Black Dog of Depression - can we help each other?

sandy71

absolutebounder wrote: »

If she didnt notice she probably didnt mean to upset you. perhaps it is not worth losing a friend over something that wasnt meant. have a chat with her and maybe tell her you were upset. it might just be you got the wrong end of the stick and can carry on being friends.

I'm not planning on falling out with her, we have been friends too long and she is my kids Godmother, and I am to her kids. It's just she made a really big deal about me helping to choose her wedding dress as I have had such a rough year and she really valued my opinion and couldn't imagine doing it with anyone else.
She turned up yesterday and proceeded to tell me how she had been shopping for dresses with another friend of hers and bought one.
She has also decided not to invite us to the wedding just the reception.

Now my sensible brain says its silly to get upset about it but my scrambled brain says she isn't actually a friend so just be cool with her.
Like I said I am being pathetic but thats just me at the moment.:o

Sugar_Coated_Owl

Sorry to hear that Sandy. What AB has suggested seems like a good idea.

I hope they find some meds that work for you soon.

dexterlivi

Hi

In your comment you mention fibro? Can you clarify

Thanks

Sugar_Coated_Owl

Sandy, If it were me I would have been upset too I think I'd probably let her know I was upset.

absolutebounder

sandy71 wrote: »

I'm not planning on falling out with her, we have been friends too long and she is my kids Godmother, and I am to her kids. It's just she made a really big deal about me helping to choose her wedding dress as I have had such a rough year and she really valued my opinion and couldn't imagine doing it with anyone else.
She turned up yesterday and proceeded to tell me how she had been shopping for dresses with another friend of hers and bought one.
She has also decided not to invite us to the wedding just the reception.

Now my sensible brain says its silly to get upset about it but my scrambled brain says she isn't actually a friend so just be cool with her.
Like I said I am being pathetic but thats just me at the moment.:o

I dont think you are being silly. you cant help being upset by some things. In some ways I think I might be a little upset too. If she is just having a small wedding then maybe her actions are not too bad on the other hand if its a big affair then something would seem wrong. Weddings do make people act strange for a number of reasons. my best man (and best friend) didnt even invite me to his wedding but as I am boogered if I can remember why I am not bothered.. ( I might have been away) A friendship is more important.
You cant alter what has happened so it is not worth beating yourself up over it.

sandy71

razorbladekisses wrote: »

Sandy, If it were me I would have been upset too I think I'd probably let her know I was upset.

I'm just to weak and cowardly thats why people walk all over me.

sandy71

absolutebounder wrote: »

I dont think you are being silly. you cant help being upset by some things. In some ways I think I might be a little upset too. If she is just having a small wedding then maybe her actions are not too bad on the other hand if its a big affair then something would seem wrong. Weddings do make people act strange for a number of reasons. my best man (and best friend) didnt even invite me to his wedding but as I am boogered if I can remember why I am not bothered.. ( I might have been away) A friendship is more important.
You cant alter what has happened so it is not worth beating yourself up over it.

I know you are right and I will get over it, I'm just upset right now. It is only a small wedding but she is inviting people who she does nothing but moan about when we are together. It makes me wonder what she says about me. She was my chief bridesmaid as well.

absolutebounder

sandy71 wrote: »

I know you are right and I will get over it, I'm just upset right now. It is only a small wedding but she is inviting people who she does nothing but moan about when we are together. It makes me wonder what she says about me. She was my chief bridesmaid as well.

My wedding was full of people I do nothing but moan about. they are called relatives and the other halfs friends :rotfl:

sandy71

absolutebounder wrote: »

My wedding was full of people I do nothing but moan about. they are called relatives and the other halfs friends :rotfl:

My other half relatives didn't come to our wedding (Long story!) so that made it easier.
It just hurts and when I am feeling like I am it was like a kick in the teeth. I tried talking to my hubby but he just said that must be a woman thing cos it wouldn't bother me. :rolleyes:

pipkin71

Hi rbk.

How are you doing today? Hope you're ok

I'm not in as much pain as yesterday. The out of hours doc suggested increasing the morphine, which has helped. It's still there but at least I'm not crying now.

One of the side effects though, is I feel quite drowsy, but not enough to sleep.

I have to make an appointment with my own GP to discuss medication and I've got a hospital appointment on the 28th, so hopefully the pain can be sorted

How have you been getting on at home?