CSA Question

3onitsway

flateric81 wrote: »

initially he would be assessed for 1 child which would have been for you soley. the new assessment would have been for 2 children which would then be split in two.

for a case to be opened against someone they must either: accept parentage, have parentage proven in a dna test, have been married to the other parent, be named on the birth certificate or have adopted the child. If he initially disputed paternity, has been offered DNA in the past but then went awol and avoided the CSA, the CSA can presume parentage whether he was married/on birth cert or not.

its likely he did the deed before he met you, and then had his name put on the birth certificate. if he has accepted parentage, the other parent is unlikely to even allow the dna test, and just because she refuses the test the claim will remain valid. No it won't. If the PWC refuses the DNA, and alleged NRP is not on the birth cert, there is no case. But if the PWC is sure he's the dad, why would she refuse DNA?

if you do get in touch with her and find out what happened - post in on here (it sounds interesting)

It is possible that he knows nothing about this woman/child. How many grown men can remember every drunken fumble they had when they were 18?!? Not many i'm sure.

flateric81

if a DNA test was offered and HE refused to take part (for whatever reason) the CSA can presume parentage.

if he was sure the child was not his he could have had the test carried out and he would not have had to pay for it. at this stage a dna test can still be done, but the mother will have to allow it.

JOHNSTONE1

he didnt refuse to take part he asked for one to be done they said they would send out the forms etc to arrange which they probably did but by the time they were sent he had gone AWOL from the army. It wasnt something he planned and was nothing to do with the CSA business as i said it was due to other actors in his life.

I understand why under those circumstances the CSA went ahead with proceedings, i dont however understand why he would not be allowed one now especially considering he's not on the birth certificate, has no knowledge of this woman was never in a relationship with her etc why would he be expected to pay for a child that might not be his. It shouldnt be up to her to decided if she will allow a DNA test she was the one who has named him as the father do we just take her word gor it even though he cant even remember her himself.... surely not!!??

JOHNSTONE1

plus he didnt and still doesnt have £295 for a test

Zara33

JOHNSTONE1 wrote: »

plus he didnt and still doesnt have £295 for a test

You need to get that money somehow for the DNA test...£295 might seem a lot just now but if he doesn't do it now then a DOE for approx 10 years i know which i would rather pay.

tamsin1982

what about if he was to call her? he could apologise for not remembering and ask where they met etc... if it was his local places and she could remember enough it might jog his memory or make him confident enough to know he'd get a refund for the DNA test.

I feel if this is his child then he should try do more than just pay the csa, obviously i know it wouldnt be easy but surely he must be curious? also it would mean your child has a sibling and one day you would need to tell them that which will only get harder the older they get

JOHNSTONE1

thanks tamsin thats a good idea, i'll try and convince him. You dont think she'll be funny with him as he's not paid anything though, he hasnt got a job so even if the CSA knew where he was hr couldnt pay anything. we were thinking that if he does turn out to be his then he would try and make an arrangement outside of the CSA as he is currently training to be a carpenter and will be self employed and his wages will be all over te place if he's making much at all. I doubt she will be getting regular payments through the CSA. How much to you think would be an acceptable amount to offer per month i know the CSA base it on earnings but we cant make an estimate based on that cos he doesnt earn anything at the mo.

Also if he did call her rather than the CSA can they arrange their own DNA test or is that not so easily done?

thanks everyone for your help x

tamsin1982

well im sure she'd like to know his situation and the reason she isnt getting any payments. while he isnt working or claiming any benefit (like job seekers) he doesnt have to pay anything so any amount he privately agreed would be totally his own choice. once hes earning then it will be 15% of his net pay AFTER 15% has been taken off for the child living with you so you could use that as a rough guide for a private arrangement or try the calculater on the CSA website.
i think the csa would be a best route for DNA test because you'd have to pay even if he was proved not to be the father using someone else.

remember tho that this woman will not be expecting a call and may not want to hear from your husband at all, like someone said she may have been forced to claim through being on benefits but then i guess she would have said she didnt know who he was if she really didnt want him to know?

iluvfreebies

how do yous have the parent with cares contact details if you dont know anything about her??

frugallass

iluvfreebies wrote: »

how do yous have the parent with cares contact details if you dont know anything about her??

I did wonder that myself but thought I might have missed something somewhere