MONEY MORAL DILEMMA. Would you pay for no-show?

awehla

tara747 wrote: »

Are you kidding? Weddings cost a fortune to attend these days!!!!!!!! :mad:

I agree you may not have to pay to attend the wedding but there's transport, clothes (because most of us don't have wedding outfits on standby), wedding present, hotel for the night if the location requires it, and probably other little things I haven't thought about. I've got all this to look forward to when I'm a bridesmaid next year.

lottie-girl

ferf1223 wrote: »

I would pay the difference because I wouldn't want my friends to get stuck with paying it, but I agree that it's not the most ideal way to have organized the event. as far as the idea that hosts should always pay for their own guests, some people don't have the means to do so and if the guests accepted the invitations knowing that £40/head would be required then I don't see the problem.



hear, hear. I don't mind splitting a bill equally if there's not alcohol involved as the differences between what people order are usually minimal...but I don't drink much and never drink wine and neither does my husband...the times we've ended up paying vastly more than our share due to multiple bottles of wine being consumed by our fellow diners means we usually decline the invitation anymore...not once has anyone said 'oh, hey, you guys didn't have any wine so you should chip in less'...in a lot of cases the wine which we did not drink has effectively doubled our 'share' of the meal...and that's a bit ridiculous.

I went out for a meal with friends once who all drank and i didn't (took my own water). To my shock they split the bill equally and instead of speaking up at the time i just paid it - then had to go home and explain to hubby!! I was totally amazed the next day though when 2 of the girls offered me some money back as they had realized they had drunk and i hadn't. Well chuffed.
I wouldn't put myself in that position again though - its easier not to go out.

Bex1

No way, if the restaurant want to charge that they should be taking a deposit of that much on booking!!! And the friends should pay definatly if they dont turn up!!:mad:

juliapenguin

It's a crazy situation - I would NEVER ask my friends to pay to such a lot of money for a dinner to celebrate MY anniversary - if I couldn't afford to foot the bill, I'd do something simpler. I would hate to embarrass friends who were hard up, and a situation like this is just asking for trouble...

worbikeman

£40 a head! I couldn't have stretched to that in the first place, and would have declined on that basis.
Why not just all go for a curry or summit, then those who turn up can split the bill between them.

MJay

Yes, I would pay so my FRIENDS were not stuck and 'cos I'd hate all that embarrassing hassel....... But I'd want to know who didn't turn up and will they don't owe us money back if they said "Yes" in the first place..........

I would have several thoughts before accepting an invite to such a costly 'Do' in the first place................

Originally Posted by udlsechica

I'm not much of a drinker, so I inevitably end up subsidizing other people's drinks when I go out in the UK. It's incredibly frustrating because if my husband and I went out alone, eating out would be affordable. I know it is expected that people split the bill and pay for rounds here, but I just wish that others would consider that some people can't afford to subsidize their expensive habits.

When I eat with friends and some aren't drinking, it is taken for granted that the meal cost will be shared but the drinkers will sort the booze costs out between them.... That way no one feels they are being cheated.

rogthedodge_3

The orhanisers should have taken deposits to cover the entire liability of possible no-shows, and explained the consequences of no-shows to everyone. If they didn't, then they are liable to pay, since the contract is between them and the restaurant. Tough luck. Next time be more organised.

scarlet-pimpernel

My son had a similar real life problem. He booked a hotel and meal for university ball for a set number and didn't quite sell all the tickets. He and friends insisted on sharing out the food they had paid for amongst those with the biggest appetites. Hotel was going to serve less food for the same price.

Need_a_break

udlsechica wrote: »

This kind of thing drives me nuts - I would never hold a party and expect my friends to cough up money to pay for it. The host should always pay for the party. Maybe some of the friends didn't show because they didn't have the money for 40 GBP a head and felt bad about it. Especially for a couple, 80 GBP is a lot to pay for a night out! I'd prefer to give a gift to the hosts.

The other thing is that where I grew up (mid-Atlantic in the US) we always pay for what we eat at restaurants. So when the bill comes, we pass it around and calculate what we each individually owe. I think that is the most fair way to pay for a bill.

I'm not much of a drinker, so I inevitably end up subsidizing other people's drinks when I go out in the UK. It's incredibly frustrating because if my husband and I went out alone, eating out would be affordable. I know it is expected that people split the bill and pay for rounds here, but I just wish that others would consider that some people can't afford to subsidize their expensive habits.

I completely agree with you, i dont drink and usually end up paying for other peoples alcohol etc. Also my family / friends allways pay for what they order, as some people like steak which tends to cost a lot more compared to those that are vegitarian and so again i end up paying for someone to have an expensive piece of meat while i have pasta (by the way am not veggie, just dont eat meat out of the house), not fair i say.

115vaw

Why do people expect us to split bills? No one splits their salary!