So Annoyed

Neeny82

I agree, I actually think that they are wanting you to fork out more money for them if I'm honest! Not worth the effort at all! Friends pah!!!!!

xJayJayx

thats why i am glad the friends i had are no longer my friends, i'd rather have lost them now than them let me down at such an important time. When it comes to such importance you know who your real friends are! You're lucky you have a sister to be a bridesmaid i don't so i'd be lost!

Kirri

I probably would tell them not to bother coming to Prague! Obviously things can be really tricky if others can't afford things as there are always other things they probably feel they need to pay out for, but maybe your sis could let them know how upset and let down you feel and after all it's about the wedding day that you wanted friends around you not just the hen do!

Although you've already found another friend to stand in, an alternative might be some younger members of the family as kids wouldn't think twice about being asked later on.

andyrules

Well, even though it's a long time ago, I've been BM 2x as an adult and neither dress would have been my choice (in fact one was quite hideous), however, they were the choice of the bride and it was an honour to be there as BM. What is wrong with people now? BMs are meant to take the stress off the bride and ensure everything goes smoothly, not create such enormous difficulty! How selfish they sound.

Personally, I couldn't be the same with these 'friends' again.

JemJam

I agree with everyone here they're well out of order, you dont take on a bridesmaid role without knowing what'a involved, its nice to be asked but i never understand people who think they're obliged to be a bridesmaid and i also don't get some people who think that the Bridal party should pay for literally everything?? Dress/shoes/accessories okay thats fair enough but for example my future sister in law wants to pay for my hotel room for an extra 2 nights before her wedding but i said hell no i'm paying cos they're getting enough for me as it is, also my best mate is trying to insist she pays for my flights over for her wedding next year but again i said no way (though she is putting up a fight lol).

Being asked to be a bridesmaid isn't as frivolous a decision as some people think it is I reckon, and if people cant take on the responsibility (espesh after the OP paid for everything they needed they just decided to change it all at their own expense?!) then they should find a polite way to say thanks but no thanks at the start not at the end!!

I'd never dream of getting a new bridesmaid dress i think thats a tad too cheeky, its not my wedding after all!

ifonlyitwaseasier

good luck with your new BM. i'm sure she and your sis will be fantastic!!

read this and it'll cheer you up!!

princess83

sal-ad_daze wrote: »

I agree with the girls, you've done more than enough to accommodate them - and it was their choice to buy alternative dresses which IMO was a bit of a cheek after you'd paid for everything!
I'm sure there are a few girls going to Prague next week so you should be able to avoid spending time with just them, and I'm sure your lovely sister will keep them away from you!
Enjoy your wedding with the people you have around you, you know they're the ones that care.

btw not sticking up for her but Uni's don't close for half terms, that's why they have longer end of term hols! I do wonder about the importance of the work though because exam period has just finished and results just given out so am surprised that such an important piece of work is due so soon!

lots of uni's do have half terms, mine did as did many of my friends.

I also think its really out of order what your so called friends did, a similar thing happened to my friend at her wedding her friend was meant to do a reading and this was all sorted out a year before then about 2 weeks before she said she couldnt afford to come even though the hotel room and everything was booked,another friend even offered a lift in her car! my friend no longer speaks to this person.

I'm sure someone else would jump at the chance to be your bridesmaid, and I totally agree with what others have said that by being bridesmaid you wear what the bride chooses and wants not what you want,some people are so rude

kayleigh_b69

I really feel for you - for my wedding i was just gonna have one BM (my sister) an my nephew as page boy.Long story short i changed my mind and decided to have another 4 BM's all of whom are cousins. even thou i dont get married for 2 years one of my BM's is really upsetting me tellin me what she will and wont wear how she wants her hair doing an what type of shoes are best for her.

TBH im at the point of telling her to do one as im really gettin upset by her comments

xJayJayx

i'd tell her to bloody do one!
How dare she tell you what she wants! Its your wedding and you have what you flamin well like!!

kayleigh_b69

Thanks jayjay what date you getting married im 28th May 2011