ripped off by a friend

squidge60

i think you have done the right thing if shes a good friend its not worth risking your friendship. i have had 1 sil give me clothes for my dd and most of it i ragged another sil i havent wanted anything from her (so skank).but i have just accepted with thanks as i dont think she realises tbh :rolleyes: next time she offers i would politely decline.;)

paddy's_mum

Bide your time, chickpea. Keep an eye on what, if anything, comes along to complete the bargain - you may well end up feeling that you misjudged her. However, don't forget the tears you shed today and just be aware that you may have to be ultra careful in the future with this particular friend.

If it helps, when put on the spot like this, I have a stock phrase that gets me out of all kinds of potentially nasty situations while still saving face for everyone involved. I just say "oh, that's a kind offer - can I think on it overnight and let you know?"

Paparika

oh i remember when i was pg, and husband being the cheapskate he was bought a pram for £20, it was horrible and i scrubbed it for days and days and it got no better, my mum took one look at it and turned her nose up even tho we were poor and this was our first (one and only) so nearer the time i stood up to him and marched him down to mothercare, £100 pram was more than enough as far as he was concerned, it lasted 3 months the wheels fell off but mothercare replaced the pram it did it again by that time DS was old enough to go into a buggy.

scottishchick27

squidge60 wrote: »

i think you have done the right thing if shes a good friend its not worth risking your friendship.

If she was such a good friend she wouldn't have offered her a lot of baby items and then ask for £100 then when they had agreed a price taken half of the items back. If I were the OP I would ask why she had done that and if I didn't get a reasonable answer would cancel the cheque and give her £50 (if that).

Violetta_2

If you are keeping the pram have a good look underneath it, a lot of them have covers that come off (bit fiddly) that you can put through the washing machine. I've had 2 pushchairs that do that and come up like new, I have a thing about grubby prams make me shudder. (know it can't be helped with a mucky pup toddler). Just given mine to womens aid, otherwise you could have them.

squashy

Not sure she is a good friend either. Sorry.

My friend recently won a baby sling in a raffle and I teased her that I was jealous because it was lovely, next thing you know she had posted it to me and wouldn't accept a penny!! She could have fetched over £50 for it on ebay and that would have been that. She is not rolling in it either, but instead wanted to do a nice thing for her friend.

Please think carefully about this friendship, you are worth more than being taken for a ride. What do you get out of the friendship? Is it even sided or are you the one that offers the most support to her? Think how she makes you feel. Do you feel uplifted by her or drained?

hayley11

I agree with what Chickpea is saying, it is hard to come by good friends and I understand why she doesn't want to rock the boat but then I also agree that it's not a very friendly thing to do, I think asking for some kind of money isn't that bad, I mean she did pay for it and money is tight for all of us at the moment but £100 does seem very steep and to turn around and she's keeping some of the stuff is a little bit low IMHO.

I used to have a littlewoods catalogue and I used to let my friends and family order things from it, one friend ordered a £180 double pram, another ordered clothes worth £80. I never got a penny from either of them, they were both just so skint that paying me wasn't a priority, i'm not making excuses, I was fuming at the time, they shouldn't have ordered them if they couldn't afford to pay for them, I couldn't really afford to pay for them myself! I never let anybody else get anything from it again after that. I'm still friends with both of them now, I like them, they're good for going out with, they make me laugh and I don't have many friends so I do want to keep the ones I have!

mamamia

What friend would sell such a pram you described for 100 quid? Only a friend who does not really care. As others have said, let her know that you can get lots more for that amount if you are a car boot sale and freecycle lass like me. If you don't say anything now, it will always be on your mind anytime you see her or when you start using the expensive 2nd/3rd hand pram she's sold to you. Good luck

skintchick

I agree. I really want a Pliko pramette which is £300 new but there is one on eBay for £99 in great condition with accessories. Your friend has really cheated you IMO.

timberflake

Lesson for the future, you should have inspected everything before handing any cash over. For some people, the lure of cash it too much of a temptation and probably saw you as an opportunity to get rid of stuff she didn't want and make some cash in the process.