My daughters school went bust today.

treliac

I don't do dogma either.

The fierce protection of our young, it's human nature (although not for all sadly). And I'm with you 100% on the 'Do as you would be done by.'

So it's all decided then.

treliac

SingleSue wrote: »

my children would be out of the state sector like a shot....just for the extra chances/wider education you get in life from doing so.

I don't think that's necessarily true. My two went / go to a very good state school. I went to an excellent state school which I believe was ahead, in many respects, of the private school my sister attended.

It's not a straightforward decision. There are pros and cons to both. Ultimately, it comes down to the merits of each individual school and how it serves the needs of each pupil.

SingleSue

Agreed, maybe I am basing it too much on the fee paying schools available around here where the choices for sport and the chance to take exams earlier and in a slightly wider subject choice is available.

As I said, my middle and youngest son are at excellent schools at the moment but my eldest son is at not such a good school (didn't realise until middle son went to high school, just how poor eldest's is). This is all going to change during their education as the schools are merging into one big school, which I fear is going to be at the detriment to them.

I also can't deny it, I am a snob at heart....I have middle class values whilst being stuck in the scum class.

beaujolais-nouveau

SingleSue wrote: »

Personally I think the offer of going to Roedean is too much of a chance to pass up.

I'd like to second this.

Fc123, if you were thinking of moving your base back to London (from some of your posts, you seem to be from/know about Blackheath and environs), I wouldn't. I have lived in both Brighton and London, and it is far nastier here in SE3/SE7/SE10 than in Brighton.

I went to an independent girls' school, and you will find - I think - that not everyone at Roedean has wealthy and sophisticated parents. My parents were not wealthy or sophisticated, and I suffered quite a bit - as children do - from not being able to have new clothes to show off after every holiday and half-term, from not having my birthday cake sent down from Harrods, from not having a big house with swimming pool and ponies to take my friends home to. But I learned social graces that work well in any walk of life - and which I do not see among the TT state school students on the 108 bus at 4.00pm - the experience has served me very well in life.

Go for it. :-)

Lakelady_2

What a fabulous opportunity for your DD - though sad about her previous school.
I hope it goes well for you all.

Generali

Rodean gets my vote, especially as she'll already have a lot of mates there. If a 'them and us' mentality develops then she'll have an 'us' to be part of too.

Great opportunity as well.

Don't worry about the Lady xxx-ski thing. Nice people don't care and those that do are best avoided IME.

robnye

Doozergirl wrote: »

For one year? I know what I'd do.

same here, for no extra cost on your part, but an improved service/education etc on your daughters part, plus 11 others can move over with her........

go for it,

dandy-candy

Go for Roedean! I grew up in a similar situation - my mum sent my sister and I to a private girls school and my brother was sent to Rugby. She really couldn't afford to send us to any of these and remortgaged the house to buy herself fancy clothes and a Lotus so she could pull up looking flash at the parents evening - other Rugby parents were arriving in helicopters! Funny thing is our house was a dump - this was the 80's and we still had all the furniture from 1960, stained carpets, holes in the sofa arms she used to balance magazines on and a stinky old dog that looked like a matted carpet walking around. That said, it didn't matter because the parents never came to visit - they all lived in stately homes up north, and the kids that came to stay were generally so excited to be escaping their dull parents and tearing up London that they couldn't care less!

Optimist

I would go for Roedean but what does your daughter think ?

Pobby

I agree. What would your daughter like to do? I think at her age she should have some idea where she would like to carry on her education. A bit of a family chat would make sure her choice is for the right reasons.

fc123, am I right your Brighton branch is in " The Lanes "? I had a pal trading with 2 shops there, now sadly closed. Told me that on a £400k a year turnover it didn`t make a lot of money.