Mon 15th Dec-daily chat. 10 days and counting!!!

spud30

One word of warning though Snaggs.

I have always assumed I'd feel much better about myself when I've lost some weight, got fitter etc etc. I realised when I lost 3 stone last year and felt no better about myself that I could get down to my ideal weight and probably still have no confidence/low self esteem. I'm still trying to work out whether confidence is simply something you either have or dont have

Trust takes time to achieve. As I said, I put DH through all sorts of awfullness, testing him to see if he was like the bar stewards I'd been with before. He passed the test

bank_of_slate

I agree with Spud.
It's like the shopping thing, we start 'if only-izing' meaning that we see something we want and decide when we have that we will feel better/thinner/ smarter/happier etc.
So we buy it and still feel the same so we look for the next life altering thing that will make us feel all the above... and so the spending cycle goes on!
...Linda xx

Burlesque_Babe

I have various freeby sachets of moisturiser gathered from the freebies board, but that's about it! I just can never be faffed to be honest, I've never been into pampering type stuff.

pania

HIya BB, cheeky question, do you ahve a simple recepie for swiss roll? got the eggs butter, flour and cocoa powder but in what quantities and how long do i cook for? sorry hope you don't mind me delving into the font of your coookery knowledge!!

schoolrunmum

spud30 wrote: »

One word of warning though Snaggs.

I have always assumed I'd feel much better about myself when I've lost some weight, got fitter etc etc. I realised when I lost 3 stone last year and felt no better about myself that I could get down to my ideal weight and probably still have no confidence/low self esteem. I'm still trying to work out whether confidence is simply something you either have or dont have

Trust takes time to achieve. As I said, I put DH through all sorts of awfullness, testing him to see if he was like the bar stewards I'd been with before. He passed the test

No,I think we start out with it and it gets knocked out of you, bit by bit...the odd careless comment made by someone, like chinese water torture and before you know it, it's all gone and you can't make the simplest decision for fear of cocking up-that's me anyhow!I am having a real tough time of it at the mo,on the confidence front-it's just all gone...although I had a horrible dream last night (that was SO vivid!) that my DH had a chinese mistress (???) in our house, and when I found out I beat him to death with my laptop!!!Any psychologists here tonight wanna analyse THAT ??

penguin83

Evening all - sitting here waiting for heating engineer to turn up - darent take the kids to bed because he will turn up then and cant bear another night freezing to death!

Happy Birthday Toto - hope you have a goodun! x x

Gemmzie

Hope he turns up soon penguin, cold isn't much fun at all

bank_of_slate

Can you stick on a record and do some dancing with the kids?
you'll be warm in no time!
...Linda xx

sammy115

schoolrunmum wrote: »

that my DH had a chinese mistress (???) in our house, and when I found out I beat him to death with my laptop!!!Any psychologists here tonight wanna analyse THAT ??

It means you won't stand for any carp!!!:T

penguin83

bank_of_slate wrote: »

Can you stick on a record and do some dancing with the kids?
you'll be warm in no time!
...Linda xx

Ive been doing housework in an effort to get warm :eek: thats how bad it is!

Its not too bad in fairness if I stay in the living room where the fire is - Im just being a wimp. The kitchen is freezing though because its an extension so has nothing above or to the sides - but at least it will keep me away from food! x