Thankyou to Mr Bluebadge Holder.

poet123

debbie26pet wrote: »

im reading this and finding its all a sorry story for people with the blue badges but what about us parents who need that child place for reason, my daughter is 4 and until she is 5 wont get a blue badge for me to use the spaces, so as i was told by the people who supply them, thats why these places are provided for parents with children like my daughter, one day i was out and there was a place as i went for it a elderly lady nipped in and started pointing to her badge, right i thought not worth arguing, as i parked futher up the car park i noticed her get out in high heel shoes etc she could walk better than me, i dont know why she got it, and yes could be some thing serious etc, but end of the day my daughter was still entitled to it, not much fun carring a child, who is hypo and has no awarness, and risk of lot of things going wrong etc, dont want to go into detail about her, but roll on when she can get this badge.

You must be aware though that you are in the minority with a child who has a disability,and yet is too young for a BB? The spaces were not designed for your needs,just the "needs" or rather "wants" of other parents with able bodied kids. You should have priority over the P&c spaces,but my guess is that if you tried that argument with some of the posters on here who think being a parent gives them superior rights, you would get short shrift.

However,if your child is mobile at 4 then regardless of disability you would not really have to exercise any more care over her on a carp park than the parent of any other 4 year old,no 4 year old has awareness of danger.

However, as has been pointed out you will soon be a BB holder,will you think about someone with a younger child like your own in the future and give up your space? and will you expect to be "examined " and an assessment made as to whether your daughter is unfit enough for a badge? I suspect not.

debbie26pet

marleyboy wrote: »

Quite frankly, why should we feel sorry for you as a mum, or for the child with the disability, if thats the case, once you have a BB, you will also have the right to park in a disables spot AS WELL AS the RIGHT to park in a P&C spot, MORE rights than a mother with a perfectly healthy child.

Fact that the old lady went to the store in high heels, even if rollerskates is irrelevant to the FACT she has a badge that entitles her those rights to do so. In a years time from now YOU will be able to point to such a badge safe in the knowledge that with the badge, you have slightly more rights to park in a P&C spot than the parent who wants your spot.

i wasnt asking for u to feel sorry for me being a mum. and i did say i dont know her reason for the badge, my child is entitled to that place and until she gets that badge i do need that place, and do u know if and when i get that badge, i am a shamed to be classed and use it, as i wouldnt want to be put in the picture that some of u are labeling yourselves and wanting people to feel sorry for u, at the end of the day my daughter gets on with her life and enjoys it doesnt want the people feeling sorry and labeled i got a blue badge please feel sorry for me.
and also there is some people who abuse the places in both areas, as well with disabled badges as mentioned in other parts, even if they are free they still abuse parent and child places

debbie26pet

poet123 wrote: »

However,if your child is mobile at 4 then regardless of disability you would not really have to exercise any more care over her on a carp park than the parent of any other 4 year old,no 4 year old has awareness of danger.

danger were did i mention, if she is having a hypo her sense of anything goes out the window, and has a chance of going in a coma etc no danger was mentioned

end of the day is that yeah i need that place, yes im a mumand a child who is classed disabled, but they are as well others who need that place MORE than me, but no other person thinks oh "ill park somewere else as someone needs it more than we do", the world would be perfect, i just think some of u need to think enjoy life etc there is more out there to car park places etc my daughter dont let her get her down nor matter how a bad day can be and she is only 4

poet123

debbie26pet wrote: »

poet123 wrote: »

However,if your child is mobile at 4 then regardless of disability you would not really have to exercise any more care over her on a carp park than the parent of any other 4 year old,no 4 year old has awareness of danger.

danger were did i mention, if she is having a hypo her sense of anything goes out the window, and has a chance of going in a coma etc no danger was mentioned

Sorry, when you just said "hypo" (not having a hypo, as you have now said)for some reason I read that as "hyper" and you said carring and I read that as caring, not carrying which is what I now see you meant.

marleyboy

I certainly don't feel sorry for you, Its unfortunate for you, but not really my problem.
I am all for assisting someone who needs a hand or help, but I am not going to los any sleep over the fact they do. But I am happy to acknowledge a BB holder has more rights to ANY spot in a car park, than I do, and I say again, I dont class being a Mum any kind of disability or any less able than having a shopping trolley.

Ive had kids took them shopping, and NEVER needed a P&C spot in my life, I as a Dad would actually feel uncomfertable using one, I managed easily enough with a double buggy, that doesnt make me superman, capable yes.

KALASNO

marleyboy wrote: »

Ive had kids took them shopping, and NEVER needed a P&C spot in my life, I as a Dad would actually feel uncomfertable using one, I managed easily enough with a double buggy, that doesnt make me superman, capable yes.

But if a child and mum/dad space is available then use it that what its their for, why would you feel uncomfortable?

debbie26pet

it is good that u dont abuse them, but end of the day u choose not to use them as u was like any other dad, mum etc can use them, but i do hope that one day u aint over night in the situation i was, as that is what can happen over night. 9u try telling a 2 yrs old at the time no u cant have that to much sugar or sorry u cant have that selection box etc) my daughter didnt choose to have her disablity and nor do soem other people, and i would give anythin to swap her problem but end of the day. she is happy and we get on with it, there is serious dangers and if i dont prevent the dangers then i will cause her more disbilities and more for the tax payers,
and i def wont be proud to have the blue badge, but its in best interest she does. as the attitudes it brings towards other i am ashamed and what she may have to face from others

marleyboy

KALASNO wrote: »

But if a child and mum/dad space is available then use it that what its their for, why would you feel uncomfortable?

I guess because I don't feel I need it, I am just as comfortable in being able to park my car anywhere, I certainly don't feel I have MORE rights to it than a disabled driver should. Nor does it make me feel in anyway inferior by not using it.

marleyboy

debbie26pet wrote: »

it is good that u dont abuse them, but end of the day u choose not to use them as u was like any other dad, mum etc can use them, but i do hope that one day u aint over night in the situation i was, as that is what can happen over night. 9u try telling a 2 yrs old at the time no u cant have that to much sugar or sorry u cant have that selection box etc) my daughter didnt choose to have her disablity and nor do soem other people, and i would give anythin to swap her problem but end of the day. she is happy and we get on with it, there is serious dangers and if i dont prevent the dangers then i will cause her more disbilities and more for the tax payers,
and i def wont be proud to have the blue badge, but its in best interest she does. as the attitudes it brings towards other i am ashamed and what she may have to face from others

My son has ADHD so i know what its like.

fedupconsumer

advent1122 wrote: »

I didn't add that my wife is disbaled. She had a nasty accident in work.
She gets Incapacity Benefit, Industrial Injuries Benefit, Disabiltiy Living Allowance.
To put it bluntly, she is WAYYYY better off financially than when she was working.

thats your experience you are one of the lucky ones that are living outside tha majority of people live bellow the poverty line at the start of the year it was esitmated that 3 million people were in poverty so im sure your counting those lucky stars but your case is very rare in my experience.With the credit crunch hitting hard that figure is set to rise making such discounts even more valuable.

"Not even close, I think the thread is quoting "WHY" disabled people are MORE entitled to a P&C space than a Parent. Those who HAVE bothered to read and contribute to the thread will tell you that"

Quite simply it is a legal requirement for companies to put in place proper facilites to help and assist disabled people under part 3 of the disability discrimination act 1995 under the auspices of the Goods, Facilites and Services section of the act. It is not a legal requirement to put in place P&C spaces but companies and authorities do as a token gesture.