child no longer wants present

kendalls_cave

What an ungrateful child! At the age I was grateful for anything I got, and my behavior wasn't excused cos I had raging hormones!

annie123

consider this practice for when their 15 :eek: they then start to get better from about 17/18!

No one should have their second child, own or step until the first reaches 15 then decide if you want another one :rolleyes:

I have 2 great young adults now but there were times when they were close to not reaching their 18th birthdays!
My imagination had great fun sometimes, my way of coping

Newly_retired

My daughter is LOVELY now but was terrible toddler and trying teenager.
She is now beginning to experience the other side as a young Mum. ( hates it when I remind her what she was like - LOL)

jancee_2

So what was the ungrateful little horror's father's take on all this?

Kimitatsu

Sounds to me like she is being a typical 13 year old.

You are the wicked stepmother in this pantomime and she is the shining star, ergo you should now conform to type and make her life a misery so she can decide that she didnt want said phone and can be a martyr. Then Dad will be her Prince Charming etc etc etc.

Fast forward to real life, she is 13, she has hormones, christmas is a difficult time between extended families no matter how long you have been together. She is trying to push your buttons (and they are VERY good at it lol)and you have to rise above it all and smile sweetly (far easier said than done!).

She probably really DOES want the phone but thats not a cool thing to say so she will let you think that it will do when actually she is chuffed to death with it!

Go with the flow and make sure you have a bottle of wine in the fridge - for purely medicinal purposes :T

Stephb1986_2

She deserves a good smack across the head the ungreatful little turd! I wont give her anything if she is going to behave like that! When i was 13 i got what i was given couldn't even pick what i wanted and that wasn't 10 years ago! I dont know kids nower days are just so ungreatful and have bad attitudes!

Steph xx

HoshPosh

Lunar_Eclipse wrote: »

Tough one and I don't envy you.

But I'd relax. Christmas isn't until next week so why the detailed conversations beforehand, beyond a one off 'what are you hoping for this year' chat or list? Otherwise the magical anticipation is completely ruined.:)

I'm 23 and I still hate knowing what I'm going to get My mum was struggling what to get me and I pointed out a 'Sound Asleep' pillow that your ipod plugs in and I've still got her to wrap it and put it under the tree :rotfl:

OP, you have my sympathy. It's not that long since I was a teenager and I know I was awkward for awkwards sake cos it was just 'easier' and the raging hormones made me feel like this. It might be a worth giving her some info about the credit crunch etc though as I always felt so bad 'asking' for stuff cos money was tight and she may not realise if money is tight.

pinkshoes

Just incase she has any more teenage strops, I would cut out lots of articles from the newspapers, highlighting all those people who have lost their jobs, and are struggling to pay their mortgage/rent, let alone buy christmas presents for their kids.

Tell her to stop being an ungrateful little !!!!!! (my parents never swore, so I distinctly remember being called this when I was having a similar teenage strop!), and if she doesn't want the phone/dinner/whatever else she strops about, then next year you will be donating her christmas money to charity.

dora37

Stephb1986 wrote: »

She deserves a good smack across the head the ungreatful little turd! I wont give her anything if she is going to behave like that! When i was 13 i got what i was given couldn't even pick what i wanted and that wasn't 10 years ago! I dont know kids nower days are just so ungreatful and have bad attitudes!

Steph xx

Oh the irony of your last sentence and your first!

jellyhead

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

I only have one son, now grown up; he was never like that, but apparently that is the exception rather than the rule, so perhaps I was just lucky. (He was an absolutely vile toddler though!).

Both of mine have been vile toddlers, but everyone tells me they make the loveliest adults ... somebody please tell me it's true? :rotfl:

I'm surprised at how many here say the child needs a slap - surely by the teen years a parent should have found better ways? What do you do when they are bigger and stronger than you - have a fight and just see who can do the most damage