Asking for money as a wedding gift

zippybungle

I don't generally like the idea of people asking for money as a Wedding gift, BUT I think it is fine to ask for dollars for your honeymoon - to me it just shows that the money will be spent on your honeymoon and not just swallowed up with household bills etc etc. I don't think many people would have a problem with this?

It's your wedding, you do whatever feels right for you. Hope you have a lovely day.

Zippy x

mrcow

liza83 wrote: »

my df has wrote a poem for our invites asking for cash or vouchers see my invite post

Sorry but - no. It's not good!

*Louise*

My OH and I have been together for 12 years (exactly on our wedding day) so have everything we need.

We have decided not to make any requests with the invites, although money would be useful to go towards bigger items (like landscaping the back garden LOL) but our mothers know to let people know that's best..

I don't want to ask directly for money because I don't want anyone to feel obligated to give us anything.

louisebbctlc

Iam askin 4 money for my weddin i just put

" As we have every thing we need in our home we would be greatful of money if you wish as we are looking at having a family holiday with our children"

Me and my mum thought this sounded ok!

RoxieW

I agree - the poems are awful! Although we did ask for money towards a trip to eurodisney with our kids - noone seemed to mind and most we're interested in the holiday and excited for our children. I just put a note on the invite saying if you wish to give a gift then money towards our trip to eurodisney would be very much appreicated - or something along those line. I like the line - it is your presense not presents that is wanted as a precursor to this though - wish I'd thought of that.
Dont send a poem - they're ghastly.

Marky123

Im getting married in August and my future wife is in the process of making a wedding list. I, on the other hand, don't want to ask for anything. It's making me so nervous. I feel it sounds like we are actually asking for presents. I ask myself. Will people think we are being cheeky? Oh god, it's driving me crazy. :eek:

annie-c

Marky123 wrote: »

Im getting married in August and my future wife is in the process of making a wedding list. I, on the other hand, don't want to ask for anything. It's making me so nervous. I feel it sounds like we are actually asking for presents. I ask myself. Will people think we are being cheeky? Oh god, it's driving me crazy. :eek:

It's always a tough one - some people are offended by lists, others feel uncomfottable if there isn't one. Why not have a list and make it available on request? Most people will ask to see the list but those who prefer to choose their own gift will feel free to do so.

*Louise*

OH got a text from one of his friends after recieving the wedding invite. He texted saying since we never had a wedding list he assumed lots of cash would suffice? :rotfl:

mrcow

Marky123 wrote: »

Im getting married in August and my future wife is in the process of making a wedding list. I, on the other hand, don't want to ask for anything. It's making me so nervous. I feel it sounds like we are actually asking for presents. I ask myself. Will people think we are being cheeky? Oh god, it's driving me crazy. :eek:

Don't even give it a second's thought.

It is protocol to have a weddding list. Guests will expect it. Actually, if I've been invited to a wedding and the gift list doesn't come with the invite, it's a pain as then you have to start enquiring what to get.

Think about something that you would really like and then put it on the list - your family and friends will be more than happy to buy or put towards it. The more recent weddings I've been to, the bride and groom have asked for holiday vouchers for the honeymoon which seemd to work quite well, but gifts or money is just as good.

Congrats btw.

mrcow

*Louise* wrote: »

OH got a text from one of his friends after recieving the wedding invite. He texted saying since we never had a wedding list he assumed lots of cash would suffice? :rotfl:

I'm getting to the point where I prefer giving cash as couples have so much already these days that I'm sure they don't need any more toasters or ornaments.