The revenge of the stripey socks - a DFW adventure

Uniscots97

fayjmck wrote: »

We have all low energy bulbs and we have an energy owl - to be honest bills gone up dramatically since the bandb person arrived - he sits playing xbox with his heater plugged in on full - its really annoying. - so i changed his heater for a halogen one that Andan recommended. SO that has helped. - Make sure your lodger is paying for what he uses. Even ask that he doesn't leave things on standby as its a fire risk (don't mention cost)

Its a big house -

Lodger b and b chap is great but the increase in my food spend ( I have to make breakfast and 2/3 course meal at night) makes it so much extra on the food, I find I am spending more cos I am feeding a bloke really I guess. Thats why I am undecided about the extra income of it. Food has crept up etc - theres loads of good traditional recipes on the OS board that cost pennies to make. It might bring food costs down a bit. Even post a question over there.

I could always move upto the attic and rent out my room too - we have two upstairs rooms with sinks, prob is its an old house - only one bathroom - and with the kids etc I have to be really careful who i get into the house. - up to you if you found someone you could trust it might be an option.

Great ideas though.
Clothes are almost always from charity shops
Pressies I am going to look at that site ta - xx
Mobile - 2 contracts one is nearly up - ones brand new - I go away alot for work and am out in the field alot so I need a contract phone I think ?!

- why not check out all the mobile sites and compare them all, check signal coverage too. You don't need to stay contract.


Just a few more ideas

Uniscots97

fayjmck wrote: »

I had a hideous time with ex - went to csa eventually and because he had left us and moved into the evil ones house (whilst her poor ex husband was on his way back from clearing mines in Cambodia (I kid you not) ) So poor bloke arrived back onto the island to try and sort things out, my hubby in his house, with his wife, driving HIS car.

Anyway csa awarded me £5.11 for each kid - cos he was the man - he was seemingly responsible for the kids in the house before his own ones

One parent families scotland were my salvation, they helped me out. BUT of course when he moved to France - they can't enforce it. After he moved in with her he quit his job and worked for her for nothing - so no income - like I tell myself - daddy is a bit silly sometimes.

Its so bloody blood boiling cos she was a vet, sold the practise and they are now retired in france running a farm/campsite.

I have a nice OH now - he suffers cos of my lack of trust - poor thing, but he's really reliable.

sorry for the rants xx

rant away, its what we're here for. Its cathartic.

Pippilongstocking

ta unix - think i read some of this before its hilarious!! and brilliant

PM me your address and I will post the book, will do it through work for free (shh - I work at the local uni so there are always books going back and forth)

Lodger chaps bill get paid by college, and to be honest he is pretty good and switches things off - for a 17 year old I think thats pretty good, he just uses alot of electric when he is in - I have had to just take it off the rate they pay me.

will check out the other stuff - ta v much xx

Pippilongstocking

KK - I dont know if it gets any easier (my ten year anniversary next sat night) but I know you get more self reliant and resiliant - nowadays I think - why not I will give it a go. Its how we have had so many adventures I guess - having been down at the bottom I am slowly forming a cunning plan to somehow sort things out for us three. I feel very sorry for ex's they don't get what they are missing.

Its scary as a bag of snakes with migranes on a very very slippy slope - but somehow or other we all get there don't we?

My life is mostly held together with bits of string and selotape.

(nowadays I buy the selotape on BOGOF through quidco and get my string from freecycle or the beach - see chaps I am learning)

Pippilongstocking

OliveOyl wrote: »

I think marrying in the garden, maybe near a willow tree would be lovely :happylove

As for charity shop etc, one of those eco journalists wrote once that one of THE best things we could buy that would be green, would be a needle and cotton for mending our clothes. We are SO wasteful about clothes, chucking stuff that is perfectly useful & wearable. So charity shops are very helpful in making this country more ecological, and Primark is the opposite end of ecological-ness. (not that I'm above shopping in Primark ahem )

I think you are right Olive - ta for that.
Thankfully kids aren't use to shops or labels or anything like that - I like life up here its got it all if you want it, (shops etc) but its not 'in your face'.

Tesco's arriving here was so contraversial - they only arrived about 8 months ago. We dont have many chain shops at all (only Boots, Tesco, Lidl Co-op and Ed woolen mill) the rest are local peedie businesses - its ace. For everything else tere is the internet - but you can 'get' most things locally.

DD currently clearing out her too small stuff to hand on the a pals wee girl.

I hope (probably a bit silly here) that the ethics they have here keeps with them and they don't turn into rabbid consumers.

When you off seeing Popeye? Soon isnt it.

hampsterpoo

Hello

just wanted to say I wanted to read your diary when I found out you'd started one, :j :j but didnt have time until today , :rolleyes:

Now I have laughed a lot:j ,



:eek: :eek: but and now scared of both you :eek: (freezers) :eek:
and
Piq :eek: (whips, although never say never ...:rotfl: :rotfl: :A .).

Uniscots97

fayjmck wrote: »

KK - I dont know if it gets any easier (my ten year anniversary next sat night)

I celebrated mine by writing a list of why I was glad to be rid of him, then had a big bowl of my favourite ice cream (baileys a flavour he hated) and watched one of my favourite films (he hated any of the films I liked).

Pippilongstocking

Hamster promise not to freeze you. ta for stopping by!!!!! sorry Hampsterpoo

Thinking up things to do next weekend to not get all glum and silly.

Kittikins

I get more irritated on my "wedding anniversary" than the date he left - we were together just under (literally by weeks) 10 years, but married less than a year (again missed the 'paper' anniversary by about 6 weeks)....although last year it came and went without me noticing, I think I remembered a couple of days later

I'm SOOOOOOOO over him, in fact when I get sad and miserable about being on my own/failed relationships etc, I feel sad about a relationship I had 18months ago which I thought was going to lead to marriage/more babies etc than I do about my exhusband, lol. All I want from exOH is his money for DD. He knows I wouldn't pee in his ear if his brain was on fire, lol

I think you should have a party next weekend, to celebrate who are you are now, the journey you've taken and your 10 years of freedom with your funky kids; a mega sleepover for the kids and a few friends over for you - make some bunting, put up balloons, if anyone asks it's a party "just because" (so as not to offend your children's feelings about their dad), and mucho vino and nibbles

MrsAudus2b

:grouphug: Lots of hugs for Fay this morning after reading horrible ex stories - silly stupid man and silly stupid vet woman.

I'm with kittikins - have a party next weekend :T
Love
xxx