Abuse or Not?

russboy_2

Not sure where to start as I feel a little embarrassed about my situation.
I am a middle aged man in a relationship with a beautiful lady who up until recently was the perfect most gentle person a guy could wish to be with.
That was until she started behaving strangely towards me.....Now this is the difficult part for me.....as what I am about to tell upsets me to even write about it...but here goes.

My lady friend who I live with started out of the blue to do strange things to me....Things that on face value seem very innocent but I feel maybe leading to something more sinister....and may I say things that upset me deeply at the time.

Firstly she took great pleasure in pressing a bruise that I had on my leg...she pressed it so hard that it made me wince....when she heard this she just laughed....I found this strange....Then one time we were in bed she held my nose and mouth closed tight until I struggled to breath..again she thought this was highly amusing. However the most shocking and disturbing moment was just the other day when I awoke in the early hours of he morning to find her smiling down on me with one of her pillows in both her hands and I am sure she was going to place it over my face!!..when I tackled her on this she said she was just joking and was just going to wake me with the pillow...(it was 3.00 oclock in the morning)

Since the pillow incident she has been quite and appears thoughtful.

Am I being silly about all this or could this lady have an ulterior motive.
I am quite well off and have known this lady for only 18months....I met her on an internet chat room.

I welcome any comments - Many Thanks

ps: I also caught her holding my dogs mouyh and nose closed yesterday.

searching_me

sorry but get rid of the nutter ... if i found my OH at the bottom of the bed ready to put a pillow over my face you best believe id be kicking his !!!! out x

loobylee

If I were you I would get out of there as fast as you can, that pillow thing would have had me running down the road in my nightie!!

Seriously though get out while you still can - this is seriously worrying behaviour!

Wish you all the best!

searching_me

if a man had done that to a woman the first thing you'd say is run!!! and call the police while you do so ... also id kill her just for hurting my dog x

hellyboo_2

I got the chills reading your post. She is bad news.

moneysaver12

I would get out of there quick.

alwaysonthego_2

If you are being serious and not trolling ..... RUN PRONTO in the other direction!!!!

sarahc44

made me shudder - not right and echo everyone elses thoughts x x

Susan_Frost

Dont know what she is playing at, but you don't cause people you love hurt and upset. No, it does not "sound innocent". She deliberately did something to cause you pain. You are obviously upset and wary and uncomfortable with her. What she has done could easily be the start of bullying or intimidation. If you are not feeling you are in an equal, loving relationship, then end it.

Maybe she does not care for you as much as you had hoped, and it can be very difficult for her to keep up a pretence, and she is letting her true self show through.

How long have you known her, what do you know of her background. Do you meet family and friends who have known her a long time. How genuine is her history.

You may feel you want to challenge her about what is going on. But it does sound weird. If you are feeling afraid at any level, emotionally, physically, then end this relationship quickly.

It can be difficult to decide to end a relationship if you dont have many people around you, friends, family, etc. If you have, then keep closely in touch with them. Build a life with them, get out and about and hopefully you will meet someone more caring.

russboy_2

It's not as eay as just kicking this lady out as I rather stupidly have put her on my mortgage. Something that I am begginning to regret.

Most of the time she seems and acts normal then she will do something really bizarre, like eating a full jar of branston pickle with a spoon.....something I am not used to wittnessing.

She is quite young and I am thinking this maybe just excentric behaviour...Like tonight when I arrived home she was in the bath with my dog !!!!!....He is a cute little yorkshire terrior....who looked petrified.....My ladyfriend again just laughed and said he needed his paws cleaning.

Any comments welcome.

dmg24

alwaysonthego wrote: »

If you are being serious and not trolling ..... RUN PRONTO in the other direction!!!!

I was dubious, but then the line 'I also caught her holding my dogs mouyh and nose closed yesterday' confirmed it. This has to be a wind up.