Black Dog of Depression - can we help each other?

LameWolf

Tulip wrote: »

:hello: Lamewolf,

We do have a depression thread on the site as I am part of it and there are so many friendly people,do join as you will feel most welcomed.

Katie

Thank you Katie, I am aware, but TBH I feel decidedly uncomfortable speaking about my issues with people who don't also have the "physical" side of disability, as I am not sure that I would be very readily understood. (I hope I've put that in a way that makes sense).

LameWolf

Guapa1 wrote: »

Hi all,
I'm here to join in too. I'm feeling really down today. I was in a work related incident a year ago now and I'm still off work and in a lot of pain. I've had to move out of my flat because I couldn't afford to keep it and back in the box room at my mums. I know I'm lucky to have that option, but I moved out when I was 16 for a reason.
My mum has never been a 'mummy' mum, and I used to run the house as well as go to school and I had enough. She has her own issues which manifests in hoarding. The place is a mess and is just neglected. I've managed to make my space liveable, but it can get me down.
Add to that the fact my company has reneged on everything they've promised and have stopped paying for my physical and mental therapies. I don't feel like the same person anymore.

Guapal, I'm so sorry to hear of this.... Is there a union at your work that you could turn to for help? I only ask, because that's what my first husband did when he had an industrial accident, and they were very good.

I'm not knowledgeable in this area (the incident I referred to was back in 1983) but welcome, anyway. I think most of us here can probably relate to the "not feeling like the same person anymore" thing.

Seven-day-weekend I hope your husband's Black Dog is behaving itself today.

TaBunny Oh dear - bummer! I don't think anyone's job is "safe" these days. Hang in there m'dear. I imagine you'll be in the dentists chair as I type this, so I hope it's going OK and you won't feel too rotten afterwards.

Sorry for not quoting everyone - I haven't got the hang of doing multiple quotes.

TaBunny

Hi all hope everyone's doing OK. The dentist stuff weren't as bad as I thought and it only took half hour so now I'm all numb for the rest of the day.

LW: I totally agree with you re the depression thread thing, I get exactly what you're saying re the having the physical pain too, it normally is that we're depressed due to pain which is an organic cause rather than a mental trauma, well I'm rambling but yes this is the first forum I've felt at ease talking about the depression I get due to pain.

Hugs to Seven Day and Guapal and everyone else hoping you're all having a much better day than of late.

LameWolf

I'm glad your visit to the Fang Farrier is over with TaBunny. Take it easy for the rest of the day while you recover from the anaesthetic (sp?).

tattoed_bum

hi can i pop in and join you ?i have had depression for 7 yrs but i also have nerve damage to my neck ,back ,hips and feet and on a lot of painkillers like most of you i have good days and bad days ,
i am also the main carer for my little boy who is deaf and partially sighted (i do have a hubby but he works long hours by the time he gets home it's my boys bedtime ).
to be honest today so far has just been a carp day,
i am sore from head to toe the pain killers and tens machine are doing nothing and i feel so low i could cry.
my son has come home today from school and his legs are all bruised he wont tell me why but one of the other mums said that a few of the other boys have been running up to him and kicking him and running away,
some kids can be so cruel ,when he first started wearing his new glasses at school one of the kids actually pulled them of his face and broke them .
Now his teacher is complaining because she has to wear the loop system in class (he goes to mainstream school) it's irratating her her ear .
i just dont know what to do .
i'm in such a mess just now i know that i will end up a blubbering mess at the school tomorrow when i go to see the head teacher.
I dont want the school to know how sore i am or how depressed i am . Incase they think i'm an unfit mum.
i'm sorry i'm wingeing but sometimes i just wish i could go to sleep and not wake up till someone else has sorted it

LameWolf

Hi tattoed bum, you're very welcome to join in.

Sorry to hear of all the problems with your little'un's school; sounds awful. I don't have any direct experience here, as I never had children, but I do sincerely hope you can get something sorted out. After all, your lad is as entitled to an education as anyone else. Also, stress doesn't do anything to alleviate your pain levels, as I'm sure you're well aware.

Gotta run now, Mr LW is on his way home, and I haven't even begun to think about tonight's dins yet.:eek:

Guapa1

LameWolf wrote: »

Guapal, I'm so sorry to hear of this.... Is there a union at your work that you could turn to for help? I only ask, because that's what my first husband did when he had an industrial accident, and they were very good.

I'm not knowledgeable in this area (the incident I referred to was back in 1983) but welcome, anyway. I think most of us here can probably relate to the "not feeling like the same person anymore" thing.

Yes my union are on the case, but what they had promised wasn't part of my contract it was a 'nicety' so they could take it back anytime, even if it's in writing. :mad:

TattooedBum, I'm so sorry to hear of your trouble. Not much I can do, but thinking of you and the little one and hope you both have a better day tomorrow.

mel_mel

Hi everybody
I have just been reading about you all and I feel so fed up and depressed. I have COPD which many don't see as a physical disability as I have one head two arms two legs, but is one of those disabilities that people don't seem to recognise as it is hidden. There is a lot said about disability and the way you cope with it, but sometimes you do feel alone. I look at UK Patient forum and join in with discussion and read these forums, but sometimes it becomes unbearable. Trying to do things that you could always do, having to think everytime you want to do something (i.e. will I be able to do it.) I lost my sister in August 2008 with Cancer and Copd and I feel that she gave up (she also lost her son to suicide in 2006) which was horrendous, she was never the same. Then to be told she had cancer of the throat. Her words not mine "What is the point" She lost her fight and couldn't regain it. I feel the same in one way. I have 2 daughters and 2 grandsons and I'd hate them to be put through the same pain that I have been put through. My mum and dad moved to be up north where they are from in Dec 1986. My Dad died in June 1988. My Mum died in July 1992. My sister died in August 2008. I feel so alone that a part of my life has gone. As for my daughters and grandsons, I feel that they are going to go through the same as me and it is unbearable to know they are going to feel the same pain as me. I try to be as cheery as I can but it is so hard, most of the time I cannot sleep with worry. But also it is the feeling of total frustration and annoyance that I feel. Thank you to anybody that read this and Good luck Good Health and Good Life.:A

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Hi folks

really sorry to do this to everyone

but i'm feeling really upset today and I just want to cry, but I can't even be bothered to do that.. I know it's partly fibro and part depression. But today i am so weighed under by stuff; big debts, bt restricted my phone line, being bullied by someone at college, feeling achey and in pain, nervous of putting the heat on too high (yep I know what I said b4). I don't even have any credit on my mobile so I can't call my counsellor. i know you've all been there. I know other people have much bigger problems, but today I just want a break from all the [EMAIL="!!!!"]!!!![/EMAIL]. When will something nice to happen for me?

Maybe I should shut up moaning and count my blessings

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mel_mel wrote: »

Hi everybody
I have just been reading about you all and I feel so fed up and depressed. I have COPD which many don't see as a physical disability as I have one head two arms two legs, but is one of those disabilities that people don't seem to recognise as it is hidden. There is a lot said about disability and the way you cope with it, but sometimes you do feel alone. I look at UK Patient forum and join in with discussion and read these forums, but sometimes it becomes unbearable. Trying to do things that you could always do, having to think everytime you want to do something (i.e. will I be able to do it.) I lost my sister in August 2008 with Cancer and Copd and I feel that she gave up (she also lost her son to suicide in 2006) which was horrendous, she was never the same. Then to be told she had cancer of the throat. Her words not mine "What is the point" She lost her fight and couldn't regain it. I feel the same in one way. I have 2 daughters and 2 grandsons and I'd hate them to be put through the same pain that I have been put through. My mum and dad moved to be up north where they are from in Dec 1986. My Dad died in June 1988. My Mum died in July 1992. My sister died in August 2008. I feel so alone that a part of my life has gone. As for my daughters and grandsons, I feel that they are going to go through the same as me and it is unbearable to know they are going to feel the same pain as me. I try to be as cheery as I can but it is so hard, most of the time I cannot sleep with worry. But also it is the feeling of total frustration and annoyance that I feel. Thank you to anybody that read this and Good luck Good Health and Good Life.:A

YES I should shut up moaning and count my blessings

Hi there mel mel

It's rubbish having a longterm condition I don't care what anyone else says about being 'brave' that takes a lot of energy and sometimes we just don't have the emotional and physical energy to be brave.

is it a constructive respiratory condition? It must be very worrying and frustrating esp if other people don't see it or understand. Can I ask what the treatment involves, can it be mangaged by meds?

Sometimes i think condition-specific forums can be a bit frustrating because that's all the members have in common. I think it's diff' here tho because so much else is going on that our illnesses don't seem to be the only thing we have in common. Sometimes I read some of the posts and can't stop laughing, other times ie; today I' can't raise a smile. Am I making any sense or just rambling?

what i'm trying to say is this is a good place where folk seem to understand things without us having to explain. I hope your day picks up, but stick around, the other's will be along soon with lots of support and kindness for you.