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(Land_of)_Maz

daphne_descends wrote: »

Don't get me started... I only feel genuine hatred for one person in this world, my father.

More doom and gloom - I have laryngitis and am signed off work for a week

Aww babes.... you'll get some sick pay won't you? SMP after so many days...?

think of it as time to recharge your batteries........

daphne_descends

(Land_of)_Maz wrote: »

Aww babes.... you'll get some sick pay won't you? SMP after so many days...?

think of it as time to recharge your batteries........

Actually I am quite lucky, I will get full pay :eek: that compensates for the wages being !!!! in the first place :rolleyes:

It is just very hard to try and play with Elliot/entertain/communicate with/stop from hurting himself etc... if it's acute laryngitis then I might start to recover by Monday but if it's chronic we are talking 3 weeks :eek: I wonder if OH is secretly pleased I can't argue back...?!

Maz, how's the car?

Snaggles

Well, I've sent D an email (can't ring cos he's working) explaining how I feel about having some kind of weird half-relationship with him, and basically saying if he's not ready for a relationship then all I can offer is friendship. I also told him I couldn't meet him for a while at least and that maybe our conversations should be much more platonic from now on.

So I guess it depends how he reacts to that - if he reacts well then I would love to be friends and see what happens. If he reacts badly, or doesn't respect what I've said then I know I have to walk away.

Snaggles

Eeek, sorry to hear about the laryngitis DD, hope it does start to improve in the next couple of days. xxx

immoral_angeluk

Snaggles wrote: »

Well, I've sent D an email (can't ring cos he's working) explaining how I feel about having some kind of weird half-relationship with him, and basically saying if he's not ready for a relationship then all I can offer is friendship. I also told him I couldn't meet him for a while at least and that maybe our conversations should be much more platonic from now on.

So I guess it depends how he reacts to that - if he reacts well then I would love to be friends and see what happens. If he reacts badly, or doesn't respect what I've said then I know I have to walk away.

god that sounds soooooo similar to what I've just gone though.
:grouphug:

Lucifa73

Snaggles wrote: »

Well, I've sent D an email (can't ring cos he's working) explaining how I feel about having some kind of weird half-relationship with him, and basically saying if he's not ready for a relationship then all I can offer is friendship. I also told him I couldn't meet him for a while at least and that maybe our conversations should be much more platonic from now on.

So I guess it depends how he reacts to that - if he reacts well then I would love to be friends and see what happens. If he reacts badly, or doesn't respect what I've said then I know I have to walk away.

Sounds like a reasonable way forward Snags. Hope he reacts well;)

My Mum & Dad were always struggling for cash but wenever doubted that they loved us. It was sexual abuse from my Mum's boss at the age of 4 that really messed me up for a long time. I had suppressed it but when I was assaulted at in freshers week it brought it all back and I had a LOT of issues that caused me to fail uni. Going to Switzerland and having to rely on myself 100% probably saved me from doing a lot of damage to myself...

Snaggles

God Luc that's awful :grouphug:

It's amazing what people go through and still come out the other side as decent human beings.

(Land_of)_Maz

Lucifa73 wrote: »

Sounds like a reasonable way forward Snags. Hope he reacts well;)

My Mum & Dad were always struggling for cash but wenever doubted that they loved us. It was sexual abuse from my Mum's boss at the age of 4 that really messed me up for a long time. I had suppressed it but when I was assaulted at in freshers week it brought it all back and I had a LOT of issues that caused me to fail uni. Going to Switzerland and having to rely on myself 100% probably saved me from doing a lot of damage to myself...

:eek: :eek: but you seem very matter of fact about it now.. which is good....

(Land_of)_Maz

daphne_descends wrote: »

Actually I am quite lucky, I will get full pay :eek: that compensates for the wages being !!!! in the first place :rolleyes:

It is just very hard to try and play with Elliot/entertain/communicate with/stop from hurting himself etc... if it's acute laryngitis then I might start to recover by Monday but if it's chronic we are talking 3 weeks :eek: I wonder if OH is secretly pleased I can't argue back...?!

Maz, how's the car?

full pay is good, i'm glad to hear it! i was sure you said you didn't get sick pay, must've been someone else...

the car is nice, big roomy and faster than you might think.. so happy with it.

cat4772

I have mostly positive memories of my childhood. I certainly remember my visiting my cousins during the miners strike 25 years ago and being aware that they were living a hand-to-mouth existent especially towards the end when everyone was living in credit. It sounds horrid but I remember being glad my dad didn't work in the coal industry.

My mum was often ill and hospitalised with her diabetes. My brother and sister seemed to have a childhood that definitely lasted 13 years mine seemed to end when I was 9 and i would regularly become the mother figure. I guess this explains why I hate housework and can only sporadically bring myself to do anything in the house.

Having said all this, my parents were often very quick to anger/ lose their temper and often hit us in temper. Being the eldest I'd be punished often even when it was my brother or sister that had done the wrong thing and I know it scares me when I feel my temper starting to fray, but I'm pretty good at taking a deep breath and counting to twenty (or a hundred )