Depression Support Thread

alba37

Sazbo wrote: »

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Happy Birthday Meyore hun!

Hope you're having a fab day :j Can I have one of these --> :beer:

Much love,
Sazzy xxxxxxxxxx

:j :j Happy Birthday Meyore :j :j

Hope you have a lovely day!

A x :beer:

La-Cara

sorry to hear about your dog slowlyfading xx

Many happy returns Meyore _party_

how is everyone tonight? hope all is well xx

BizzyBek

!!{hugs}} slowlyfading. I lost my two elderly cats this year and losing a pet can be so heart wrenching Take comfort in that you gave them a great home.

Sugar_Coated_Owl

(((HUGS))) to slowlyfading and whitevanwoman. I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your dog. It's so sad when a pet dies, they really do become part of the family and a true friend. Thinking about you both xxx

Sugar_Coated_Owl

Happy Birthday meyore

:bdaycake:

I hope you've had a lovely day.

xxx

Sugar_Coated_Owl

I really can't believe it. My Mum has returned home because the man that she was with has left her. This is the second time she's had an affair and the second time she's come back. I can't even look at her, let alone speak to her. I feel so sorry for my Dad because I just think she will do it again at some point and she's told us so many lies it's difficult to know what to believe. It was only 2 weeks ago she got my Dad arrested for taking some of her CD's :mad: She's said and done so much to hurt us all I just can't bear to stay living at home if she's here. Money is a problem, I just don't have enough spare cash to move out. I don't know what to do maybe my social worker can advise.

Amber_Sunshine

Sorry you're in such a difficult situation, RBK, why does your dad take her back?

Slowly, I'd be gutted if I lost my cat, and I've only had her a few months. Our pets really are part of us and so much loved.

shazrobo

why do some people turn nasty and put others down to make them selves feel better?

Tiff_2

Hi wvw!
Welcome back hunnie - it's lovely to see you posting again.

wvw wrote:

Hang on in there. Take it hour by hour if necessary. That's what I'm doing at the moment. I'm just waiting for it to get dark and then it'll be nearly bedtime and then I can go to bed and hope to fall asleep and get some blessed relief. When you wake up, you will have got through another day and you might just feel a little bit better. If you don't feel better, do the same again. Just get through the hours as best you can. Eventually there comes a time when it is a little better.

I completely agree with your tips on getting through a crisis, wvw and you should feel proud of having the insight that you do into your illness. I've always said that you have to break it all down into bite size pieces that you can manage at the time and this is a great example angel. Even an hour can be daunting and there have been times when I've broken it down to 'If I can just get through this next half hour...' or at really rough times, even 15 minutes. There's nothing wrong with that and at some point, hopefully our brain kicks in with 'Ok, I got through that half hour, I can get through an hour.' When we feel this low, it's best just to go right back to basics and write down a simple list every morning to follow. I do this because as well as feeling very low, my memory goes - and takes my sense of time with it! So, the list can be as basic as this...
1. get up
2. have a wash
3. eat breakfast
4. take my meds
5. eat lunch
6. eat dinner
7. go to bed
And when you feel better, you can start to fill in more steps on your checklist one at a time. Whatever you manage inbetween these points guys, is a bonus.

wvw wrote:

I've had the worst christmas I can remember. I had some bad Christmases as a kid but the brain is good at blanking out unpleasant and traumatic memories so although I know I had bad times, thankfully I don't remember many details of them now. I'm hoping, in time, I'll forget what happened this year. My depression has hit me with a wallop and I am what my doc would call "in crisis" - have slept in same clothes for 3 days now, not bathed since xmas eve, not eaten since xmas day, unplugged the phone, switched off mobile, totally retreated from the world. There's no heating on in the house cos I can't afford coal & I don't have central heating. The only form of human interaction I can handle is through the anonymity of a forum with other strangers. There is no point in seeing the doc as there is nothing that anyone can do to help. It's simply a waiting game. I just have to wait until something happens that forces me out into the world or my mood improves.

wvw wrote:

Sorry to dump on you - I only really intended to give a bit of support to PinkTwirl - I know there's nothing I can do to help but maybe if you know that there are people out here who understand and have similar feelings to you, you might not feel so alone.

Take care, and hang on in there. I've been through this so many times that I know that it will eventually get a bit better but its the getting through it that's so hard. x

You shouldn't apologise wvw. In fact, I think it was incredibly courageous of you to post with such honesty. I'm sure at least half the thread - including myself! - stood up and said 'I've felt like that!'

You really helped others with your post but I'm really worried about you, sweetheart. I'm so sorry that you've had such a crisis this Christmas.
You really need some help now angel and there are ways of getting it and even people who will fight on your behalf to get the help you need. It's been a long time since you posted wvw, and it might trigger a few ideas if you could tell me what your personal situation is like now.
I know your insight is good hunnie, but there are some very basic things not to do.
Please don't ever
- stop eating
- isolate yourself
- go without fuel

I think the first thing is to get you food and heat hunnie and to help do that, you need to switch your house phone on. It is dangerous not to have food and heat hunnie - however old you are - and there are some nasty freezes coming nationwide this week. I know how hard it is to speak to people when we're this low, but if you can make the first steps, then other people can take it from there. Let's think practically here and make a plan, hun.

- Do you have any family, friends or neighbours nearby who you could call angel? I know you don't feel like talking but this is important as it will allow someone to be there for you immediately. No-one would want to think that you're dealing with this alone and people can be very kind. They will be there to do the things you can't do atm.

- Call your doc, angel - yes, I know we learn to play the waiting game and sit it out, but there's also a time when we need to ask for help and I think you're there. There is every point in seeing the doc hun! We can't say that there is nothing anyone can do to help, even though it feels like it. This is a common thought angel, and not really helpful to you. Your dr can get you emergency help to access support, sweetheart. Just because you know this is a crisis time, it doesn't mean that you should ignore getting help for it, hun.

- Call Social Services wvw. They have an adult team who can access help for you quickly, possibly including getting you some money to buy coal and food. They are on emergency duty over the holidays too so tell them that this is an emergency. Better yet, if you've contacted a family member/friend/neighbour they can argue your point for you.

- Call your mental health crisis team today as well, hunnie - they can also get you help quickly.

- This one takes a little bit longer but...
Can I Get Any Help to Pay My Fuel Bills?

If you are on Income Support or Income-Based Jobseekers Allowance or certain benefits, you may get help from the Benefits Agency such as:

A cold weather payment if you are old, ill, disabled or have young children.

A one-off winter fuel payment
A loan or a grant from the Social Fund for the cost of reconnection, or installation or re-siting of a meter.
You cannot get a Budgeting Loan or a Grant to pay your electricity and gas bills. However, in very limited circumstances, you might get a Crisis Loan to help pay a fuel bill.
Social Services - You might get money to help pay a fuel bill if it prevents your children being taken into care.
Charities - You might get help from a charity to help pay a fuel bill, but only in very limited circumstances. Contact your local Neighbourhood Office who will be able to advise you further.

The DWP can also make emergency payments to people who do work and are in crisis situations as you are.

- While you're waiting for someone to come angel, wrap yourself up in layers if you haven't done so already and it would be a good idea to boil some hot water for a hot water bottle. Other things to do include plenty of hot drinks, which will also warm your hands, and eating things like soup - again designed to warm you up.

- Christmas is gone now sweetie, so put that out of your mind.

It's getting very cold angel - and you live in the north where it'll be even colder, not the Costa del Sol. Even a young person in these circumstances can be at risk of hypothermia. So please don't take any chances, wvw.
If there's anything I can do sweetheart, please feel free to shout out. As I say, I'm not a professional but I can hear what you're going through and I think that the above list of professionals really might be able to help.

Please post again and let us know how you are hunnie. I hope something here helps you wvw - hang in there hunnie and pick up the phone and ask for help.
Thinking of you angel.
Much love,
Tiff xxx

Tulip

shazrobo wrote: »

why do some people turn nasty and put others down to make them selves feel better?

:hello: Shaz,

Hope you are ok *hugs*


Katie