Financial faux pas and other disasterous decisions

Lula-Hula

Moo - Just Dance is great fun, get it from Amazon though as I only paid about £16 for mine

Intergalactic_Floozie

I paid full price for mine (Xmas Eve panic buy) and don't think I've played on it since then!!! (It is a laugh though)

moo2moo

Ended up going to collect the DDs in the end. COuldn't face the idea of leaving their grandparents to return them in the eveing and hoping that the roads weren't too badly frozen by then. Spent seven hours doing what would normally be a four hour round trip. Completely shattered this morning but not as shattered as OH who insisted on doing all the driving. Stuffed another £50 of fuel in the boys toy which is currently only half full. Still it dealt with the snowy hills v. well. unlike a lot of the cars we passed. Came close to running over an imbicile who was attempting to hitch a lift from the inside lane of a merging motorway sliproad by physically standing in the road so that people had to swerve to avoid him. There wouldn't have been much left if we'd have hit him at 70.

Think I'd have preferred to clean the house though. As it is I still have that to do although probably not today as its OHs last day off shift and DD1 has been up most of the night with earache.

moo2moo

Days to payday: lots
Money in purse : £5
Money in emergency jam jar: £0.03
Money in bank: £341.60
Money spent in February: £1388.24
Money remaining of this months portion of the live on £20K challenge : £278.76
Part used smellies used up and disposed of: 15
Gift vouchers for X-mas 2010 and all the birthdays in between: £60.00

In therory we have £278.76 remaining from Februarys budget to stretch to another six days however it turns out that that is almost exactly what the dentist predicted OHs root canal treatment and multiple fillings will cost. Life never seems to go according to plan.

Intergalactic_Floozie

moo2moo wrote: »

Days to payday: lots
Money in purse : £5
Money in emergency jam jar: £0.03
Money in bank: £341.60
Money spent in February: £1388.24
Money remaining of this months portion of the live on £20K challenge : £278.76
Part used smellies used up and disposed of: 15
Gift vouchers for X-mas 2010 and all the birthdays in between: £60.00

In therory we have £278.76 remaining from Februarys budget to stretch to another six days however it turns out that that is almost exactly what the dentist predicted OHs root canal treatment and multiple fillings will cost. Life never seems to go according to plan.

Wow - £278 left to last six days is a brilliant feat. OK, so its going to be spent on the dentist but at least you're only going to be a bit overdrawn this month!!!!

moo2moo

Only a bit overdrawn..... until I remembered that I had yet to collect my car from the garage. £194 and a few pence later I am mobile again in a considerably less thirsty car. Meant I was beyond exhausted when I finally got home at 7:30 last night. Not entirely convinced I'm over the stomach bug that hit over the weekend.

Had left over roast potatoes with baked beans and cheese for dinner. Too hungry to care what I ate. OH was in an odd mood. The sort of odd mood that makes you want to be elsewhere and so I washed up and mopped the kitchen floor before collapsing in a heap with a mediocre book by Candice B who wrote original Sex and the City. Should have at least atempted the ironing but by that stage in the evening my mojo had departed.

Fridge is looking rather barren. Full of condiments and cheese and not a lot else. Will need to shop at some point as theres only so long that the DDs will tolerate jam sandwiches in their lunch boxes.

moo2moo

Days to payday: 20 (thank crunchie Febs a very short month)
Money in purse : £20 (reimbursed expenses from work)
Money in emergency jam jar: Home to a few moths
Money in bank: £447.87 (with £191.26 of cheques written which have yet to clear)
Money spent in February: £1582.84
Money remaining of this months portion of the live on £20K challenge : £84.16
Part used smellies used up and disposed of: 15
Gift vouchers for X-mas 2010 and all the birthdays in between: £60.00

moo2moo

Have spent three hours decluttering like a mad thing. Turns out telling a bunch of female teachers that you've found mouse droppings in their store cupoboard is a most excellent way of getting them to chuck out thier dross. Disposing of last nights corpse wasn't quite so much fun, especially as I could have sworn its tailed moved despite it having a visibly broken neck and being rigid with rigor mortis.

Need to find as much enthusiasm to clear out random unwanted stuff in this place. The constant mess is really getting to me at the mo. There seems to be stuff everywhere and very little of it is mine. As fast as I clear out the dross from one room another three seem to transform into an even worse mess. For the rest of the week I'm going to make a point of leaving work no later that 10am and returning after 2:30pm which allowing 30 minutes for lunch should mean I spend 4 hours each day cleaning. If that doesn't make a hole in the mess then nothing will.

So plans for today:

• Blitz the kitchen (the most irritating room in the house and the one thats easiest to transform)
• The upstairs bathroom (washing the dozen or so wet towels will improve things immediately)
• The dining room (v. little furniture but an awful lot of tat)

Time to get off my bum cos sitting here feeling irritated that the place is a shoite hole isn't improving things any.

moo2moo

Have reached the conclusion its a waste of time trying to do anything positive about life as its never good enough to please some people. Sick to death of being told that I haven't done this or this or this. Its almost as if what I have done is irrelevant and I've been wasting my time. Seem to be arguing about everything again. Its not good for any of us. Back to square one again.

I've been reading the AA website which is less help than a chocolate tea pot. Apparently I should just sit back and let him get on with it whilst ignoring the abuse and whatever random behaviour goes on, apparently its called detatchment "... we discover that no situation is really hopeless, and that it is possible for us to find contentment, and even happiness, whether the alcoholic is still drinking or not." These people should try living in my shoes. How the hell are the family of a walking time bomb supposed to be happy if they don't know whats going to trigger the next outburst? Reading the blurb apparently as a concerned spouse I'm the cause of the problem because I've become "just as obsessed" and if I can just leave him too it then all the following wonderful things will suddenly happen:

The Al-Anon program teaches us to "put the focus on ourselves" and not on the alcoholic, or anyone else. If we put the focus on ourselves, we will no longer be in the position to:

• Suffer because of the actions and reaction of others.

• Allow us to be used or abused by others.

• Do for others what they could do for themselves.

• Manipulate situations so others will eat, sleep, get up, pay bills and not drink.

• Cover up for anyone's mistakes or misdeeds.

• Create a crisis.

• Prevent a crisis if it is the natural course of events.

So in a warped nutshell if I completely ignore the vino disappearing down his throat faster than most peope can consume Coca Cola and in greater quantity then life will miraculously become tolerable. Wonder at what stage I pick up the pieces or even if there will be any pieces left to pick up.

What a depressing start to the day.

mooomin

moo2moo wrote: »

The Al-Anon program teaches us to "put the focus on ourselves" and not on the alcoholic, or anyone else. If we put the focus on ourselves, we will no longer be in the position to:

• Suffer because of the actions and reaction of others.

• Allow us to be used or abused by others.

• Do for others what they could do for themselves.

• Manipulate situations so others will eat, sleep, get up, pay bills and not drink.

• Cover up for anyone's mistakes or misdeeds.

• Create a crisis.

• Prevent a crisis if it is the natural course of events.

So in a warped nutshell if I completely ignore the vino disappearing down his throat faster than most peope can consume Coca Cola and in greater quantity then life will miraculously become tolerable. Wonder at what stage I pick up the pieces or even if there will be any pieces left to pick up.

What a depressing start to the day.

That to me sounds like utter b0ll0cks.

I don't know enough about the situation to offer advice, but will happily offer any support you need. PM me if there is ANYTHING that I can do.

*hug*