Pocket money (merged)

Threebabes

DS who is 15 gets £20 a month, we pay for cinema/swimming/ju jutsui/outings/sweets/lunches out ie macdonalds, DD is 11 she gets £15 a month again we pay for any cinema/swimming/sweets/ju jutsui, DD who is 7 gets £10 a month she doesnt go anywhere without us but if we take her swimming/cinema/for dinner we again pay. We buy all clothes though DS has just said he wants a football strip top hes buying that.

rachbc

If we are going as a family we pay for cinema etc but if he is going with mates he pays himself - tbh most is saved (for scooter parts at the moment, put often trainers). I also pay for his subs for footy each week.

DS does do jobs but he has doen those since before pocket money - he sets and clears the table for breakfast and dinner and emptys the kitchen scraps bin, keeps his room clean and changes his bed and brigns his laundry down (attic room, basement utility!). He also makes his packed lunch. But I see this as part of beign in the family not earning money and when he doesn't do the jobs the 'conesquence' is more jobs not no money!

He gets £30 pm and he is very happy with this and it seems its in the same ball park as others

peachyprice

My 16yo's get £20 per month paid into their bank account just for spends, I pay for their top up's, £10-15 pm each usually, clothes/shoes they need, school stuff etc. they also may get a little extra if they're going out.

darlyd wrote: »

My DD is 12, I give her £10 every Monday to put on her finger (electronic) for school dinners, But by the Friday I am having to go into the school and put more on as she has spent it all.

You make her pay for her school dinners out of her pocket money?:eek:

McKneff

darlyd wrote: »

This is the question I have been wanting to know.

My DD is 12, I give her £10 every Monday to put on her finger (electronic) for school dinners, But by the Friday I am having to go into the school and put more on as she has spent it all . We also give her money for guides and youth club (twice a week) gives us some piece as she can be a handful so we don't mind this.
She does not do nothing in the house, never keeps her room clean, So We don't give her anymore cash. But she is off to Switzerland with the guides in the summer term and she has £0 saved up for spends, I have said to her to help more, even if it's just washing plates and cutlery, keeping her room clean, picking up after herself, taking the washing in, anything. But she to lazy. Of course I been putting few £ away each week for her spends, But she does not know this, And to be honest she does not deserve it, But as a parent it's the right thing to do, as couldn't see her go away with £0. Luckily nanny and grumpy paid for the actual trip.

How can I get it through to her she needs to do things to receive money?

Because your not following through, You tell her one thing, no help, no money, then at the end of all of the 'shes lazy, etc, etc, you still give her the money:eek:

Stands to reason, to her, whether she does nowt or something she is till going to get the money, so why does she need to bother.

crazyguy

Bllody hell I must be doing something wrong here as I get fleeced for approx £20-£30 almost every week for one child at 15

peachyprice

McKneff wrote: »

Because your not following through, You tell her one thing, no help, no money, then at the end of all of the 'shes lazy, etc, etc, you still give her the money:eek:

Stands to reason, to her, whether she does nowt or something she is till going to get the money, so why does she need to bother.

But she's not getting any money, she has to spend it on school dinners, so why on earth would she do jobs for nothing.

jackieglasgow

darlyd wrote: »

This is the question I have been wanting to know.

My DD is 12, I give her £10 every Monday to put on her finger (electronic) for school dinners, But by the Friday I am having to go into the school and put more on as she has spent it all .Stop this straight away, tell her that its £2 per day and if she spends it, she will have to starve or take a packed lunch the rest of the week. The humiliation of taking a soggy cheese sandwish once should be enough to teach her that lesson. (are the school dinners not a set price?) We also give her money for guides and youth club (twice a week) gives us some piece as she can be a handful so we don't mind this. I pay for my boys' extra curricular stuff like Cubs, music lessons, football but Ds1 who is 11 pays for his youth club from his own money (50p plus buying lunch etc. I tell him that I have food in the house for him and if he wants me to pay for lunch he will take a packup from home - he buys his own
She does not do nothing in the house, never keeps her room clean, So We don't give her anymore cash. But she is off to Switzerland with the guides in the summer term and she has £0 saved up for spends, I have said to her to help more, even if it's just washing plates and cutlery, keeping her room clean, picking up after herself, taking the washing in, anything. But she to lazy. Of course I been putting few £ away each week for her spends, But she does not know this, And to be honest she does not deserve it, But as a parent it's the right thing to do, as couldn't see her go away with £0. Luckily nanny and grumpy paid for the actual trip.

How can I get it through to her she needs to do things to receive money?

You've got two options: either offer her pocket money weekly, or a set sum for Guide Camp. So she earns money from you, for certain jobs. My DS1's jobs are to vacuum as and when required by me, to take the recycling from the kitchen to the bin, to put the clean dishes away, to walk the dog three times a day; and various other bits and pieces. As he has been doing this for a few years now, he doesn't get paid for doing them, its just part of living with the family.

If I was in your shoes I would say, right this is your £5 (or whatever amount it is) - you can have it at the end of the week, but to keep the whole £5 you must....and give her a list of things she must do. Write it on the wall if you have to, and every time she refuses to do something, or doesn't do it when asked you deduct an amount, so for example as I am a bossy old cow I would deduct 10p for every time I got "in a minute" or "do I have to?" Mine would learn quick enough if I pulled that one :rotfl: Good luck, I think this is the worst age to try and get them into new habits, but you need to be strict and persevere, you are not doing her any favours in the long run if she doesn't learn how to earn her way.

HisDoris

My mam used to give me £10 a week pocket money and £25 a month 'clothing allowance' from the age of 12 to the ages of 15 then I got a part time job and earned my own pennies - The money my mam gave mt though worked out really well - I felt like I had more than enough even though some of my friends got a lot more - I got £1.50 dinner money every day on top of that too - although I know it normally costs more than that for a school dinner now! Ours where £1.20 so I used to save the 30p's left over for the weekend and I used that for my metro fare to get into town to go shopping.

Hope that helps!

cookie54

have you checked how much school dinners are as in my sons school the dinner is something like 1.95 so the free school dinner kids can have it and there isn't enough to go round or time and then the snacks like pizza / sandwiches are 1.50 each so pizza crispa and choc is like 2.60:mad: so my son how buys in tesco and we give him 2.50 per day .......

JustIndy

Mine used to go up by 50p a year, I dont think it started at much!