Worst situation ever!!!!!!

Darth_Marty

Bloody hell, personally id dig up the older expensive and time consuming grass and lay some lovely cheap nasty stuff.

Always helps.


p.s - this is only an analogy and in no way said from personal experience Mrs Darth! xxx

ceebeeby

Darth_Marty wrote: »

p.s - this is only an analogy and in no way said from personal experience Mrs Darth! xxx

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

geoffky

Too many romantic comedy's with good looking film stars are to blame....women think most men should be like they are in these films...read a article on it the other day...if only real life was like that...

PasturesNew

Darth_Marty wrote: »

Bloody hell, personally id dig up the older expensive and time consuming grass and lay some lovely cheap nasty stuff.

Always helps.


p.s - this is only an analogy and in no way said from personal experience Mrs Darth! xxx

And I was about to offer some mature grass ..... low maintenance, doesn't need watering.
Damn. Everybody wants the fresh young stuff.

WillowCat

PasturesNew wrote: »

And I was about to offer some mature grass ..... low maintenance, doesn't need watering.
Damn. Everybody wants the fresh young stuff.

Oi Pastures - stand in line......

Low maintenance, doesn't need watering, doesn't know the meaning of "going dutch" coz she's used to paying anyway!

But yeah, the wrong side of ?? :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

Gorgeous_George

siowenson wrote: »

She is a girl who wants more more more and who is never happy with what she has, she always has to have that little something extra.

I know what I'd buy her for Christmas

You need to try to get your name off the mortgage. In the meantime, if you are paying the mortgage (or part of it), move back in. It's your house too.

GG

Helga14

I'm confused by all the gardening and lawn talk. I think that you obviously want to make a clean break but unforunately in the current economic climate jumping out now will possibly leave you financially crippled but also mean she is homeless and out of pocket with two parents annoyed they have lost their deposit gift/loan too.

I would advise looking at the options to make it work for you both. I've just split up with my bf of three years and am currently still living with him whilst he finds somewhere else. So I have a little idea of how hard it is to live with someone whilst the relationship you once had is gone. Whilst we are still friends it is like living with the corspe of the happy relationship we once had. Although I'm very relieved that he is still paying half the mortgage at the moment and unforunately in a one bedroom flat I dont have room for any lodgers unless they share my bed.

You could rent the two spare rooms in the flat which would hopefully pay your half of the mortgage and hopefully help you both reduce the mortgage. Definitely i think the dog going whilst sad is sensible as if you can't afford the mortgage you can't afford a dog.

Don't do anything rash. You can't run away from this situation but you may be able to find a workable solution.

Goodluck with it.

siowenson

You presumed correct when you guessed she has had everything on a plate all her life.Its not that bad a thing though, if you look at it from a parental perspective, because if it was me I would want to give my children everythiong they wanted as well. You should see her younger sister though, wow, now there's a spoiled child(she's 21). Dont get me wrong, I love her to bits, but she is really messed up in the head. I have to add that her mum is probably the nicest person I know, so I find it a shame she has to put up with all the stress her daughters cause.

If you read OP's other threads he's not had the house that long, and as you'll probably know, it takes a while for new lawns to get established, and often needs daily watering to keep it thriving.

We lived in a flat for 3 years previous. Like I said; I gave her everything, now she has it, she wants more. We have just extended ourselves by too much. Although I consider myself quite good with my finances (ie. I dont spend a lot on myself at all), I have to admit that I found it hard to say no to my ex. I liked it when she was happy, it made me happy.
I always remember a quote I read on one of those calendars where you tear off a sheet everyday: "love is that condition where someone else's happiness is essential to your own".

I know what I'd buy her for Christmas

Booger all?

Bloody hell, personally id dig up the older expensive and time consuming grass and lay some lovely cheap nasty stuff.

I like the sound of cheap and NASTY, lol!

sarah_elton

siowenson wrote: »

But, then again, what 20 something female of this day and age doesn't? Consumerism and the strive to get a man who can give them everything on a plate has been drummed into them from a small age.

I'm a 20 something female and trust me, we're not all like that.

siowenson

I'm a 20 something female and trust me, we're not all like that.

It was only a matter of time before someone defended the female race. Only joking, I'm sure you're a nice girl but I reckon you're in the minority.

Lets face it, guys are probably just as bad. I know the first thing I'll do once the house is sold is go out and buy(lol, borrow on finance) a car that will appeal to just the type of female demographic that I don't want to attract. But, I'll do it because I would rather turn up for a date in that than some shanty old banger. I'll also go out and buy myself some nice clothes as I've neglected my own wardrobe in persuit of making the ex happy.
Its really quite pathetic what we go through in life to attract the opposite sex. And for what? A never ending series of adventurous flings? Or maybe a partner to share your life with, to raise a family with, to love and care for when they can't themselves, or vice versa?
I thought I knew which one I'd choose but, to be honest, I thought I'd found that person and it all went teets up. I'd like to say the one thing I've learned from all this is not to trust anyone no matter how much that person says they love you, BUT, what kind of existence would that be? Not a pleasant one, you can be sure.

Have any of you seen The Wedding singer? There's a song in the film called Love Stinks. Its a good candidate for my next ringtone, hehe.