Asking for money as a wedding gift

LydiaSophia

Hi All,

I am getting married in May and want to start writing my invitations. I really want to ask for American dollars as a wedding gift (thats where we are going on our honey moon). However, I don't want to appear greedy or rude.

What can I put in the invites so I don't appear greedy?

Please help my mind is a complete blank!

Gloomy_Past_Bright_Future

check out this, this should give you ideas,

http://www.youandyourwedding.co.uk/index.php/chatroom/topic/9146

I went to two weddings last year that both asked for money, no-one was offended at all.

Minxy_Bella

I've just sent my invites out and chickened out of putting in either a gift list or asking for money. I think we'll just have to see what happens and if anyone asks us what we want (contributions to bliddy double glazing!!! Boo!)

annie-c

Congratulations on your marriage!

Asking for money as a gift is a contentious issue and there have been many threads on here about it, which, if you search will give you lots of ideas for poems and 'nice ways' to ask, (but brace yourself, it will also bring up lots of heated discussion too).

People will tend to have very strong opinions on this and whether your invitation appears 'greedy' will likely be in the eye of the beholder, regardless of what you write. Some guests will probably be very releived to have an 'easy' option presented to them and will be pleased to help you out on your honeymoon, some may feel embarassed because they won't want you to know 'how mich' they have spent/given, and some may well feel affronted at being asked to give a 'gift' at all, feeling that a gift is not a right and should never be asked for. (I would fall somewhere between the latter two ptions myself, but my friends would probably know this and so wouldn't ask int he first place! )

You will be the best person to make the judgement about how your own friends & family will react though, so if you feel it's the right thing to do then there are plenty of little poems/text around that you could use.

Hope you have a lovely wedding day

picklepick

We went to a wedding in may and they asked for money as a gift. They had a little box at the reception where you could discreetly pop an envelope should you wish to.

I think they had something like 'We respectfully ask that no gifts are brought, if you wish to make a cash gift with which we would like to purchase some larger items for our home, there will be a box at the reception.'

How soon are you off on holiday could you not change it yourselves into dollars?

pbfhpunk

We had a nightmare with ours, using confetti card and when that failed at the last minute having to set up a wrap it gift list!! But wither way it was cash we were asking for

On the invite we said as we had lived together we had everything we needed but would appreciate money to use on our honeymoon in Canada.

Alot of the wedding sites do do prepaid maestro cards, so would be worth getting one of them, or just ask for US$, chances are you will still get a lot of people buying you gifts or giving gift cards but you'll get a few $ from it. It's not so much that it's rude to ask for money - it's just that people arent' used to it.

poems are good like this

So what do you get
For the bride and groom
Whose house needs things
In every room?
When shopping for a present please don’t be rash
As there is always the option
To just give cash!
We hope you don’t find
Our request to be funny
But we really would appreciate
A gift of money

that and others here http://www.youandyourwedding.co.uk/index.php/chatroom/topic/9146 also more specific for honeymoon http://www.youandyourwedding.co.uk/index.php/chatroom/topic/69770

Claire2831

Hi Lydia,

How about:
The most important thing for us is your presence during the day to celebrate our marriage and gifts are by no means expected. If however, you do feel you would like to give something, then dollars to enjoy whilst on our dream honeymoon would be very much appreciated.

Hope this helps and enjoy your special day!

deb_buffy

Hi
I did a good search a few months ago to find the wording for ours. We have gone for one of the ones below.

HTH

Deb

Now we are to be Mr & Mrs
We don’t need a wedding list of dishes
We have two kettles, two toasters, two microwaves
We require a house for which we have to save.
If you would like to give us a gift,
A cheque or vouchers would give us a lift
We like to think of it as our ‘wishing well’
Which will be filled with your love, we can tell.


We’ve been together for a few years now;
We have pots and pans and linen and towels;
We have glasses and toasters, really quite a few;
So instead of more gifts, we suggest this to you;
If it doesn’t offend and it won’t send you running;
What we would really appreciate is quite simply money;
We know choosing gifts can be such a pain;
And this way there is no chance of bringing the same


If you was thinking of giving us a gift, to help us on our way.
A gift of cash towards our house, would really make our day.
However, if you prefer to purchase a gift, feel free to surprise us in your own way.


To save you looking, shopping or buying.
Here is an idea, we hope you like trying.
Come to our wedding, to wish us both well.
And bring this small sack, to throw in our wishing well.
Fill it with paper all colours will do, gold is our favourite but silver will do.
Now that we have saved you, all that fuss.
We hope you will come, and celebrate with us.

(bit similar to one above)

To save you looking, shopping or buying.
Here is an idea, we hope you like trying!
Come to our wedding, to wish us both well.
And make some use of our little wishing well.
Just put some money into a card,
Now make a wish…..see that wasn’t hard!
Now that we have saved you, all that fuss.
We hope you will come, and celebrate with us.
Please don’t be offended at this type of request,
As our day will be complete having you as our guest.


We don’t want to offend but we have it all,
All household goods and so much more.
To save you shopping, sit back and rest,
A gift of currency is our request.
Don’t go overboard or rob any banks,
Any little thing will make us smile with thanks.
We supply the wishing well,
No wrapping, an envelop who can tell.
Now that we have saved you all the fuss,
It would be appreciated if you would come
And celebrate with us


More than just kisses so far we’ve shared,
Our home has been made with love and care,
Most things we need we’ve already got,
And in out home we can’t fit a lot!
A wishing well we thought would be great,
(But only if you wish to participate),
A gift of money is placed in the well,
Then make a wish but shhh don’t tell!
Once we’ve replaced the old with the new,
We can look back and say it was thanks to you!
And in return for your kindness, we’re sure,
That one day soon you will get what you wished for.
Please don’t be offended at this type of request,
As our day is complete having you as our guest

We know it's not tradition
It's not the way it's done
But instead of a wedding list
We'd like a bit of sun
We've lived together quite a while
And all the bills are paid
We've got our plates, our pots and pans,
Our plans have all been made
We would appreciate your help though,
To send us on our way
A contribution to our honeymoon
In a land quite far away
But most importantly, we request,
You come to our wedding as our guest
To share with us our special day
And have some fun along the way

The important thing for us
Is that you share our special day
Coming to our wedding
Would help us on our way
But you've asked us if we'd like some gifts
And to be honest we've got it all
The kitchen's full of useful stuff
And now we're filling up the hall
But what we'd really like
And it would be a lot of fun
Is a week or two relaxing
And soaking up some sun
So if you'd really like to help us
Then we know a place that's cracking
Just have a look at our honeymoon list
And really Send Us Packing

IWantToBeFree_2

I just wouldn't do it....

I am not sending a gift list, or asking for money etc in my invites... My mum & MIL to be have been briefed on what we would like, so if people want to know what to get us, they can do it the traditional way and ask.

LydiaSophia

Thank you sooooo much for all your replies - I am going to go with a poem option!

Horace

I was going to suggest that you get a wishing well and have donations put into envelopes and posted in the well.

http://www.partypacks.co.uk/wedding-wishing-well-30-x-16-pid64348.html