Daily Chat 06/01/09 - I Will Win Today!

Lucifa73

LouiseJ wrote: »

I have just done something terrible...........but for the right reasons:(

Dont know if my 13 year old son will see it that way though:o

What did you do? Tidy his room?:eek:

Burlesque_Babe

ooooooh, tell all Lou?

LouiseJ

I feel really bad about this and I may not win Mother of the year after this:o

Little DS is only 13 and my baby, recently he has become friendly with a group of kids which are mostly OK but a couple of them are older and somehow I just cant warm to one of the girls, she seems sly and I get a bad feeling about her.

Before Christmas he came home with what looked like lovebites on his chest (I only saw them when he re-adjusted his dressing gown) he said this girl had thrown a stone at him, never got to the bottom of that story but had to let it drop.

I picked him up on Sunday and he had a large lovebite on his neck, he says he doesnt know how it got there and refuses to give an explination..............

Today he has left his phone on charge in the office and I have read through his text messages:o

It looks like he is going out with this 15 year old girl who must have just split up with her 17 year old boyfriend as it is obvious from the messages that it is her.............I am so worried.

LouiseJ

Told you it was bad:o

Lucifa73

LouiseJ wrote: »

I feel really bad about this and I may not win Mother of the year after this:o

Little DS is only 13 and my baby, recently he has become friendly with a group of kids which are mostly OK but a couple of them are older and somehow I just cant warm to one of the girls, she seems sly and I get a bad feeling about her.

Before Christmas he came home with what looked like lovebites on his chest (I only saw them when he re-adjusted his dressing gown) he said this girl had thrown a stone at him, never got to the bottom of that story but had to let it drop.

I picked him up on Sunday and he had a large lovebite on his neck, he says he doesnt know how it got there and refuses to give an explination..............

Today he has left his phone on charge in the office and I have read through his text messages:o

It looks like he is going out with this 15 year old girl who must have just split up with her 17 year old boyfriend as it is obvious from the messages that it is her.............I am so worried.

Oh dear. I can see why you would be worried. Difficult to tackle without putting him on the defensive too...

(Land_of)_Maz

oooh Lou - well he need never know about the texts but you should definitely try to get him to open up about having a girlfriend, her suitability or not is another matter to deal with later....

Is it likely his brother will know? Could you get him to open up to him or OH?

maybe just some good natured teasing about this obviously having a girlfriend and joke about the things you know teenagers get up to, but that you trust him to be safe and be sensible...

What are your worries exactly? is it that he might be encouraged to go further than he's ready? Or repurcussions from 17yo ex of newGF? Or just him getting hurt/broken heart...?

jinky67

LouiseJ wrote: »

I feel really bad about this and I may not win Mother of the year after this:o

Little DS is only 13 and my baby, recently he has become friendly with a group of kids which are mostly OK but a couple of them are older and somehow I just cant warm to one of the girls, she seems sly and I get a bad feeling about her.

Before Christmas he came home with what looked like lovebites on his chest (I only saw them when he re-adjusted his dressing gown) he said this girl had thrown a stone at him, never got to the bottom of that story but had to let it drop.

I picked him up on Sunday and he had a large lovebite on his neck, he says he doesnt know how it got there and refuses to give an explination..............

Today he has left his phone on charge in the office and I have read through his text messages:o

It looks like he is going out with this 15 year old girl who must have just split up with her 17 year old boyfriend as it is obvious from the messages that it is her.............I am so worried.

difficult one Lou:cool:

But i remember what i was like at his age.

He is young and is just finding his way in the world of girls.

I dont think i would admit looking through his phone.....cos then he will never tell you anything ever again:eek:

I would maybe just sit him down for a quiet chat and see if he opens up....and if not you will just have to try to keep your worries to yourself:o

LouiseJ

(Land_of)_Maz wrote: »

oooh Lou - well he need never know about the texts but you should definitely try to get him to open up about having a girlfriend, her suitability or not is another matter to deal with later....

Is it likely his brother will know? Could you get him to open up to him or OH?

maybe just some good natured teasing about this obviously having a girlfriend and joke about the things you know teenagers get up to, but that you trust him to be safe and be sensible...

What are your worries exactly? is it that he might be encouraged to go further than he's ready? Or repurcussions from 17yo ex of newGF? Or just him getting hurt/broken heart...?

Maz, some of the text messages from her were really dirty and from little DS response he didnt know what to say, she is just a dirty little slapper and he is not going over there again...............:mad:

I will calm down in a bit, just a bit shocked.

He wont open up to his brother, Carl will tell him what he thinks of that girl as he cant stand her. I have tried to coax info out of him and he knows that I am pretty cool with most things but the thought of my 13 year old baby with that girl is too much for me to cope with at the moment.

Lucifa73

LouiseJ wrote: »

Maz, some of the text messages from her were really dirty and from little DS response he didnt know what to say, she is just a dirty little slapper and he is not going over there again...............:mad:

I will calm down in a bit, just a bit shocked.

He wont open up to his brother, Carl will tell him what he thinks of that girl as he cant stand her. I have tried to coax info out of him and he knows that I am pretty cool with most things but the thought of my 13 year old baby with that girl is too much for me to cope with at the moment.

Is it possible she's using him to make the 17yo jealous? In which case he will get a bit hurt (part of the learning curve unfortunately) but then hopefully see her for what she is and move on. Would the older brother (how old?)have a word with her perhaps to let her know she's being watched - might put her off her little scheme? Could you talk to Carl and ask him to keep a discrete eye on things at least?

And go to your happy place (think Mozza tickets!!!!) to help you calm a bit

LouiseJ

Sorry for calling her a dirty little slapper, that is awful, sorry:o

Trouble is that I asked if it was her and he said that she still had a boyfriend

But then again he has told me lies quite a bit recently.

Dont know what I have done wrong:(