The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 2

barshamhillbilly

Sorry to hear you are having a naff day Jo. Can't really think of anything that will help you on the insurance front, I know most companies want the first couple of months up front. Might be worth going on one of the other boards / threads to ask??

Hope the weekend improves

bhb

Bismarck

Miss_Piggy wrote: »

Well, the decision about drinking has been made for me. Went to see Doctor about something this morning and tablets he's given me I can't drink with. So thats me AF for the foreseeable future. And you know what? Its a HUGE relief to have that decision taken out of my hands. Feel much happier.

sometimes the "will I or won't I?" is really hard and energy-sapping. Now imagine how that must feel to someone who cares about you....wondering if you'll drink or not and if so to what level....

have a good weekend everyone.

graemecarter

budget_babe wrote: »

it has been so quiet lately on here. Where are all: "The Usual suspects"?

My point of view is that stopping alcohol is a very difficult thing to achieve long term. Thus when the will power has gone a little bit after the end of January, people find it hard to stay stopped. Thus the poor posting this month.

With or without booze, we are the same. We need to change ourselves before we can hope to kick the grog for once and for all.
When you change yourself, the desire to drink disappears. Then 'quitting' becomes much easier
It's life I struggle with, not alcohol.

ms_london

graemecarter wrote: »

Until we change ourselves, the compulsion to drink will remain with us. We are the problem, and we drink to escape the problem.
Cut out the drink, and you still have the problem which is yourself. That's why we need to change, and when you do, desire to drink will disappear.

Again, SOOOO TRUE.

I am back at the stage where I want to give up COMPLETELY. I dont have an internal stop button and if anything, I have one, I want a whole bottle (or more).

I am screwing up my life and it needs to stop.

I admire people that are teetotal, I really do, as its harder to do that than to cut back, and it takes a lot of strength, strength I am lacking.

I need to find friends who DONT drink, and re-train myself. I didnt start drinking until I was 19, so a late starter really, and 10 years down the line I am still binge drinking. So a lot of habits to un-do!

xx

Bismarck

ms_london wrote: »

I admire people that are teetotal, I really do, as its harder to do that than to cut back,

once you've made that choice I think it's easier. you know where you stand and can build on that. I would find part-time drinking more stressful

I need to find friends who DONT drink

yup...some sacrifices have to be made...for the greater good...it's all a question of what really matters to you. If you want it enough you'll do what you have to do.

and re-train myself. I didnt start drinking until I was 19, so a late starter really, and 10 years down the line I am still binge drinking. So a lot of habits to un-do!

but you've a lifetime to fix it. enjoy!

xx

thoughts are in bold...

Miss_Piggy_2

Afternoon all

Bis...you are right about the "Will I, won't I" being energy sapping. Am so glad I have a reprieve for a while.

Jo ...sorry to hear about the car insurance. Hope you manage to get something sorted.

Well this morning I felt like I had a hangover, even though I didn't!:sad: Was up at 3am with raging earache and feeling nauseous (tablets from doc causing nausea). Took some sudafed and lay on sofa with hot water bottle against my face. Watched night-time tele (freaky eaters to be exact....and I thought I had problems !!:rotfl: ) until the pain went off. Have a feeling its sinusitis. Wonderful!

Feeling very sorry for myself first thing but OH booted me up the behind and made me go out. Saturday mornings are times I spend with my Mum. And I did have a nice time so I'm glad OH made me go.

Must admit, feels wierd to know I CAN'T drink. Like a weight has been lifted...my mind has stopped running round in circles and I feel a bit happier. Maybe this is exactly what I needed.

Anyway, hope everyone is ok. Have good saturday evenings all

Miss P
xx

ms_london

Bismarck wrote: »

thoughts are in bold...

Thank you for your comments, I really appreciate it.

I also have an underactive thyroid and shouldnt really drink, but funnily enough this doesnt seem to deter me.

I am having a few problems at the moment and really feel as though I need to not drink (and come off the a/d's) so that I can think straight and assess my feelings for what they really are.

Its nice to find the support on here, you really all are amazing!!

xx

Bismarck

ms_london wrote: »

Thank you for your comments, I really appreciate it.

I also have an underactive thyroid and shouldnt really drink, but funnily enough this doesnt seem to deter me.

I am having a few problems at the moment and really feel as though I need to not drink (and come off the a/d's) so that I can think straight and assess my feelings for what they really are.

Its nice to find the support on here, you really all are amazing!!

xx

whenever something bad hits the fan, it's like we're programmed to reach for the bottle...yet it makes so many things that we need to confront, harder...sometimes what we do can be an unfocused mess... mostly it just gets worse.

I know that only a straight me can make things right in the future. I made my choices and that's that. Nothing can be changed in that. When I was trying to sort stuff out before I had stopped, I was yearning for someone stronger than I felt to come and sort the mess out for me.

I was the biggest problem so that was where the remedy had to start. Wasn't a picnic and still isn't but I really appreciate what I've got now.

budget_babe

Hi :hello:
Just thought I'd pop in to see how everyone is? I am reading my Allen Carr book and I am now on the chapter: "you will enjoy life so much more".

Gc totally agree with your coments, February has been a much poorer month regarding posting etc. I guess that the momentum is not what it was, my only worry (which is a personal one) is that I have done so well because of this thread, will I be able to without??? Or is that myself replacing alcohol with another crutch, at the end of the day I know we do this for ourselves and it is ourself we need to change. I may decide not to have a March total but to still join in and see how well I can do? I just don't want to end up in the same place I was before joining, I just want to keep moving forward without stepping backwards if you see what I mean? Anyway Gc thankyou as always for your coments, take care and hugs to you. xxx
P.s sorry to ramble on........
Jo what can I say sweetheart it is always the same in life when things go wrong it just seems to get worse. I hope everything works out for you and that better days are just around the corner. Love and big hugs. xxx
Miss P sorry to hear you are so unwell, take care and I hope you get better soon. Love n hugs. xxx
Ms London I hope you get to where you want to be? Good luck to you and take care of yourself. Big hugs xxx

To everyone else have a good Saturday night, gosh how many is this now since the beginning of the year when I AM ABLE to remember the end of casualty. :T

God Bless xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

budget_babe

Hi without hogging the thread ....

I have just seen myself from the outside looking in.....
To explain I have been cooking dinner and just a simple thing I dropped a fork?

All of a sudden I saw myself from before so to speak, cooking after starting early on the red wine and doing just that: dropping a fork, spilling the pepper etc.

Its made me think .......
Back to Allen Carr.

BB xxxxxxxxxxxxxx