Advice needed re. incident this morning

Magpie.

First of all aplogies for the long post but I could really do with some impartial advice on this one….. I’m not sure which board I should have put this on.

I split from my daughters father last year and we have no contact with him. It wasn’t very amicable, he walked out one day and never came back leaving me with no explanation as to why. He doesn’t want to see our little one or send any money to help for her. Just washed his hands and walked away.

Anyway, this morning I had an incident with 3 of his colleagues in a company van….. large luton type van.

I had just been in a local shop and as I was about to drive off this van pulled alongside me. As I pulled away, rather than go into the shop, which is what I can only assume they intended to do before they saw me, they followed me onto the motorway.

Once I was on the motorway they drove behind me a hair's breadth from my back bumper for some distance, before overtaking me closely and then pulling in front of me and putting the brakes on, slowing to virtually no speed whatsoever.

I had my mum in the car with me, although thankfully I had dropped the baby at nursery so she wasn't in the back of the car, but the driver wasn't to know this. The whole thing was very intimidating not to mention dangerous.

I don’t feel I deserve to be subject to dangerous and intimidating behaviour from his colleagues especially when I have passengers or even possibly a child in the car. I’m not sure what they thought they were going to achieve by almost causing an accident, even without the baby in the car what would happen to her if anything happened to me.

I’ve tried to contact my ex to give him the chance to have a word with them but his phone doesn’t connect.

My mum wants me to report this to his employer but I’m worried of backlash.

I feel so angry and upset at the same time.

Do you think I would be overreacting to report it to the employer? Should I just forget it?

Krystaltips

Report it to the employer! This is intimidation and you don't deserve it.

NAR

Report it to the police - this was dangerous driving. Give them as much detail as you can regarding location, time, details of vehicles etc as the incident might have been picked up on CCTV.

sleepymy

Is it possible he's told everyone in work that you cheated on him or something? To explain why he left?

MissMotivation

Errr...forget about reporting to the Company, get on the phone to the Police....this is in the least Dangerous Driving/Harassment.

What a load of idiots.....I hope they feel proud of themselves for intimidating a Woman? I'm fuming for you!

Did you get Registration Number? Do you know the names of the people in the Van? Good job that your Mum was there as a witness too!

spirit

The others here are right, report it, no question. Whatever has happened between you and your ex is none of their business.

kazmc

Definitely ring the police.
Isnt it amazing the capacity someone can have in your life to hurt you?
Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

wes_cov

mans point of view report it to the police if nothing else it will get back to your ex

Just because you split up with someone doesn't mean you want them ran off the road. Is this the sort of immature behavior your ex would condone?

Magpie.

Thanks all.

I know the names of 2 of the 3, I couldn't make out the face of the third, and I have the registration number.

I have no doubt he's told them something other than the truth so maybe thats why, even so what they did this morning was a bit extreme.

My gut feeling was to report it to but worried about backlash, I know its the only thing to do though really.

They shouldn't even be getting involved.

whitewing

I agree with report it to the police.

Let us know how you get on.

mrcow

I would report it too the police.....for the record if nothing else. Let them make the decision as to what the best move is. Do you have the reg number?