile X syndrome.
Therefore the male contributes either the X or Y to the baby, and the female always gives an X.
So female is XX so if both are fragile, usually more severe symptoms than a male XY, as they only have one X.

How true this is I don't know.

I do constantly worry about my sons future, how will he fit into society when people sneer and don't understand him. He on the other hand thinks everyone is kind and caring and hasn't grasped that lifes a !!!!! yet.

Zelie

Would you want to work for box ticking idiots though? Doesn't sound like a good match.

Q: How did you prepare for this interview?

A: It's more accurate to say that my preparations began when I first considered applying. At that point I found out some information about your company from [your website/media articles/other sources] and used that to help me decided if we'd be a good fit. I think we will because your company is concerned with [subject] and you are looking for a person with skills [A and B]. I am good at [A, B and C] and also have considerable experience in [D].

Then you stop and look at them expectantly. Obviously insert relevant bits where I've put square brackets. This answer shows that you've researched them, you've thought about what they do and who they need, you've thought about whether you match up to that and in which specific ways. And you've also answered the rather inane and pointless question they started from.

PasturesNew wrote:

My issue is that there's nobody fighting my corner - and I am unable to fight. It is nobody else's problem...

That's what the internet is for. There are a heck of a lot of people on this forum (and probably others) who like you for who you are and not for vague social expectations. If you can't work around problems you can ask the Onliners who accept you and won't judge you for not knowing.

PasturesNew

Zelie wrote: »

Would you want to work for box ticking idiots though? Doesn't sound like a good match.

Q: How did you prepare for this interview?

A: It's more accurate to say that my preparations began when I first considered applying. At that point I found out some information about your company from [your website/media articles/other sources] and used that to help me decided if we'd be a good fit. I think we will because your company is concerned with [subject] and you are looking for a person with skills [A and B]. I am good at [A, B and C] and also have considerable experience in [D].

Then you stop and look at them expectantly. Obviously insert relevant bits where I've put square brackets. This answer shows that you've researched them, you've thought about what they do and who they need, you've thought about whether you match up to that and in which specific ways. And you've also answered the rather inane and pointless question they started from.



That's what the internet is for. There are a heck of a lot of people on this forum (and probably others) who like you for who you are and not for vague social expectations. If you can't work around problems you can ask the Onliners who accept you and won't judge you for not knowing.

Ha ha ha - brilliant answer. In 100 years I'd never come up with all that 4rse-licking bullsh1t

I'll have to remember that.



I've worked in IT for over 20 years, used to being asked black/white questions about skills/experience, not being judged on ridiculous and meaningless questions.

This is my attitude to jobhunting/interviews: Look, you have a job advertised, I can do it. You know I can do it or I wouldn't be sat here. You need somebody good, I am good. I need a job, your pay is laughable but I can scrape by on it.... so, when do I start?



It wasn't even a permie job!

Lakey

Dyu know what, going back to the noisy sints, I bet in three months time PN, you'll be bessie mates with them and they will be sharing beers with you in the communal garden by the barbie q!!!:beer:

poppysarah

Interveiws! Pah! horrid things.

I answered most of the questions at one with "I'd follow the official procedure which I am sure I will be shown when I'm doing the job".
Didn't know a thing and still got the job

Am glad they were quiet for you though!

tbs624

PasturesNew wrote: »

I had a job interview this week and failed on the first question. It was odd, one question and that was it. The rest of the interview (from feedback) went fantastic, but they couldn't get over my very first answer. The first question was something I didn't know the answer to, had never been asked, didn't know what they expected: "How did you prepare for this interview?" - THAT is a very confusing question for an Aspie ... eh? ................
*shrugs* ... anybody know what the right answer is? I've no idea. Was I supposed to have some practised/lick 4rse slick answer to hand? Nobody's ever asked me that before. There's my CV, ask me questions, I'm good. When do I start? What's all this stupidity about? These random odd questions?

It's all so much bollox PN. The HR bod has done an expensive course on " interview technique" and has to put it into practice. If they are honest they know its a "game" - if they don't then they are beyond redemption IMO. What this sort of question is supposed to elicit is how you plan for a task, and to play the game you have to show that your planning was first rate, preferably in a way that is so fan-wotsit-tastic that no other candidate can match you;)

My own particular favourite was " if you were an animal, tell us what kind of animal you'd be.." Oh, p- u-lease, one with big teeth & claws that would rip the heads off interviewers who ask such questions. I also can't stand " so, how do you see yourself in 5 years?"

PasturesNew wrote: »

They lost a good worker, I missed out on working with box ticking idiots.

so their loss is greater than yours

Self-employment is clearly the way to go......

Zelie

It always throws them when you reply 'a human being'.

I think they think it means you have no imagination. Au contraire, it means that you are aware of how amazing this particular animal is and want to be the best you can be. Dipstick the lot o' them.