*Totally Tuesday Chat thread 13th Jan**

Snaggles

The reason he hasn't told people about me is that he has 2 step-kids with his ex-wife, who of course he has no legal rights to see, so he is trying to not make the situation worse until they have agreed regular access. As far as his parents go, I suppose he doesn't want to tell them just yet because he officially only left his wife 2 months ago, although we were seeing each other before that, when they split up 4 months ago. I took a step back while they tried to make it work and he moved back in, but he moved back out again in November when it became clear it wouldn't work and we have been seeing each other again since then (the last 'blip' was caused by us rushing into things a bit to quickly after both our marriages, but we seemed to have got past that and everything was lovely until last night).

Apparently he is too angry and upset with me to talk now, but will ring me tomorrow. :mad:

InkyCats20

Hello whatatwit :wave:

Nice to see you - I thought I'd killed the thread :rotfl:

IC
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LittleMissSee

Hi all! :wave:

I'm going to venture to the gym shortly to try and get out of the foul mood I woke up in! I had a job interview yesterday, for a poxy temporary data entry job, and I couldn't even get that, so I'm feeling quality this morning!

I keep telling myself it's a short term blip and redundancy will be the making of me (no, really!!), but it's hard when all you get is knocked down.

Anyway, I have Celeb BB to look forward to tonight, yes I am that sad, but I find it hilarious!!!

Hope everyone's well!
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Bunnyinthelights

BLimey-it's quiet today...
Where's BB and DD and Luc all gone?


Snaggles-hunny, all I can offer is a ((hug)) and a shoulder to cry on. Come see me this weekend-bring the kids...

Snaggles

schoolrunmum wrote: »

Oh I'm sorry Snags..you sounded so happy last week. I can't really offer anything anything constructive,'cept to say good on you for not letting him walk all over you at this early stage. If you do manage to sort it out, at least I'tll be on your terms, and you won't feel a doormat. Chin up girl, and remember we are from Venus,they are from some sort sort of primeval swamp..

Now that I've stopped crying, I am laughing so much at that. I think I might pinch it for my Facebook page........he wont see it as I have been removed from his friends. :mad:

Snaggles

Bunnyinthelights wrote: »

BLimey-it's quiet today...
Where's BB and DD and Luc all gone?


Snaggles-hunny, all I can offer is a ((hug)) and a shoulder to cry on. Come see me this weekend-bring the kids...

I wish I could hun - I've promised to look after Stu for a couple of days after his operation on Friday. But all hugs gratefully received.

redsquirrel80

InkyCats20 wrote: »

Snaggles / Redsquirrel80 - I can totally get where you are both coming from, I've (sort of) been seeing someone for the last 2 years but reading what you've both posted here I can certainly identify with, my relationship is very one sided - we only talk when he can talk & he's told no-one about us, all these things should be sounding alarm bells & if if was one of my mates I tell her to kick him into touch but as my mate said to me the other day, it all gets complicated when feelings are involved.
This year I'm trying not to be so available, not to answer his calls straight away or sometimes not at all, ignore texts, etc but it's very hard when you feel alone & need to talk to someone

I think the reason I took the plunge yesterday & came out of "lurkdom" is that you all seem to have gone through / are going through things that I am & sometimes when you spend time on you own you think too much & think you're the only one with problems.



BTW thanks Gemmzie, not sure I find Dexter "a little bit sexy" but there is something about him

IC
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Hi Inky, it is really hard when it's out of balance like that. I lost count of the number of times that my friends told me to stop being so 'available' - but if you want to speak to him, and opportunities are limited, then it's difficult to not answer the phone! I found I was spending too many days at home on my own when he'd half-promised to turn up, and couldn't plan to do anything like seeing friends etc. I decided to finish it, for many reasons including that - but you have to decide if you can make it work so you're comfortable and happy with it. I should be very wary after that experience but I've met someone else (well known him for ages actually) and we are giving it a go.. madness but it feels right at the moment!

immoral_angeluk

Snaggles wrote: »

The reason he hasn't told people about me is that he has 2 step-kids with his ex-wife, who of course he has no legal rights to see, so he is trying to not make the situation worse until they have agreed regular access. As far as his parents go, I suppose he doesn't want to tell them just yet because he officially only left his wife 2 months ago, although we were seeing each other before that, when they split up 4 months ago. I took a step back while they tried to make it work and he moved back in, but he moved back out again in November when it became clear it wouldn't work and we have been seeing each other again since then (the last 'blip' was caused by us rushing into things a bit to quickly after both our marriages, but we seemed to have got past that and everything was lovely until last night).

Apparently he is too angry and upset with me to talk now, but will ring me tomorrow. :mad:

He's angry with YOU?????

sammy115

Am on my lunch half hour so have logged on to give you my views....

Snaggles, I come from a long line of man haters so you must take what I say with a pinch of salt....but here goes

My OH is NEVER there for me emotionally or even practically - until I get that frustrated and smack him one - yes I do do that on a regular basis. I actually should be reported for domestic abuse but he does drive me to it.

I actually have to get hysterical to the point of hysteria - you really have to see it to believe it - and I am actually quite a laid back person generally. I have had to 'get used' to it. But on saying that when the chips are down he is there for me. Over the years I have got myself into some spectacular scrapes that he has either got me out of or supported me over...

If anything is likely to 'throw him off balance' then your total disinterest in his childish paddy will do. Just tell him to back in touch when he has got over himself! Thats my view (it works with me and OH)

Fostering - not really a dream but I have a disabled sister and have always thought I might have something to give to a disabled child - I spent a lot of time with disabled people as a youngster.

Blisters - didn't need to pop em because they had torn by the time i got home, but my blister plasters are fantastic. They heal the blister whilst cushioning the pain.

Books - I also have loads of books and I know there are readitswap sites everywhere but I am precious about my books and would give them to anyone who wants to read them and I don't mind not receiving any books back. In fact I might make a list of books I would happily give to someone and send it to people if they pm me.......but don't pm me yet give me a chance to get my book list together.

Bookie - hope she is okay - not been on for a couple of days.

Luc - yeah where is she!

Bunny - you trying to double date at the weekend :rotfl: although I would happily share you with Snaggles if it will make her feel better....

Bunnyinthelights

Oh. Forgot about Stu...

Pants.