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Would you pay for the child's coat?

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  • amersall
    amersall Posts: 17,035 Forumite
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    when my son was in primary school , they had a dress down day he wanted to wear his new football t shirt, he came home from school with it torn down the front and marks around his neck, the head teacher telephoned me to say another child was shouting nasty things down a queue of children to a boy near the front, someone told him it was my son(and it wasnt as the head got to the bottom of it) and when this boy got my son in the cloakroom he tried to strangle him and ripped his shirt , the head said the boys mother wanted my address so her son could apologise and i said ok, when the mother turned up she had bought my son a new shirt and a bar of choc, she allso made her son apologise to mine, i know this is not the same as op but i just wanted to let you know that there are decent parents out there and i think this woman with the coat is getting her owm back for the previous with op, i would not have asked for a new shirt, definitely an apology, so i think you should do as other posters have suggested and only pay a third ,
  • hundredk
    hundredk Posts: 1,182 Forumite
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    In view of the background, which I agree with other posters is not relevant, it does appear to indicate that the demand is exaggerated and TBH sound like a bit of a claimer.

    I would ask for the specific details of the coat and when it was bought then reaseach how much a coat with similar age and wear and tear would cost. Since there are no witnesses, all parties involved would be deemed equally liable so divide used value by 3. This would probably amount to no more that £5 and would write a letter offering this figure as full and final settlement based on known circumstances and cashing the enclosed cheque is taken as acceptance of this offer.
  • jellyhead
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    If she has a small child who grows slowly like mine she might be expecting the coat to last him another year, or perhaps she bought big so he could wear it next year too.

    I can understand why she's upset if that's the case. I've got 2 boys and one in teeny and can wear the same coat for 2 or 3 years, the other grows fast and needs bigger clothes more often.

    Even so, I've never asked anyone to pay for damaged clothes - my boy is perfectly capable of ripping his clothes while standing still with nobody else in the playground lol!
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  • morganb
    morganb Posts: 1,762 Forumite
    I've been Money Tipped!
    Call her bluff.

    Send her a letter of apology from your son, then you write a note saying that you know of a good dressmaker and you are willing to get the coat repaired and, if she gives it to you, then you can arrange for that to be done pronto.

    Then at least you are paying just for the repairs NOT a replacement coat (£55 is outrageous) and you can shop around for the best price.
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  • jellyhead
    jellyhead Posts: 21,555 Forumite
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    Some of the coats in m and m direct are daft prices, at full price I mean, not the discounted price. Some of the helly hansen children's coats cost 80-100!
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  • geri1965_2
    geri1965_2 Posts: 8,736 Forumite
    What does this mean?

    It means that the poster is a bigot or a racist.
  • rosie-marie
    rosie-marie Posts: 264 Forumite
    Haven't read all post so forgive me if I have repeated anything. But I wouldn't dream of asking for money for damaged clothes. Ridiculous sending a child to school in a £55 coat. My children regularly come home with clothes ripped and stained from play - it just part of having kids! (My son is on his third coat this winter :o ) I think you are right to be a bit cheesed off with this demand. Ignore her. The teachers' heart must sink when they have to deal with these silly complaints. Just my opinion. Good luck .
  • Nicolefury
    Nicolefury Posts: 602 Forumite
    Why criticise the mother for sending the kid to school in an expensive coat? If you've got the money then why not?
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  • MrsE_2
    MrsE_2 Posts: 24,162 Forumite
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    aliasojo wrote: »
    Sorry guys but since there's quite a few comments about the coat cost, I have to come back and say that it's no-one else's business how much this woman spends on her children's clothes. It might not be what you or I would spend but that's beside the point.

    If the coat really cost £55 then that's what it cost. None of us have the right to judge someone else's spending habits when they really aren't the issue here. The issue is damage and potential blame. End of.

    I'm gobsmacked at the number of people saying £55 is a silly amount for a coat & disbelieving that she spent that.

    My DD is 21, but when she was little I bought expensive coats for her, Oilily
    http://www.oililyclothing.co.uk/
    were the most common ones I bought, they were lovely, so pretty & colourful & practical, but they cost £100 to £150, 15 years ago. THAT WAS MY CHOICE TO SPEND THAT, always such good quality they got passed on to relatives kids:D

    So really its up to her how much she spends.

    I think it reasonable to share the (professional) repair costs with the other party involved.
  • shellsuit
    shellsuit Posts: 24,749 Forumite
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    My son had the hood torn almost all the way off his coat last year, which cost £60 (I didn't buy it, his Dad did)

    I just sewed it by hand and that was that, but I would never have asked anyone to help with the cost of a new one, because it wasn't done intentionally, just lads being heavy handed!
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