Weekly Flylady Thread 2nd March 2009

mumoffour77

elly2 wrote: »

Tuesday twinkles! - Living room, hall and stairs! All done

My half an hour was a bath(child and cat free:j for the first time in what seems like months). Have to say i am not really looking forward to tomorrows list i hate going in the lo's bedrooms phoebe no longer has a wardrobe in her room because she has no room left for one) but will put my van morisson cd on very loud and get on with it .

He wrote a song about a beach just around the corner from me!!!!:):D

toottifrootti

jamtart6 wrote: »

thanks for the welcomes toots has just formally welcomed me, and having read the posts here, you all sound lovely and crazy (as in what the heck is a binbag dance?! :rotfl:im off to re-read post 1), just what I like :j:rotfl: Anyway, don't live in my own house yet, so many of things on the list may need to be scrubbed off until I move in to my new house later this year, but I figure I have to start somewhere. (Task #1 may be "clear desk so I can see the wood again! :rotfl:)

hi again jamtart glad you have decided to join us - binbag dance - put on some good music - grab a bin bag and run around like crazy and try to fill it!!! and then dump in in the wheelie!

Since you are at home for now - you can always practice on your Mum's rooms she might not mind you helping out:rotfl: :rotfl: the more good routines you get into now will make life in your own house so much easier. Stick with us - we will sort you out:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :eek:
tootsxx

nicki_2

List update ready for Friday (not going to end up flying much until then)...

Wed: Placement
Thur : Placement ASSESSMENT PM, TMA DUE in by 11.59 - aim for 11.30!
Fri : Timesheet in for the final time :j
Sat : DD wants to go out....
Sun : Ex here taking DD out for the day.

Studying:

• NVQ :
  • Unit 1 - Knowledge x 1/ statement for 1.2.8 & 1.3.2
  • Unit 2 - Knowledge x 2 / Statements 2.1, 2.2, 2.3, 2.4
  • Unit 3 - Knowledge x 17 / statements x 9ish
  • Unit 4 - Knowledge x 9 Statements pending assessment next week
  • Unit 5 - Knowledge x 13 Statements pending assessment next week.
  • Unit 9 - Knowledge x 10 / Statements 9.1.1, 9.2
  • Anything I can't get statements for I need to make a list of so I can go in, do the thing and then get a statement for it
• OU :
  • TMA
    • Q2
    • Q3
    • Q4
  • Block 4 part reading - Health (then I'll be fully up to date )

Mondays are Marvellous!! - kitchen
Level One
mop the floor

Tuesday twinkles! - Living room, hall and stairs!
Level One
Spend half an hour doing something for yourself! .. make yourself a hair appointment or something!
Level Two
Wash windows
dust and deweb!.. don't forget furry skirtings!
Level three
Vacuum right the way up the stairs!
HHI

My M.A.C.A.W challenge this week is.............. To spend an hour winding down before bed... from 9pm! Except Fri / Sat when I'll stay up until 11ish

HAHAHAHA I am so not getting anywhere fast. I need to go and do some work now on my uni stuff. My kitchen looks like a bomb has gone off in it but I'm past caring. I need to get stuff done. :wave:

ZCC72

mumoffour77 wrote: »

how do you tactfully tell someone that you cant do anymore for them???? Physically or mentally!!!
im going to go mad!! ..I want to cut off all ties. how do I do this in a nice way, so that I dont hurt the little girl?? I really cant cope with this!!!

She sounds like a "toxic" friend, and I feel for your situation. I "had it out" with a friend of mine whilst we were on holiday together. She too kept on leaving her children with me - not even asking, just disappearing! She asked me for help as to why they were out of control. After one solid week of this, I caved in and told her. I was concerned at her levels of stress due to lack of discipline, as I care for her very much. We didn't speak for 6 months. She subsequently phoned and apologised for putting me through it, and we are slowly getting back on track, but things will never be the same again.

I completely sympathise with your difficulty, loyalty to the whole family, your friend and the children. However, the situation appears to be of her making, but she has made the problem yours, not hers, which seems very unfair. You really must take care of yourself too. Unfortunately, how you choose to handle it, only you can decide.

Big hugs and kind thoughts.....

jamtart6

toottifrootti wrote: »

hi again jamtart glad you have decided to join us - binbag dance - put on some good music - grab a bin bag and run around like crazy and try to fill it!!! and then dump in in the wheelie!

Since you are at home for now - you can always practice on your Mum's rooms she might not mind you helping out:rotfl: :rotfl: the more good routines you get into now will make life in your own house so much easier. Stick with us - we will sort you out:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :eek:
tootsxx

:TThanks Toots, my mommy is the ultimate flylady. The house is perfect. The bane of HER life is my room!! God help me when I have more than one room to sort out! ye gods! Looking forward to it :rotfl:

Mumoffour77 - a great friend of mine was dumped, then everything she used to take out on her poor OH, got taken out on me. At first I put it down to her being upset etc. but 8 months later (it was a 12 month relationship!!) she was still being absolutely awful to me, I didn't want to pick up the phone when she called, nor see her as I got to the stage where I couldn't cope with the remarks (because my life was going OK, it was my fault that she had to pay council tax :rolleyes:, my fault she moved to a different part of the country (she got a job there because she loves it there !) and basically everytime I went round, anything I said or did I just got sniped at.) I just snapped basically and decided enough was enough and if I never saw her again it would be too soon. Haven't spoken to her in almost 15 months and I don't miss it at all. I'm usually the first to try and sort out niggles with friends, as I believe in 'lifes too short' but this person was unreasonable, and life was too short for me to be answering her toxic phonecalls and putting up with her abusivness! Best thing I ever did! :T Bin the toxic friend!

edit: just realised there is a kiddie involved too, and re-read your post properly. i agree with the others, say you dont want to know about it. dont think the little girl will notice too much if you dont have her over as often?

rosepink1984

mumoffour77 wrote: »

how do you tactfully tell someone that you cant do anymore for them???? Physically or mentally!!!
im going to go mad!!!
I feel so put upon!!
Friend, always asking could i pick up her DD from school, no prob, but to leave the child who is 11 at home on her own until 5 I cannot do!!, so i usually take her to my house, get her h/w done ect....now im getting calls at 8am greeting me with you lazy bi**h are you only up?? listen I need a favour can you lift my DD and take her to school!!! firstly im in shock I know i am!! But this is a child, who is the youngest of 3!! Then im in tech and phone calls and texts are coming through asking can i keep a secret!!!! the 'friend' is having an affair......I really cannot cope with this, I dont want to know anything about it, it causes too many problems as I know all 3 children and their dad.......Some people can just be so bloody wreckless with their kids lives:( ................................................I want to cut off all ties. how do I do this in a nice way, so that I dont hurt the little girl?? I really cant cope with this!!!

I know a woman who is completely toxic (in other ways not the way your one is) but I care very much for her children who in my opinion need the input of a slightly more stable person than their mum is! I've moved out of the same town now, so I write cheery letters to the kids and invite them over to my house (they are coming on Sunday I hope if thier mum doesn't pull out) but I try to keep my relationship with the mum as friendly but neutral as poss.

I think you should talk to her, say you don't want to know about her personal life and if she imposes it upon you anymore you will feel obliged to speak to her OH. Explain that you are happy to look after the girl (if you are) on Monday, Wednesday and Friday (or something) after school only, not before school and on the other days and before school she needs to make her own childcare arrangements. Then try to limit contact with her as much as poss, only getting in touch when it relates to the daughter.

Big hugs to Soappie and everyone else

Just been on to catch up, but going to bed shortly. Night all

gunsandbanjos

^^^^^ What she said.^^^^^^

Have a big hug MO477, some people have no idea the impact of their actions on other people.

polkadot

Sneaks in to see who is about :shhh:

Hello everyone

I've had a bit of a moment to myself at the moment so I thought I'd pop in and see how you all are. Sounds like alot of interesting things going on-and new faces too.
Mumoffour my heart goes out to you. I had a "toxic friend" earlier on in the year(you may remember),and I have to agree with ZCC-you need to look after yourself first. So sending good vibes your way until...
Nicki looks like your studying is going very well.
And I HAD to say hi to Toots
I've lost track of how many of you have been on FB recently so I thought I'd let you know that I have set up a blog ( a website is also in the making). I've saved the address in my profile and all my cakes have been finding their way there (as has my to do list recently). I thought it only right since they wouldn't be there but for you. I am now looking into an EH certificate(which is tricky as Im renting) and I have also just sent in tax registration forms-all thanks to the flyladies:)

philb120

Wow- it's amazing what goes on around here ! Hugs to all that need them.

Haven't done so well today- took and collected the kids from school, completed the mystery shop and baked the rolls and bread. I even managed to join the group on facebook ! lol

I have started decluttering the lounge but nowhere near finished ! Will have to do lots more tomorrow and catch up.

toottifrootti

philb120 wrote: »

Will have to do lots more tomorrow and catch up.

you certainly will - we have standards you know:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

polkadot hello and its good to hear everything is progressing for you honey - take care xx

had a late tea/supper - couldnt think what to have:rolleyes:
have tidied up the kitchen afterwards
WM x1 ready to go in the morning or maybe later tonight
ironing all sorted ready to do
shopping list started

toots xx