So Annoyed

finallydebtfree!!

I cant believe they have refused to wear the dresses in the first place!! that would make me so angry! Its YOUR day and YOU have asked them to be YOUR bridesmaids, they should wear whatever you want them to! :mad:

If I was asked to be a bridesmaid (I was as a child and almost as an adult, only the wedding never went ahead) I wouldnt dream of refusing to wear whatever the bride picked! (I may not be happy with the choice, but thats another story!!)

And also to leave it this late is not on, you have every right to be angry at them! I would be. another reason why my bridesmaids if I married will be my friends children (think Im safe enough to say they wont be awkward for at least another 10 years! :rotfl: )

EDIT: and just to add I wouldnt have been kind enough to offer they get there own dress after I had bought the others either!!

*Louise*

ifonlyitwaseasier wrote: »

good luck with your new BM. i'm sure she and your sis will be fantastic!!

read this and it'll cheer you up!!

Currently in the 'Tacky Weddings' section of that link - some great stories there :rotfl:

xJayJayx

kayleigh_b69 wrote: »

Thanks jayjay what date you getting married im 28th May 2011

Hopefully 14th may we're venue hunting at the moment so nothing set in stone

MsChazzer

Weddings can get expensive for guests, but really, they can make life easier for themselves by not arranging the hen night in Prague, especially as you said a night on the town was fine. And it's not like you've given them lots of notice so they can save and try and keep costs down. And the small matter of you already paying for stuff!

Must be very annoying.

floss2

sugared_honey wrote: »

......I had already paid for shoes, dresses and accessories, bridesmaids didn't like fit or style of dresses so bought new ones-(their choice not mine), I asked them to buy dresses that went with the shoes as I couldn't afford to buy more, .........

Maybe you could ask for those items that you have bought to be returned to you, as they won't be needing them?

sugared_honey wrote: »

......thing that made me laugh though, both girls said 'cant wait for next week when we can celebrate in style'!

To this I would just say something like "Oh, I've decided to not bother with my hen night now, I've got too much on trying to find new bridemsaids"

BTW, how come they can afford this, when they can't afford the wedding itself? Sort of shows where their priorities lie.....

DKLS

'Refuse to wear the dress of your choice', Sack them!.
Its their role to wear the most hideous frocks so the bride looks even more stunning, Its the law of weddings.
Its your day, no one else should interfere.

*Louise*

I think they have a cheek still wanting to go along on the hen night!!

grastgirl

Your bridesmaids should have worn the dresses you chose (in consultation with them of course) in the first place, and to book a hen weekend that they can't afford is just plain weird in my opinion. I think you should ask for the unused clothes and accessories back in the hope you can get some money back by selling them on. I think I'd be inclined to say to them that it's more important to you that they're at the wedding than the hen night for obvious reasons, although asking an old friend/younger girls should help you get around the problem if they won't give up the hen night.

P.S. Regarding half terms at unis, lots may have half term/reading weeks, but they don't necessarily correspond with school half terms (having to watch out for this with my ushers) and some courses have them (arts) whereas others don't (sciences), regardless she should have checked her dates in advance. It is possible she has a big piece of work to hand in around then, I had my final year project to hand in the week before exams started, but I'd be surprised if she didn't know about it sooner.

sugared_honey

Well thats the thing that confuses me, I made sure they were involved with stuff every step of the way from choosing dresses, ok'ing shoes etc etc. Thankfully I have the dresses now so can sell on ebay, was going to split the proceeds between them to put towards the dresses they bought but not anymore!
I think if she honestly had a big presentation on the actual day of the wedding (fri 17th) that she would have called me in a panic, not emailed me and not picked up the phone afterwards (I was only calling to see if she knew why the first bridesmaid cancelled before I read her email).

Thanks ifonlyitwaseasier, that site is addictive! Makes me feel alot better about the whole thing!

Get rid of her kayleigh, first sign of trouble...so not worth it!

Update on the prague front, was only 5 of us going in first place, now 3 so a bit sad at that but really looking forward it though, has anyone had any experience? My (lovely) H2b called said bridesmaid who had put herself as first contact for hendo, she said she wont be going as didn't want to upset me, thinks other girl isn't going (I'd be very surprised if she did after reading the reply I sent her via email!) So he asked her to change the first point of contact to me or other bridesmaid, she instead emailed company asking to cancel their two places so have to get on to them tomorrow...joy!

Thanks for all replies, thought I was being a bit of a control freak being upset over this but feel a bit better now!:beer:

Floss

sugared_honey wrote: »

....... she instead emailed company asking to cancel their two places so have to get on to them tomorrow...joy!

Make sure the company know why they have cancelled, so they will lose any money.....

I'm sure you'll enjoy it - Prague is supposed to be a lovely place