The Thrifty Gifty Girls 2009 (Organised & Money Neutral for All Occasions) #3

mum2one

bunbun2 wrote: »

scattymam go get a test:rotfl: [strike]we[/strike] you need to know!!
as i said before I remember when I last felt so tired all I wanted to do was sleep - that was 8 years ago and before I knew I was pregnant!

Hurry up and get this test........thou u might of done by the time I read the rest!!!
B4 I had the little blue stick, I went off Indian food and cider, was very worrying.......... then the ble line went blue!! I did 4 tests......... x

mum2one

SugarSpun wrote: »

What's the story with qype? Does anyone get anything if they refer me, or do I just go and sign up?

If anyone wants to refer and gets something from it, drop me a PM. I'm interested in all these vouchers you all seem to be getting.

Been on qype 2day and theres no special offers on.... x

Shelley3774

Rusty I agree with Jamtart and Marg I would give a token gift like Marg said and then it won't be thrown in your face. Very difficult situation to be in though

RustyFlange

Welcome to the [strike]mad house[/strike] loveliest thread on the forum Marg :j :j love the equals stories

Thanks Shelley, Jammy and Marg ... it is a difficult one but like you have all said I think I will just do her a frame and give her the card I made. Then it is up to OH if he drops it round or not. least I have made the effort.

Well I sold 2 things on ebay last night (both buy it nows) and have one counter offer pending with the other person, Not bad for an evening of staring at the PC. OH is out from under my feet today as he has a couple of days work with his mate which is good cause I can get on with scrapbook pages and tidying up with DD. DS starts school early this morning as he has Yoga at school :j
I [strike] want[/strike] need to get in the garage and find all of the kids toys which were boxed up for the bootsale and think about getting pictures of them to list on ebay. I have decided I just want them gone, then OH has no excuses not to get started moving out of the office so DD can have her winnie the pooh bedroom for her birthday (part of her pressy as she is too young to understand)

Shelley still thinking of you xxx you know where I am if you need a natter

Aurora, thinking of you, hope your angels are working their magic and that the garden is helping xxx

hels102

Good Morning everyone
Another sunny day here in Wales! Well the plan for today is drop DS to nursery back home to have a tidy up, do some washing and ironing, then shopping with DS this afternoon!
Rusty I don't think she desverves the gorgeous frames you've made but I agree with Marg about keeping the peace.

orchid-96

Hi all

Rusty, I agree with the keeping the peace thing, I totally agree with you about it being unfair to treat one child differently to her 'blood' granchild, I think as a mummy we just hate to see our children being treated unfairly.. What I would say though, is that she probably doesn't think she is doing anything wrong, sometimes people just have a different way of seeing things (I can't think how though as its bloomin obvious really)..so I think do what you planned then I am sure your oh will be pleased to give what you have made to her and if she doesn't appreciate it, that's her problem and not yours...

Aurora nice to hear you are feeling a bit more yourself chick x

Catch you all later x

RustyFlange

DD has been playing out in the garden this morning giving me some much needed time to catch up with washing etc, I have all the doors in the house flung open and the windows :rotfl: Nets are down and been bleached and now on a hotwash!

So I also managed to get these 2 done, meaning 1 more to go but have to post 2 of them today to my mom and S/mom.
I decided to do away with the writing and change some of the pictures around a little

pinkladymel

Sounds like you are in good spirits rusty Keep it up and enjoy life again xx Sounds like you knew how to make yourself and your family happy yesterday and I hope this continues for you x The frames are looking good. I know this doesn't help but you can look at your situation in two ways. Is it better just to keep the peace.. two wrongs don't make a right and the children may want to make the decision once they are older on whether to get rid of their gran or not. If you do everything right and never cross her then any arguments in the future will be won by you because you have no faults and she has plenty.

OR

You can decide that life really is too short. Making frames, writing about her on forums, thinking about her at night.. it all takes time that you could be using to do something different. Is she worth it? Do you want to bother with her anymore. Having people like this that traipse in and out of your life can cause a lot of negative energy and that is not good when you are trying to build a happier life.

I would probably tell my partner how I was feeling, in the same words as your post.. and ask him what he thinks you should do and that you would respect his opinion because he is all that matters.

pinkladymel

Just to let you all know spring time cardmaking is on QVC today if you want to steal some ideas 2-4pm channel 740 on virgin and I think 640 on Sky.

RustyFlange

pinkladymel wrote: »

Sounds like you are in good spirits rusty Keep it up and enjoy life again xx Sounds like you knew how to make yourself and your family happy yesterday and I hope this continues for you x The frames are looking good. I know this doesn't help but you can look at your situation in two ways. Is it better just to keep the peace.. two wrongs don't make a right and the children may want to make the decision once they are older on whether to get rid of their gran or not. If you do everything right and never cross her then any arguments in the future will be won by you because you have no faults and she has plenty.

OR

You can decide that life really is too short. Making frames, writing about her on forums, thinking about her at night.. it all takes time that you could be using to do something different. Is she worth it? Do you want to bother with her anymore. Having people like this that traipse in and out of your life can cause a lot of negative energy and that is not good when you are trying to build a happier life.

I would probably tell my partner how I was feeling, in the same words as your post.. and ask him what he thinks you should do and that you would respect his opinion because he is all that matters.

Thanks Mel, I will do the frame and wrap it up and then leave the decision with OH. I am pretty sure he could quite happily not bother with her. He knows how I feel about her and he knows I am mad that she missed DS's birthday. I am pretty sure she may well forget DD's birthday although he doesn't seem to think so. The ball can be left in his court. DD doesn't know who she is as she is too young. DS rarely mentions her but when he does it is generally to ask when granny sheila is going to take them both on the day trip she promised them agggges ago (almost a year!) so I figure he will get used to it aswell. I am just happy that out of both of our familys the kids have 1 set of grandparents who make the most effort (his dad and stepmum) Its harder for my parents to do so, especially with dad and S/mum in bulgaria, but my real mum is always too busy :rolleyes:

I realise how dysfunctional our family sounds :rotfl: Ah well I guess most family are similar