Weekly Flylady Thread 5th January 2009

Valli

Pigpen I personally would be very cross if either of mine (15 and nearly 13) went on a sleepover (other than to my sisters, that is) and were left without adult supervision - but that adult could be hubby...

SarahShattered wrote: »

It's a different dynamic isn't it, someone else's child.

At first I thought you meant no adults at all. As your DSs GF might have to rush off to hospital at short notice IYSWIM as long as hubby was there I would be fine. I actually always ask anyway...I also check about videos. I allow mine to watch (some) 18 classifications (Phoenix Nights) when I am there - I don't allow DS or DD to show their friends these without checking with their parents - and I don't take the kids word for it either - I talk directly to the parents.. Not least because I roasted DSs form teacher when DS was in Y7 for showing them a 15 classification film in Golden Time that HE HIMSELF HADN'T EVEN SEEN JUST BECAUSE A KID IN THE CLASS BROUGHT IT IN.
Mind you I am even stricter at work. I would never ever show any DVD other than a U. Not even a PG!

Nice to see you Supergirl

SarahShattered wrote: »

My favourite line to my girls is
"I'm sorry, how did you get the impression this is a democracy? This is a dictatorship.... mostly benevolent, but not always"
or
"this is not one child one vote"

The best pieces of advice I've ever had are :

1) you're not raising children, you're shaping adults.
2) they're not your friends. (hopefully that will come when they're much much older)

Fabulous!

jjef

pigpen - I agree with SS I wouldnt be happy for my child to be at a sleepover and looked after by 14/15 yr olds whilst parents went to the pub, so I think leaving hubby home seems to be the answer:D

gryfon - yes I would now post a pic of kitchen

As in my HHc I have -
s&s kitchen
DW
emptied & reloaded WM
cleared airer of dried clothes and hung up wet clothing
sorted out recycling

Valli - your comments re keeping things have hit home, I keep getting my two to keep things as they came from xxx and they end up holding on to them and never looking at them, since we moved I have been better - I think the shock of filling a van of carp that hadnt been looked at for years has made me see the light and I am flinging like never before.

I need to shower didnt this morning as was taking the dog out and going hill climbing and with the frost didnt fancy it with damp hair so I now really need to wash.

Lady-Liberty

Valli wrote: »

Pigpen I personally would be very cross if either of mine (15 and nearly 13) went on a sleepover (other than to my sisters, that is) and were left without adult supervision - but that adult could be hubby...

I agree I always wanted to know who would be supervising & what they would be watching etc if I had friends to sleep-over I always stayed in so I knew what they were up to......mine are now 25 & 19 both have left home, but I still worry about what they get up to :rotfl:


How long would it take you to nip home & do a quick check up?

Sorry this probably hasn't helped at all xx

pigpen

Valli wrote: »

Pigpen I personally would be very cross if either of mine (15 and nearly 13) went on a sleepover (other than to my sisters, that is) and were left without adult supervision - but that adult could be hubby...


At first I thought you meant no adults at all. As your DSs GF might have to rush off to hospital at short notice IYSWIM as long as hubby was there I would be fine. I actually always ask anyway...I also check about videos. I allow mine to watch (some) 18 classifications (Phoenix Nights) when I am there - I don't allow DS or DD to show their friends these without checking with their parents - and I don't take the kids word for it either - I talk directly to the parents.. Not least because I roasted DSs form teacher when DS was in Y7 for showing them a 15 classification film in Golden Time that HE HIMSELF HADN'T EVEN SEEN JUST BECAUSE A KID IN THE CLASS BROUGHT IT IN.
Mind you I am even stricter at work. I would never ever show any DVD other than a U. Not even a PG!

I am so mean I won't even let my 14 y/o watch 15 rated films.. and I don't CARE what her 15 y/o friends can watch... the joys of being the youngest in her school year! lol And if the younger 2 are in there it will be PG's and U's ONLY..

GF's sprog not due for another 3 weeks..

I've spoken to my mtoher anyway and he is staying home and I'm off out.. he went out last Friday.. and don't we effing know it?!! :mad: So this week is mine.

Assignment then.. I love tables ..

pigpen

Lady-Liberty wrote: »

I agree I always wanted to know who would be supervising & what they would be watching etc if I had friends to sleep-over I always stayed in so I knew what they were up to......mine are now 25 & 19 both have left home, but I still worry about what they get up to :rotfl:


How long would it take you to nip home & do a quick check up?

Sorry this probably hasn't helped at all xx

5 minutes.. but hubby is staying home anyway..

pigpen

jjef wrote: »

pigpen - I agree with SS I wouldnt be happy for my child to be at a sleepover and looked after by 14/15 yr olds whilst parents went to the pub, so I think leaving hubby home seems to be the answer:D

Just what I want to hear!! lol

Thanks all

JennyBee_2

Right I have a challenge for you all. I want you all to come up with really good reasons as to why I have the following on our computer desk:-

- 2 bottles unopened contact lens solution
- Jug thingy to fill up the water in the iron
- A comb
- A business card from a mexican restaurant we went to in Prague
- 9p
- Appointment card for chiropractor (7th October 2005 @ 1.15pm!)
- 2005 diary

ETA - woohoo! Found my shiny star stickers for my cleaning star sheet!

angelnikki

Weekend List
s&s kitchen [strike]Fri[/strike] / Sat / Sun
s&s bathroom [strike]Fri[/strike] / Sat / Sun
30 mins relax Fri / Sat / Sun
[strike]put away clean clothes
freezer and cupboard list[/strike]
mealplan
shopping

dining room, living room and playroom:
deweb, dust and polish
clean fingerprints off telly
clean booster seat

Extras:
contact DIAL
go to the docs
clean highchair

Nikki x

Cazzie_2

You've reminded me of something that happened to me last year... my 11 year old boy wanted to sleep over at his mates one night, I had never met the mother but met the mate lots of times so I rang her to a) introduce myself and b) make sure it was ok and she knew about it!!! I spoke to her and she assured me that it was no problem and she was looking forward to having him so I let him go. He came back at 10am the next morning and I asked him if he had a good time.

It transpired that as soon as I had rung, the mother had gone out to the pub and left her eldest son in charge (he was 15) looking after two 11 year olds and they had been playing violent computer games and watching 18 films!! :eek: She got back in the early hours of the morning somewhat the worse for wear... if she had told me she was going out I wouldn't have let him go (there is no hubby/father). Needless to say I went mad (not at my son I hasten to add) and he will never go round there again... in fact I won't let him stop anywhere now unless I personally know the people as I felt awful for letting him go when I had only one conversation with the mum.

Just letting you know Pigpen as I agree with others that it's a completely different dynamic... I would think nothing of leaving my 16 year old here with my 11 year old to nip into town and do some shopping or something but if my youngest boy had a friend round I wouldn't like to do it.

I think it's time for your hubby to stay in tonight and you go out and have some fun :beer:

SarahShattered

Valli wrote: »

Nice to see you Supergirl

Fabulous!

You too Valls!!!!!! I have hated being so behind on Fred! Spent all week, days behind, never catching you all up. Should have given up much sooner!!! :doh: I think I got all OCD about it!!

And

Fank you, fank you very much! *takes small bow!* I love those bits of advice... the third one, which I didn't include previously - because I didn't want Gryfon to think it was directed at her... which it certainly isn't -

3) No-one will ever be as fascinated by your children as you are.

and the saddest one:

4) you will always love your children more than they will ever love you. Sad but profoundly true!!

SS
xx