Black Dog of Depression - can we help each other?

black_paw

Hi tabunny glad you made it to the shop .nice to get a bit of air, if and when you can.
went to see ladrador and brother but where returning home after lunch. she came running to greet me , she was just back from walk , but still asked for me to take her, but there was no time , as he was loading the car to go home , most of her stuff .. dog bed ,brush set, bowls , food , snacks, chews, 4 cudderly toys she likes,ball LOL . so came home and with saved energy where the carpet was coming up ,fixed it with abar acsross. yipee at last ..major job as needed to do saw bit. whacked out with sore arms now. had surprize phone call , the other week treated poorly friend to carvery meal £5 with ice cream , i know it was'nt alot of money , but it was hoorrid ,dried up veg ,hard rock like potatoes . meat ok ,best bit was ice cream . service was very good , but it was embarassing to eat as it was taste less . it was a lot of money to pay out and i was cross. i sent company a complaint e-mail , and today received a phone call from carvey manager inviting ,up to 4 people and sweet for free at this carvey , letter in post . wow yipee oooooooooo ,dog is in basket coma now . feel so happy !! in the daily mail paper today is a artical about depression 2 pages with good little drawing to laugh at and so true. well before i bore you all to death i better be offf...xxx

LameWolf

Good for you, Jamla. Too many people don't say anything when they get bad service or unacceptable quality, but if we don't complain, they don't have the opportunity to put it right.

black_paw

True Lame wolf , many times i have just eaten it , and said it.s lovely , BUT not any longer ... i haven't got a lot of money like most people on here. and i save up for a while to go out on my good day to have a nice time ,i expect edible food ...i will not be ripped off..I will stand for my rights ... well try to .. even took back a mc.d burger for being cold to eat ... well after doing strip of metal laying on carpet ..a easy job..it cost me a day in bed to recover i feel like a plank ..but carpet looks good... bye for now ..to tired for dog to play

bella-mac

It is good to stand up for your rights - but I've realised if you fight too much for proper treatment it can make you ill - so sometime we have to learn to back down for our own sakes.

Guapa1

Hi all,
I'm here to join in too. I'm feeling really down today. I was in a work related incident a year ago now and I'm still off work and in a lot of pain. I've had to move out of my flat because I couldn't afford to keep it and back in the box room at my mums. I know I'm lucky to have that option, but I moved out when I was 16 for a reason.
My mum has never been a 'mummy' mum, and I used to run the house as well as go to school and I had enough. She has her own issues which manifests in hoarding. The place is a mess and is just neglected. I've managed to make my space liveable, but it can get me down.
Add to that the fact my company has reneged on everything they've promised and have stopped paying for my physical and mental therapies. I don't feel like the same person anymore.

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Just to let you know that we do have a depression thread and the link is here:

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=1359435


you are all very welcome and we are all very friendly,we like to have new people join so do come in and chat,we wont bite,we are all like you with depression We cannot discuss treatment/ medication etc on the thread though as its not allowed.

Katie

Tulip

Guapa1 wrote: »

Hi all,
I'm here to join in too. I'm feeling really down today. I was in a work related incident a year ago now and I'm still off work and in a lot of pain. I've had to move out of my flat because I couldn't afford to keep it and back in the box room at my mums. I know I'm lucky to have that option, but I moved out when I was 16 for a reason.
My mum has never been a 'mummy' mum, and I used to run the house as well as go to school and I had enough. She has her own issues which manifests in hoarding. The place is a mess and is just neglected. I've managed to make my space liveable, but it can get me down.
Add to that the fact my company has reneged on everything they've promised and have stopped paying for my physical and mental therapies. I don't feel like the same person anymore.

:hello:,

I am sorry to hear you feel down today,hope you feel better soon

Katie

Tulip

LameWolf wrote: »

Hello Friends

It's silly o'clock as I type this, but I've been lying in bed unable to sleep, and it occurs to me that there's not a Depression thread yet.

I think those of us who suffer this can help each other. I'd like to think so, anyway; I do know that, as a MoneySaving forum, it is relevant for those of us who go a bit OTT with the spending when the Black Dog has us. I know I do - I spend far and away too much on alcohol.

Depression is as much a disability as the physical stuff (of which I do have some also, I have lupus) but it is so sad that it is seen as something you can "pull yourself together" from. Etc, etc. If you've read this far, you know that it doesn't work that way.

OK, to get to the point..... I have had severe depression from very early in life (diagnosed at the age of 12, I have been on various anti-d's for the last 37 years) and I'd like to offer a "paw" of friendship to others in the jaws of the Black Dog.

I can't, obviously, wave a magic wand and solve all your problems, but I do think that we can perhaps share coping strategies, and maybe provide some mutual support.

:hello: Lamewolf,

We do have a depression thread on the site as I am part of it and there are so many friendly people,do join as you will feel most welcomed.

Katie

seven-day-weekend

Hi, my husband has been formally dignosed with depression since 1990 , he is just 60 (although I told him what some of you others have said and he too says he's suffered with it since he was a child - certainly he has always been prone to being very 'down') . He too calls it The Black Dog. He is early retired now on a Teachers' Pension and a bit of Incapacity Benefit.

I'm just here to say 'well done' with this support thread and I love the one poster's remarks about a black dog helping her with her Black Dog. This would help my husband too!

TaBunny

Sigh boyfriend/partner (non live in) has just rung, his company had big meeting everyone getting 5% pay cut, redundancies to follow, no one safe they're not going to follow the last in first out rule so the fact he's been there 7 years wont count. He's very down and worried as I know are a lot of people out there sigh so it's not helped my 'dawg' today and I have to go have root canal work at 11.30 and I'm sitting here shaking thinking about it I hate dentist can't open my mouth hardly at all so he digs around and it hurts and I end up swallowing bits of teeth filling etc horrid and no one to go with me crikey not a great day.