Depression Support Thread

meyore

Hi everyone :wave:I hope things are going well for you all this festive season

Nice to see some old faces posting and hi to all the new peoples I haven't met.

Been a busy bee but I should be around a little more from now on if you'll have me back! Hugs to anyone who needs them.

xxxxx

ilovegreatdanes

hi.
wvw....would like to say how profound and moving i found your last post.some will not understtand how you feel as its something that cant be described and you end up feeling like you are bein stupid and denying all the true stuff and believing what they say, as if you are imagining it.you cant describe to anyone how low and worthless your life is, that you are goin throu the motions almost.the more you think how hopeless it is, the worse you feel and you spiral down so its harder to see the good in anything.its doesnt help to say "its just a phase/bad day/get over it/pull yourself together/dont worry/mountain out of molehill/think of ppl less fortunate/count your blessings" cos ppl who say this stuff are not helpful cos its more than a bad day, its undescribable and they will never comprehend the darkness of a lonely soul.they wouldnt expect someone with 2 broken legs to run a marathon or tell a mother whos son has just died in her arms ,to forget it and get on with cleaning up the house.
i lost my great dane in may last year very unexpectedly and can empathise completely with you.dogs give unconditional love and never judge.they have a gift of knowing without fuss and words ,what you need and when to be there and when to lay by your feet.they dont ask for much and are grateful for even the slightest affection.i miss charlie all the time.i didnt want another dog but lasted about a month and got a springer spaniel.hes 8 months, a complete pain in the butt and had a brain transplant at birth........but he has decided he loves me most in all the world and is the most lovin dog i have ever had.wants to be with me constantly and is always happy.i really think he is charlie re-incarnated.just have to get the peeing with excitement sorted and he will be brilliant.
hes one of those dogs that you think about giving away every week .....but will keep till you are both old and incontinent together:)iykwim.....life has a way of taking you unawares wen you least expect.
i agree about your house if its giving you grief.....and besides your mum doesnt have to live there, so she isnt the best judge, prob just wants best for you.
we all have to make our own mistakes cos that how we learn and grow.if the idea of a new start overseas makes your heart sing out, then its prob the right thing to do.at least you will have an easier decision with less emotional baggage to think round.
i wish you all the best, whatever you decide...the main thing is YOU decide.
love ilgd xxx

Amber_Sunshine

whitevanwoman wrote: »

I think I could have coped with the grief had it not been for Christmas and the inevitable family dramas - being told I've spoiled Christmas by moping around, that I should think about all the millions of people who die or get killed, that I need to get control of myself, that it was only a dog...

IMO, people who say that are lacking in compassion and the ability to give and receive love.

Stephb1986_2

Hi everyone just a quick pop in to see how everyone is, I hope you all had a great christmas and got loads of nice pressies.

Tiff im so sorry to hear about your mum, its 2 years on the 3rd of january since we lost my nan i miss her so much and its just gone 5 years since we lost my grandad its so awful to see them when they are ill. I hope your ok

Love hugs and kisses

Steph xx

absolutebounder

LadyMorticia wrote: »

I feel not good enough. Not pretty enough. Not smart enough. Not nice or kind enough. Not special enough.

LM you deserve a slap:rotfl: This is reminding me of how studentphil posts on DT

. I've always been told that I am ugly and fat, and will never be good for anyone - that no one will ever love me,

Were you told this by anyone important. Sounds like jealousy from others to me

but I know my Sam loves me. I just wonder how long I'll be good enough for,

Think like that and you will wear him down until he thinks whats the point. Assuming he is not an idiot accept his judgement.




I have decided that I am going to save up to have rhinoplasty - not because I'm vain, but because my nose is the main reason I hate my face. I'm okay with the other features (pretty much). Just my nose and my dad's are akmost indentical and looking at myself in the mirror is like looking at him - and he is a twazock. My nose is the only thing I want done, and Sam is backing me.Not because he wants me to change or anything but he knows how much my nose knocks my confidence.

Anyway, having a low evening, I'll hopfully be okay tomorrow.

xx

There is nothing wrong with your hooter. how do you know you would like it if it was changed. Would it matter to anyone else? Fact. people often think cosmetic surgery will improve their lives. fact most peoples lives are not improved because the problem was not their body but a weak ego that needs support from others. and when others dont give it you have sweet FA.
You have been born with a kit for life. You dont need to change it just use it to its potential.

whitevanwoman

To ILGD - thank you xx

LadyMorticia

Lol AB!
I do need a slap indeed. I would do it myself, but I hit hard and I don't wanna knock myself out. XD
I may be tiny, but I have alot of upper body strength XD

I'm feeling better now. I smell nice and generally look okay - albeit tired, but relatively normal.
I'm all packed ready for when I go to Sam's.
I wonder what crisis my friends will find themselves in that they'll feel he need to try and take up all my time again. XD That's what happened when Sam was here. Almost anyway. In the end I turned my phone off. It's on pretty much 24/7 anyway, but sometimes I need some "me" time.

AB, I like your signature.
Thank you everyone for your kind words earlier. I need to learn to accept myself and have belief in myself more. I'm working on it.

xx

maytaurus

Tiff_2

Hi pink!
Thanks for sharing your situation with us hunnie - I can empathise.

twirl wrote:

I'm down at the moment because countless people I meet ask me for my number with the crap that comes out of their mouths "yeah, we will need to meet up, give me your number!!!". Why is it then I never hear from them again, only have 8 people in this world, including 3 family members that give a stuff about me, and spend every weekend in on my own. At 31 I'm told that is not a life, well !!!!!! do they expect me to do about it? Stalk people? I have more pride than that!

Been single almost 3 years now. Spend about £20K because I had no one to "play" with at weekends. Feeling down. Don't see the point anymore.

I know what you mean pink and I won't embarrass myself by comparing stats with you, sweetie.

I'm not disrespecting anything you're feeling now angel, but one of these days someone will call you. The positive here, for what it's worth, is that at least they're still asking. People can be fickle and I think what you describe regarding telephone numbers is common to many people. They probably don't mean you any upset hun, though that's scant consolation.

I'm glad you've kept your pride pink, because if these people are that unreliable, you shouldn't have them in your life - they don't deserve it. And no-one has the right to define for you whether your life is a valid one. At 31, you've still got many roads to travel and these critics might be feeling more than a tad jealous, that their travelling days seem to be over. It is better to be on your own angel, than to compromise your standards and be stuck in a disaster of a relationship.

Regarding the 20k hunnie, if you can afford it, good for you. I'm sure there must have been times when that brought you great pleasure, allowed you to do other things and there's nothing wrong in that. Why shouldn't you enjoy it? But as I said pink, I know these words don't make you feel any better. I'm sure you've had the ideas of trying new crafts or courses and meeting new people in different social situations etc. than you usually meet them in, so I won't insult your intelligence with that.

I'm sorry you're feeling lonely and down sweetheart, but there is always a point in trying still. This is a horrible time of year for singles and then Valentine's Day isn't far behind it either, all of which makes the coming year feel daunting. You've come this far hun so why not wait and see what will be written on the page entitled 2009, in the months to come?

I know how frustrated you must feel. I have read your later posts and it seemed that letting it out made you feel better, which is great. And as so often happens with the magic of this thread, it's not long before you're posting support for others.
I hope you're feeling better today angel.

Be kind to yourself, hun.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi shaz!
How are you angel?

shaz wrote:

morning all, feeling low this morning, not even dressed yet, am ready for kids going back to school, unfortunatly thats not for another week yet. so hard keeping them entertained, and i just feel like i could just do with a quiet hour or two, to recharge my batteries, but it aint going to happen...welcome to the newbies, not good at names, when i'm feeling like i am today

I know it's a huge rollercoaster for you in the holidays, hunnie. What sort of things are the boys into, angel? Maybe we can put our collective heads together and come up with some ideas - especially free or cheap. I know some libraries lend out console games shaz, and most will have dvds to watch. If you can get them to watch a dvd, you might be able to grab the couch and even if you just lie there, you might feel a little better, bless you.
Don't ever doubt yourself shaz - you do an amazing job!

shaz wrote:

(((big hugs))) tiff, and lots extra smarties for you,

Thank you angel. Funny you should mention it actually - I've had the odd one or two to keep me going...

Awww shaz - you had to go and say the smartie word, didn't you?!
Now you're gonna set katie tulip and sazzy off again!
Well before you two start - no, I'm not sharing! Must remember to do another smartie inventory soon...heh, heh...

Take care - and some deep breaths as well, sweetheart.
Much love,

Tiff xxx