Depression Support Thread

beachbeth

I can't thank you enough for going to so much trouble, Tiff. It would be such a relief if my tribunal was cancelled - Ive been so upset and stressed about all this. Obviously I won't bank on this happening.

Im really glad I have an organisation behind me (Welfare Rights) and, although I haven't actually spoken to them they have sent me many letters explaining whats happening and have given me the name of the person representing me. Its reassuring knowing there are people on your side.

Im going to see my doctor again this week because of how tearful Ive been lately. I don't know if he needs to increase my meds but I will see what he says.

You really are so kind to try and help me and Ive been in tears reading your post to me - the benefits people have this way of making you feel like a benefits cheat whether you are or not and when people such as yourself show such understanding about it all it makes me realise that I am right to take this to a tribunal.

You are right too about wishing I could work. I always felt I was setting a bad example to my daughters by staying at home and I know if I worked we would pay our mortgage off in no time at all and also be able to afford a nice new car etc. I wish I was like most people and could go out and earn money. If they stop my IB I will still be staying at home trying to get better but we will just be worse off.

(By the way, Ive copied and pasted your post and saved it on my pc. There has been so much post deleting going on lately I was worried it would disappear before I had followed your links!)

absolutebounder

maytaurus wrote: »

Most people associate depression with periods of feeling down or sadness, and in large part that is true. Early signs of depression will certainly include feelings of extreme sadness and guilt, as well as crying for no apparent reason. Many people experience these feelings in response to a specific event or situation in their lives, butdepression is different.
With depression, you cannot usually pinpoint a cause for the way you are feeling
Another sign of depression is anxiety. Anxiety is usually associated with feeling jumpy or nervous. Normal anxiety is often caused by a certain event or circumstance as well, butwhen it accompanies depression , often there is no cause you can think of. The fact that you cannot figure out why you are so anxious makes you even more anxious, and this feeds thedepression.
Another early warning sign of depression shows up as an overall lack of interest. This includes food, sex, and anything else that you previously enjoyed. You loose interest in social aspects of your life as well. You don't feel like talking to or seeing even your closest friends and family.

Nice description though mine differs slightly. We think in 2 ways concious and unconcious and when you cant put your finger on the cause you are most likely in unconcious mode however I dont agree that you dont always know the cause. I think some know the cause but for one reason or another cant escape the cause.
I define depression as " a chronic inability to cope with an environment". That might be work, bullying, home life, marriage, grief, etc, etc Now some people know what the environment is but cant escape it. Others dont know conciously the cause but your unconcious mind does. Change someones environment and they change dont believe me look at LMs post from before and after she met sam.
It is this same unconcious mind that puts up the front for others to say nothing is wrong when it is and in the case of a couple of people here who feel unloved it stops other people getting to know and love the true you because it is fake and no one really loves fake things because they are shallow. The true you is always a wealth of intrigue to someone else and no matter how bad you think you are you will always be more genuine and loveable than your mask.

shazrobo

welcome to the thread crap with money.com
a chronic inability to cope with an environment, this describes my depression exactly. i know why i am depressed, i look after my 2 teenage sons, both with severe behviour and learning disabilities.
beachbeth, dont feel guilty about being at home all day and worrying about what example your setting the girls. my boys now that they are older, dont see me as setting them a bad example, instead they see me as a brill mum, who is always there for them whenever they are home from school, and that counts for a lot. good luck with your claim for IB, hope it goes well, cant give any advice i'm on income support

hugs all

shaz xxx

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Hope all is well.RBK lots of special *hugs* for you.welcome crapwithmoney.com to the thread.I am going to watch one of my new films today if I get time,got to catch up with Home and Away later as well as I have it on Bt Vision.

Have a lovely day everyone


love and light,

Katie xxx

beachbeth

Crap_with_money.com wrote: »

Thanks Maytaurus. I guess maybe it's not depression as such, since I know the cause! I'd never really had any problems until my dad passed away, but since there's been so many times I just feel as though I'm struggling to keep my head above water. I just never expected that grief would hit me in such a physical way! It's as though it's tainted every relationship in my life, and every thought that goes through my head!

I know on the surface, that although I'm dealing with a big loss in my life, in general things are pretty good for me. But I could still burst into tears at any given second, I'm constantly tired, regardless of how much sleep I get, I'd happily stay in my bed every day for the forseeable future, and some days it just feels as though I'm at war with the world! Although I do have a few good friends in my life, as well as a lovely boyfriend, I still feel so isolated all the time - and as though no one even really cares enough to try and understand!

It's hard, and really frustrating - I'm generally a pretty practical person, and it drives me mad that I can't find a practical solution that's gonna make me feel better! I

From how you describe yourself I would say you are suffering from depression. Doesn't matter if you know the cause or not. Now Im not a qualified doctor and am not attempting to diagnose you over the internet but your symptoms do point to depression. Please go to your doctor and talk to him/her and they will tell you if you are and if you need medication or other help.

As AB said, depression is an inability to cope with an environment and this means you will be tearful or anxious and also have physical symptoms. Your own doctor can discuss it with you and it can really help talking it through with a health professional.

Best wishes whatever you decide and I hope you are soon feeling better.

mezer3000

having a really bad day, struggling not to do something stupid
might just drink the day away, wanna forget everything that has ever happened and is happening to me at the minute

beachbeth

Sorry you are having a bad time, Mezer. Try to pamper yourself when you feel this way, whether its chocolate, bubble bath, footy or a film on tv. A drink is ok as long as you don't have too much. Look after yourself and offload on here if you feel able to. Hugs.:grouphug:

Sugar_Coated_Owl

What a bad night. My arm aches. One cut is deep and more than likely needs stitching. I think I'll try to use those steri-strips and see if that helps. It's hard to do it with only one hand. Slept for 12 hours. Not sure if it was because of the pain or tiredness.

Thanks for your support, it means a lot.

Sorry I'm not replying to individual posts right now. I will try to later on.

smallpackages

am staying in bed today. forced myself to do things round house yesterday that were long overdue, took my mind off things and reasoned that i may as well cause i couldnt have felt more miserable. am just so tired all the time! i feel ive just ran out of whatever it is that keeps you tryin an now am just going through the motions. bit scared of what happens next though as i know this cant carry on forever

smallpackages

razorbladekisses wrote: »

What a bad night. My arm aches. One cut is deep and more than likely needs stitching. I think I'll try to use those steri-strips and see if that helps. It's hard to do it with only one hand. Slept for 12 hours. Not sure if it was because of the pain or tiredness.

Thanks for your support, it means a lot.

Sorry I'm not replying to individual posts right now. I will try to later on.

i am so sorry you feel so desperate. dont let them do it to you. things will change i promise. things always change .