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The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 2

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  • budget_babe
    budget_babe Posts: 1,633 Forumite
    Hi everyone,

    Eselt, gosh so glad you are back, I know I have not had the pleasure of chatting to you before but everyone on here loves you so much. I am sorry that you have been through such a terrible time. Don't be hard on yourself, you are back now and can focus on staying strong.

    Polaroid along with everyone else will be so glad to hear from you. You have been missed so, so much.

    Please take care and look after yourself.
    With great respect BB xxxxx
    Cherish the ones you love and travel back on the road that brings you home :)
    "What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us" Ralph Waldo Emerson :A
  • Bismarck
    Bismarck Posts: 2,598 Forumite
    eselt wrote: »
    Hi all- sorry for not posting for ages but I've had a bit of a shocking family bereavement to deal with and I only got back from the funeral yesterday and everythings been a bit of a blur. But I do need to say something important, well its important to me anyway!, the death was treated as 'suspicious' because the person hadn't been to see their doctor in the previous week, and we all had to be interviewed by the police, and when the police left someone handed me a glass of brandy- and I drank it. And when everyone had gone I drank the rest of the whole bottle. There I've said it- I can't believe I fell at the first real hurdle, I feel so ashamed, and I've let you all down thinking I had beat this for a year and thinking I could give people advice but when push came to shove and something really difficult happened I just reverted to type. Thank god I got straight back on it the next day but to say I'm mortified is an understatement. Guys I'm so sorry.

    Good luck to everyone with the current challenge, needless to say, I'm back to squre one and I will not drink in January at all- just got to focus.

    It's not square one at all.

    I'm just glad you're back - and, to be honest, alive!

    I've had a couple of things happen since before Christmas and the temptation is still there, believe me! Thought about it this morning and wondered if I could just drink at Christmas and then thought about how my excuses would flood my head....and I know where that would lead...
    For what I've done...I start again...And whatever pain may come ...Today this ends... I'm forgiving what I've done -AF since June 2007
  • budget_babe
    budget_babe Posts: 1,633 Forumite
    Hi Guys,

    Don't know what to say really? It should all be about Eselt, I know she is so special and everyone will want to wish her well. So I'll keep it very brief.

    Just all of you take care and stay strong, you are all so very special. xxxxx

    Winebox you are in my thoughts I hope you are getting through today, take care angel, with love and hugs, BB xxx

    Lurky day 14 take care, hugs xxx

    Love to all of you xxxxxxxx
    Cherish the ones you love and travel back on the road that brings you home :)
    "What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us" Ralph Waldo Emerson :A
  • Hi everyone,

    Eselt, gosh so glad you are back, I know I have not had the pleasure of chatting to you before but everyone on here loves you so much. I am sorry that you have been through such a terrible time. Don't be hard on yourself, you are back now and can focus on staying strong.

    Polaroid along with everyone else will be so glad to hear from you. You have been missed so, so much.

    Please take care and look after yourself.
    With great respect BB xxxxx


    What she said....
    Drinks to remember I, Me and Myself
    And winds up the clock
    And knocks dust of the shelf
    Home is a love that I miss very much
    So the past has been bottled, and labelled with love.
  • Glad you are safe Eselt and please be gentle to yourself. That sounds like one hell of an extreme situation and by no means cancels out all the fantastic work you have done. When I was reading/lurking in the last thread you never ever judged anyone for a slip so please do not judge yourself harshly either.

    NTC
    xx
    29th Feb Quit Day :j
  • jo1972
    jo1972 Posts: 8,901 Forumite
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    So glad you're back Eselt, I'm sure you've read back and heard the demands for your presence!! I'm so sorry to hear about the situation you've been in. Be honest with yourself now, you are not back to square 1, look at what you've had to deal with, it's a blip, you're back safely on the wagon and have the knowledge that you didn't like it and don't wanna go back there. Don't worry about it, you've let no one on here down (least of all me....look at my track record :eek:). Just glad you're ok :) Keep posting ok??

    Well AF for me today, believe it or not. Wasn't gonna be but I made a decision today, if I want to drink I can, no one is gonna stop me so I shan't buy any on the way home and if I feel inclined I shall make an excuse to go get some, even if it's late and I only get 1 or 2 to keep the jitters away. But to be honest, at this time of the night the danger time has gone and I'm full of coffee anyway (bang goes that night's sleep :rolleyes:) so I can safely say I won't be drinking today. Can't say it was easy but hey I wasn't expecting it to be, tomorrow will be worse. But I can drink if I want to, just chose not to today, I think that's the way I've gotta play it. When I know I can't do something the rebel comes out in me, even if I'm being rebellious against myself!!

    Hope everyone's doing ok?

    xx
    DFW Nerd no. 496 - Proud to be dealing with my debts!!
  • Elset - gosh please as everyone says be kind to yourself - you'd be the first to say it to any of us - what a horrible situation x I admire the strength you had for just saying 'ok this needs to stop' straight away.
    Hugs to you x
    Total debt 26/4/18 <£1925 we were getting there. :beer:
    Total debt as of 28/4/19 £7867.38:eek:
    minus 112.06 = £7755.32:money:
    :money:Sleeves up folks.:money:
  • miamoo
    miamoo Posts: 1,694 Forumite
    Hi Eselt I agree with everything the others have said, you have been through an awful time x Don't be so hard on yourself, you haven't let anyone down, and you haven't let yourself down either xxx
    Jo I found at the begining it was easier to say, if I want a drink wait till tomorrow and if I still really want one I will have one then. By the next day I would be fine. Hope everyone else is doing o.k
    £100 - £10,000
  • Really fancy a drink tonight....cancel that......really want a drink tonight. But thankfully i haven't got any so I am making do with a fresh cream donut! I am so with you with the rebellious thing Jo...like winebox said yesterday about the salt. A while back i underwent counselling for some stuff and a good term to 'google' if anyone is interested is 'self sabotage' where you go against all the things you know you want to do for yourself. It makes sense to me...kind of. Thoughts are with you winebox....hello eselt....haven't 'met' you before but sounds like you have had a rough time of late. Keep smiling!


    13/14 AF for me.
    LBM 10/08 £12510.74/
  • jo1972
    jo1972 Posts: 8,901 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 1,000 Posts Combo Breaker
    Thanks PBT, I've heard of the phrase before too through counselling...it's summat I just love to get addicted to unfortunately! I'll have to google it tomorrow.

    Right, off to bed for a sleep-less vivid dream injected night!!

    xx
    DFW Nerd no. 496 - Proud to be dealing with my debts!!
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