Black Dog of Depression - can we help each other?

pipkin71

sandy71 wrote: »

I'm not planning on falling out with her, we have been friends too long and she is my kids Godmother, and I am to her kids. It's just she made a really big deal about me helping to choose her wedding dress as I have had such a rough year and she really valued my opinion and couldn't imagine doing it with anyone else.
She turned up yesterday and proceeded to tell me how she had been shopping for dresses with another friend of hers and bought one.
She has also decided not to invite us to the wedding just the reception.

Now my sensible brain says its silly to get upset about it but my scrambled brain says she isn't actually a friend so just be cool with her.
Like I said I am being pathetic but thats just me at the moment.:o

I don't think you're being silly, sandy and can understand why you would be upset.

You have been friends for a while though, so hopefully you can speak to her about this. Did she say why she hadn't invited you to the wedding? Is it at a registry office? They can only have so many guests there, depending on the size of the place, and if she's got a big family, then maybe she was trying to please relatives by making sure they were invited.

sandy71

Pipkin, Glad your pain isn't as bad, I hope your doctor can sort it out for you.

The wedding is in a registry office but she has already told me she isn't inviting some relatives so she can invite the friends she does nothing but moan about. :rolleyes: She never mentioned why we weren't invited she just said I meant to bring your invite to the reception but forgot. Will see if it arrives now.
I will just have to get over it and move on. Why is my life such a drama at the moment

feelinggood_2

I find the lack of invitations does trouble me, but I try not to dwell on it. Unfortunately I parent in a very 'odd' way (according to most!) and I've yet to find any 'Mummy Friends' in real life who I gel with. I did invite all the NCT Ladies to my house, but all refused. That was hard to rationalise!

Pipkin, hope the pain is sorted soon. It isn't something I've had to deal with in the past, but I've got residual back/pelvis pain from pregnancy. I'm limited with what I can take because of the breastfeeding and limited to what I can do because of the agoraphobia.

I should hopefully hear from PALS guy tomorrow to see if I can get a new Care-Coordinator. Also need to dig out my prescription exemption certificate. Care-corindator promised she'd help me sort out getting things ordered and delivered, but she didn't, so I did it myself and I'm quite pleased!

pipkin71

sandy71 wrote: »

Pipkin, Glad your pain isn't as bad, I hope your doctor can sort it out for you.

The wedding is in a registry office but she has already told me she isn't inviting some relatives so she can invite the friends she does nothing but moan about. :rolleyes: She never mentioned why we weren't invited she just said I meant to bring your invite to the reception but forgot. Will see if it arrives now.
I will just have to get over it and move on. Why is my life such a drama at the moment

Maybe the wedding itself doesn't need an invite? Maybe she just assumed you knew you were going to the wedding?

I do hope you can get over it. It may take a while because you will keep thinking about things. Try and talk to your friend, see where you stand

sandy71

pipkin71 wrote: »

Maybe the wedding itself doesn't need an invite? Maybe she just assumed you knew you were going to the wedding?

I do hope you can get over it. It may take a while because you will keep thinking about things. Try and talk to your friend, see where you stand

No we definitely are not invited to the wedding, they are getting married in the morning but she told me hubby would need to take the afternoon off work because the reception starts at 2.

FG I tried the NCT as well but they were all like the Stepford wives round here:rotfl: They scared me!
How can you parent in an odd way, we all do it differently
Fingers crossed PALS can help you.

crazy_girl

sandy71 wrote: »

Hi RBK, how are you feeling, better I hope.

I'm not so good today, my oldest and last remaining friend really upset me last night and to make it worse I don't think she even noticed. Me being as pathetic as I am didn't say anything to her.
New meds are ok, they seem to be controlling the big seizures a bit more but the smaller ones are getting worse.

I am so fed up with everything at the moment.

Hope everyone else is ok. x

aw no what happened? im sure she didnt mean it.

crazy_girl

razorbladekisses wrote: »

Sandy, If it were me I would have been upset too I think I'd probably let her know I was upset.

ive just read what happened and i agree, id be well upset in that situation. i think you should let her know so its not in your head going round and round.

crazy_girl

pipkin71 wrote: »

Hi rbk.

How are you doing today? Hope you're ok

I'm not in as much pain as yesterday. The out of hours doc suggested increasing the morphine, which has helped. It's still there but at least I'm not crying now.

glad to 'hear' that

crazy_girl

how are you rbk?

feelinggood_2

Dippychick wrote: »

Could you borrow one of a neighbour?

I've not seen you in a while Dippy, hows things with you? What you doing in here?