work colleague has crush on me.

ceridwen

MrsTine wrote: »

Having managed staff myself and had a couple of interesting moments I have to say the only incidents with other women "not taking the hint" thankfully have not been at work... Definitely speak to your line manager about the issue. Explain you're very unsure about how to address this issue as it's not a position you've been in before. Definitely helps thinking of them as a bloke as far as how you'd deal with them. Legally there is no difference between harrassment from one over the other and you'd be better off treating it the same.
Last lady who failed to get the hint that I wasn't interested had it explained very clearly and firmly with a graphical suggestion thrown in (I wasn't having a good day and I'm still amazed I stuck to the graphical explanation rather than a demo... then again... getting suntanned in stripes never did appeal to me...) - but on the other hand I have no qualms make the exact same point to blokes who won't get the hint... last one should at least I think still stands sideways to ladies he doesn't know... just in case... Did I mention I like my personal space?
So... my point is... feeling very uncomfy is certainly normal. Make notes of any inappropriate comments she makes and if possible any people that might have overheard her. Then call a meeting with you, her, HR and possibly your line manager. Mention some of the incidents and that these are making you feel very uncomfortably and you'd like them and the bahaviour to cease immediately otherwise you will make an official complaint rather than this informal discussion.

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Well...thats another way of doing my strategic "blow your top" lose temper bigtime suggestion.....