Depression Support Thread

beachbeth

I like your description of depression, RacyRed. Thats exactly it.

My own depression would come on with no warning. I can remember being at work, quite content with nothing particular to worry about and nothing stressful happening and I suddenly realised I had been feeling low for a couple of days and was finding that everything I had to do in a day was overwhelming me and I didn't feel like I could do it. There was no rhyme or reason for it and I ended up off sick. I can remember thinking "how many more times will I end up like this"

I only worked part time, 3 mornings a week but stayed at home on sick pay until that ran out and then applied for Incapacity Benefit (this takes over from sickpay) and was eligible for that. It was such a relief not having to try to go out to work to bring money into the house.

skint,single mum of 4, please discuss your medication with your doctor. When I was first prescribed with antidepressants I found the side effects horrible and stopped taking them. When I went back to the docs he said "they will make you feel worse for a while and give you side effects. But you have to stick with them because they will kick in after a couple of weeks and you will feel better". He was completely right. I stuck with them despite the effects and was so glad I had once I started to feel better.

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

I had a nice sleep this afternoon as I was tired,I didnt do the bathroom or kitchen will save that for when I feel less tired.Welcome Small Packages to the thread


love and light,

Katie xxx

npsmama

RacyRed wrote: »

Ahhh, Honey, so you’re travelling with me on the Hammersmith and City line….

What am I on about? Well, on the London Underground some of the lines are partly on the surface and partly underground. Sometimes you travel through light and are in sunshine, trees and flowers, other times it is bare, deep tunnel walls with no light to be seen at either end. I think of my depression as being like travelling on one of those lines.

Like any journey it has stops and starts and can feel as if you have no control over it, even if you are the driver! Sometimes I reach and get to stop for a while at one of my favourites, can feel the sun, see the trees and smell the flowers, I love those stops. Sometimes the train stops in the deepest part of a tunnel. It is dark and miserable and all I want to do is get off permanently at one of the dark, dismal stations. But if I get off the train there then I won’t see the next station, which might be one of the good ones.

Your medical team are the train staff and your medication is the fare you pay. Some tickets work better than others, if the one you have is taking you through too much of the miserable bit of the line, ask the staff for another ticket.

Please don’t ever forget that this really is a journey and you are travelling along, even if it doesn’t feel like it some times. There really are better stops just a little further along the line. It took me a long time to believe it myself, but thanks to the train staff, I eventually found out for myself that it was true. You will too.

xxx

Can't type long now as my 3yo is desperate to watch Thomas the Tank online but just wanted to say that that's the best description of depression I've ever heard.
It's also the most encouraging thing I've read for ages.
Heck, I'm going to print it out and keep it handy!!

npsmama

Racy red, I'm nominating your post for post of the month!

LadyMorticia

I'm ill.
Like really ill. My head feels like it's on fire, my head is all fuzzy, I've had nausea, a horrible sore throat, a blocked nose etc. Eurgh!
Sam has had it so I most likely caught it from him..

I feel like death.

And now all this talk of meat, is making me crave some...and I'm vegetarian.

LadyMorticia

Tiff wrote: »

Hi lm!
Good to hear from you angel!
How are the ribs doing hun? I hope the move went well for you on Caturday and that the weather didn't hamper things too much - I was thinking of you.

Good luck to you both angel.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Heya Tiff.

The move went well, thank you.
Although, I wish I didn't have to be ill my first week here. :rotfl:
The ribs are better thank you. I can now move without them hurting.:rotfl:

How are you doing, lovely?

xx

RacyRed

I'm just glad if it has helped. Thinking about the nice stations further down the line really gets me through the tougher times.

Sssssss, what you said about reading made me chuckle. I didn't think the conversation below was funny at the time, but eventually I could see the funny side.

When I was first properly diagnosed with depression my doctor wanted to know what I'd been doing to keep going, you know what I mean, I'm sure.

Conversation went something like this.

Doc: Do you have an escape when things get really bad? Something that helps you to cope?
Me (in very uncommunicative fashion because I was bawling my eyes out at the time): Yes
Doc: What is it?
Me (Blows nose and mutters something incomprehensible): buu..
Doc: Do you find that having a drink helps?
Me: Eh? No...
Doc: Are you using drugs of some sort?
Me: No...... yes.... chocolate.
Doc: Just chocolate? nothing else?
Me: Yeah, buu..
Doc? Sorry I missed that, can you try to say it again please?
Me (becoming irrational because I felt I was admiting to something I shouldn't be doing) YES! BOOKS! I have a book a day habit OK! I need my books, they are the only place I'm safe!

Doc looked very relieved and said "I'm sure we can help you"

And she did.

hearts

My thoughts are with you xxxx
Remember life can change in an instant. I always found this inspirational. Good fortune to you.
DESIDERATA

[SIZE=+1]Go placidly amid the noise and the haste, [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]and remember what peace there may be in silence. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]As far as possible, without surrender, [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]be on good terms with all persons. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]Speak your truth quietly and clearly; [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]and listen to others, [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]even to the dull and the ignorant; [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]they too have their story. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]Avoid loud and aggressive persons; [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]they are vexatious to the spirit. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]If you compare yourself with others, [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]you may become vain or bitter, [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]Keep interested in your own career, however humble; [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]Exercise caution in your business affairs, [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]for the world is full of trickery. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]many persons strive for high ideals, [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]and everywhere life is full of heroism. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]Neither be cynical about love, [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment, [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]it is as perennial as the grass. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]Take kindly the counsel of the years, [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]gracefully surrendering the things of youth. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]Beyond a wholesome discipline, [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]be gentle with yourself. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]You are a child of the universe [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]no less than the trees and the stars; [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]you have a right to be here. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]And whether or not it is clear to you, [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]Therefore be at peace with God, [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]whatever you conceive Him to be. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]And whatever your labors and aspirations, [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]in the noisy confusion of life, [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]keep peace in your soul. [/SIZE]

[SIZE=+1]With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]it is still a beautiful world. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.[/SIZE]

-- written by Max Ehrmann in the 1920s --

skint,single_mum_of_4

RacyRed wrote: »

Ahhh, Honey, so you’re travelling with me on the Hammersmith and City line….

What am I on about? Well, on the London Underground some of the lines are partly on the surface and partly underground. Sometimes you travel through light and are in sunshine, trees and flowers, other times it is bare, deep tunnel walls with no light to be seen at either end. I think of my depression as being like travelling on one of those lines.

Like any journey it has stops and starts and can feel as if you have no control over it, even if you are the driver! Sometimes I reach and get to stop for a while at one of my favourites, can feel the sun, see the trees and smell the flowers, I love those stops. Sometimes the train stops in the deepest part of a tunnel. It is dark and miserable and all I want to do is get off permanently at one of the dark, dismal stations. But if I get off the train there then I won’t see the next station, which might be one of the good ones.

Your medical team are the train staff and your medication is the fare you pay. Some tickets work better than others, if the one you have is taking you through too much of the miserable bit of the line, ask the staff for another ticket.

Please don’t ever forget that this really is a journey and you are travelling along, even if it doesn’t feel like it some times. There really are better stops just a little further along the line. It took me a long time to believe it myself, but thanks to the train staff, I eventually found out for myself that it was true. You will too.

xxx

I agree,
beautiful words and so very true x x

shazrobo

hi smallpackages, and welcome to the thread, josh was so shocked that his best mate had turned against him in such a way, but he is a very forgivign lad, and has already told me, he will still be mates with other lad, if other lad wants to.

had fun in town, got both lads hair cut, managed to get them both some trainers to fit in tk maxx (size 15 :eek: ) bought myself some lovely shoes too, as i needed a treat too lol. went for chinese, which was gorgeous, boys loved it too.

sorry to hear your poorly anni, hope you feel better soon

la cara, have you heard about the job yet, i'm keeping my fingers crossed for you

hugs all
shaz xxx