*Totally Tuesday Chat thread 13th Jan**

(Land_of)_Maz

Bunnyinthelights wrote: »

Maz-you're not supposed to pop blisters as it can lead to infections-not this is an EXTREME case but one of my Dad's friend nearly died from blood poisoning after he got a blister from his ice skates and popped it and it got infected...you're supposed to let them dry up...

You'll be telling me not to burst spots next!!

(Actually, have no spots now! you'd be proud of me mrs bunny, my skin is really clear now... cut out most of fizzy diet juice, and replaced with water, so skin is thanking me for it!)

Snaggles

(Land_of)_Maz wrote: »

oh shhhiit snaggles!!!

that's a toughie.....

i really dunno what to say....

altho' i'm sure if you want things to, it'll sort itself out.....

don't let this affect your new positive self image cause you is a babe, and if he won't sort himself out, then some other bugga will snap you up soon enough.

Being on your own is not the end of the world.... but even still you won't be for long! plus you have the beautiful snagglekids to keep you busy...

Was the argument re your temporary lodger?

Thanks Maz, no he was okay with the temporary lodger.

It's about the fact that I'm always there for him when he is upset, stressed, ill or just fancies a chat, but it's all one way, he's never there for me. There are reasons why he can't be, but they are of his own making, and he just doesn't understand how hard it is to feel like I'm in a very one-sided relationship. Last night he couldn't spare me more than a couple of minutes of his time, even though he knew I was ill and stressed, but had waited up to speak to him on MSN.

Apparently that's my problem because he 'didn't ask me to wait up'. Well that's true - I waited up because no matter how crap I felt, or how stressed I was, I WANTED to talk to him, because we hadn't been able to talk all day (and when I say talk, I mean on MSN or by text, because we can rarely speak by phone as he hasnt told people he's seeing me). I tried to explain how I was feeling, but it's so hard by text, and even though I tried to word it carefully and not critically, his reply was that I needed to get control of myself a bit and put things across in a more logical way. :mad:

Now he's saying he doesn't think we should speak 'for a while'. I have no idea what that means. He decided to tell me this by text (again :mad: ) at 7.30am this morning when he KNEW I would be getting the kids ready for school, just to make sure he hurt me as much as he possibly could. Oh, and although he doesn't want to speak to me, he's changed his Facebook status to a snide comment clearly aimed at me. Childish !!!!!!.

So I think it's over.

(Land_of)_Maz

Snaggles wrote: »

Thanks Maz, no he was okay with the temporary lodger.

It's about the fact that I'm always there for him when he is upset, stressed, ill or just fancies a chat, but it's all one way, he's never there for me. There are reasons why he can't be, but they are of his own making, and he just doesn't understand how hard it is to feel like I'm in a very one-sided relationship. Last night he couldn't spare me more than a couple of minutes of his time, even though he knew I was ill and stressed, but had waited up to speak to him on MSN.

Apparently that's my problem because he 'didn't ask me to wait up'. Well that's true - I waited up because no matter how crap I felt, or how stressed I was, I WANTED to talk to him, because we hadn't been able to talk all day (and when I say talk, I mean on MSN or by text, because we can rarely speak by phone as he hasnt told people he's seeing me). I tried to explain how I was feeling, but it's so hard by text, and even though I tried to word it carefully and not critically, his reply was that I needed to get control of myself a bit and put things across in a more logical way. :mad:

Now he's saying he doesn't think we should speak 'for a while'. I have no idea what that means. He decided to tell me this by text (again :mad: ) at 7.30am this morning when he KNEW I would be getting the kids ready for school, just to make sure he hurt me as much as he possibly could. Oh, and although he doesn't want to speak to me, he's changed his Facebook status to a snide comment clearly aimed at me. Childish !!!!!!.

So I think it's over.

!!!!!!!!!!

there is only one word really, and it isn't !!!!!!!

W A N K E R should cover it!

immoral_angeluk

Oh my god snags he sounds like a complete and utter c*ck... you're better off without him hun!

Ellidee

Morning all ! Snaggs hunny so sorry you are hurting- BIG hugs XX

Pooky

Morning all

Sammy - Ouch to the blisters - how far did you run?

Snaggles - Sounds like a bit of a "mare" of a situation - hold your head up high and be the bigger person.

Todays mission is to find the bottom of the ironing basket......I've started but got bored so thought I'd stop for a cuppa....and a surf for a bit.....and maybe a bit of online retail therapy.....and some cake......and another cuppa and oh dear - is it school run time already - never mind, I shall finish it another day....:D

schoolrunmum

Oh I'm sorry Snags..you sounded so happy last week. I can't really offer anything anything constructive,'cept to say good on you for not letting him walk all over you at this early stage. If you do manage to sort it out, at least I'tll be on your terms, and you won't feel a doormat. Chin up girl, and remember we are from Venus,they are from some sort of primeval swamp..

cat4772

Morning all

I think this is going to be the week from hell...

On the positive side: chalky cat has been discharged from the vets though we have to keep an eye on him for the infection returning.
I managed to have four and a half hours of uninterrupted sleep last night (but then cat-napped from 3am to 6am).
Wayne is really trying not to smoke (though he has absolutely no will power)
My brother is going to give me a lift to work tomorrow and I'll hopefully blag a lift from someone at work tomorrow night.

on the down side:
I feel like crap in general - almost like I've hit final trimester and crappiness has washed all over me.
Something's wrong with the car. The steering wheel light keeps lighting up and the steering can go from really fluid and easy to almost like moving a tank (I've never driven a tank btw). So I'm going to drop it into the garage tonight and see if they can fix it tomorrow cos I really need it for Thursday!

Sammy - ouch at the blisters, and I hope you can look into your dream of fostering.
Natalie - hope you feel better soon
Lou - You've filled your day off. Hope you manage some you time in there.
snaggs - no one has the right to treat you like craps. You are worth so much more than that. I hope you can find the words to express to him how you feel and that you have the chance to work things out BUT love and relationships aren't a one-way street and you deserve someone who makes time for you when you need it (((hugs)))

Cat.x

redsquirrel80

Snaggles :grouphug:

It is really hard being there for someone when they don't do the same for you (I've spent most of the last 3 years doing just that). I suspect he's hitting out at you because he feels guilty about it, but it is something you need to sort out quickly. If you don't mind me asking, why has he not told people about you? Try to stay strong until you get a chance to actually speak to him and don't sink to his level of silly comments etc cos that can so quickly descend into nastiness. Hugs xx

(Land_of)_Maz

redsquirrel80 wrote: »

Snaggles :grouphug:

It is really hard being there for someone when they don't do the same for you (I've spent most of the last 3 years doing just that). I suspect he's hitting out at you because he feels guilty about it, but it is something you need to sort out quickly. If you don't mind me asking, why has he not told people about you? Try to stay strong until you get a chance to actually speak to him and don't sink to his level of silly comments etc cos that can so quickly descend into nastiness. Hugs xx

so we can call him names, but you shouldn't... for now....