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The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 2

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  • jo1972
    jo1972 Posts: 8,901 Forumite
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    Maman, I've been drinking and hiding the fact since I started when I was 21 as my MIL was an alcoholic and my OH didn't like the fact that she had to drink indoors. Plus I was aware that I was doing it more regularly than I should of done so hid it. In the past I have bought a tin of Kaliber and filled it with real lager so that I could walk openly round the house drinking other than that I keep the drinking purely to the kitchen where it's hidden. The empties are snuck out the house every day so they can't be found. Plus the alcohol doesn't really affect me in an obvious way, ie, I'm not violent, aggressive (all that much!) and I don't stumble about, I've had lots of practice of pretending to be sober and so he doesn't notice it. For example when my DD2 was 10 months old back in 2006, I came into the lounge with a can of beer, he looked at me with disgust and asked why I had to drink again as I had drunk the day before, he said there's no reason to drink 2 days in a row I'll end up with a problem. Thing is, I hadn't had a drink free day in 10 months since DD2 was born so he obviously didn't notice!! Alcoholics (which I am) are notoriously secretive and can't be trusted, as far as alcohol is concerned anyway.. (IMHO :))

    ETA: I put DD3!!! I must've had been really 3 sheets to have missed that birth....changed it to 2 now!
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  • maman
    maman Posts: 29,784 Forumite
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    Thanks Jo, it makes what you are achieving all the more amazing!!!
  • mollypolly
    mollypolly Posts: 1,737 Forumite
    Jo...on the note of alcoholics being secretive ...maybe your OH knows more than you think.

    For xmas I bought DH a very expensive bottle of whisky in a tin.After a couple of weeks I noticed the tin was still in the cupboard and as DH doesnt tend to throw things away I checked to see if it was empty.There was about half an inch left so I left the tin in the cupboard.A couple of weeks later knowing it would be empty by now I picked it up to throw it out myself and it was half full:confused::confused:

    I never said a word;)
    Good luck for another AF day.
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  • Sea78
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    Hi all :)

    Well done Jo on your progress so far - this thread sure does move quickly, so going to try to catch up on all the news later. BB - big hugs to you hun - hope things are going ok xxx

    I've been off on my school trip last weekend - and therefore it was a completely alcohol free time - so now I'm 9 af days this month. However, I need another 9....and only 10 days left of Feb left. I know I'll be having a drink next weekend, as the next day is the scattering of my kind of like mum's ashes, and I'm not coming to terms with it all very well. Excuses, excuses, I know. Child free this weekend as well - will see how that goes, would be great to just drink one of the nights.

    However, I'm not going to beat myself up over it - must have had only 3ish days of alcohol freeness in Jan, so I am improving this month! :)

    Sea xxxxxxxx
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  • Sea78
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    oh, but I have had a big shock - photos of the school trip - lots of the kids took photos and I've set up a online web sharing group thingy to see them all. However, looking at the photos where I had no idea they were being taken was a REAL shock. I look old, with a puffy face and a lot fatter than I thought. :( So off to SW tonight - it's the price of a bottle of wine so I can't make excuses about not going. Can't quite believe i've let myself get into this state however.
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  • jo1972
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    Thanks Maman :)

    Well done Sea! Where did you go, anywhere exciting?

    MP, sometimes he asks if I've been drinking but I always make an excuse. I think if he honestly thought I were drinking he would say something. His mum died of alcohol abuse and it's something that is very uncomfortable for him. But you are right, I'm not fooling myself and being proud of hiding it so well either :)

    Beer bell's ringing now, gotta be vigiliant!
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  • miamoo
    miamoo Posts: 1,694 Forumite
    Hi everyone, Just wanted to pop on and see how you all are doing. I am great, my drinking is back under controll. I can have a couple of glasses of wine at the weekend and it not lead into an all week binge.
    I don't drink in the week anymore, if I fancy a glass of wine its a fri or saturday night and not both lol! I'm not that fussed now though to be honest, I can totally relate to GP, thats partly why I stopped posting so much, but I could never of explained it as well as GP!.
    I am really gratefull to this board cos I feel like you have given me my confidence back, stopping drinking so much has made me realise I am in controll, and I can do anything I want to. Good luck to everyone xxxx
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  • fedupandskint
    fedupandskint Posts: 10,358 Forumite
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    Grey Pilgrim and miamoo,

    Glad to hear you are both doing v.well and are so positive. I will miss your positive posts however I understand exactly what you mean by leaving/lurking/absent.

    I'm doing fine and and have got to grips with having AFD myself and I can see me hitting my target no problem this month and maintaining this.
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  • beachbeth
    beachbeth Posts: 3,862 Forumite
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    Ive got half a bottle of red wine left from last night and would love a glass. Ive had a bit of a stressful day today and it would be lovely. The thing stopping me at the moment is that my car has gone in for a service and Im waiting for my daughter to come home so that she can take me to fetch it (I never drink and drive!). I know I probably won't have a glass when I come home either because I shall feel too guilty after seeing the doctor today. But this longing for a glass is making me wonder how I can realistically think that I am capable of stopping. Im a bit worried about taking the chlordiazepoxide too.
  • winebox
    winebox Posts: 1,129 Forumite
    jo1972 wrote: »
    that makes 61,920 units of alcohol drunk over the past 16 years or 20,640 cans of stella :eek:

    spose it'd be crass of me to mention the Guinness Book of Records.....I'll go for the white wine one :rotfl:
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