Aghhhhhhh teenagers

jackieb

doelani wrote: »

This will make you laugh , I was buying daughter a new hairdryer today and was acually thinking how much use stepdaugher woudl get out of it as well, so realy was buying them both new hairdryer lol

But that's a nice thing to be thinking.

Poppy9

jackieb wrote: »

I shared with my sister who was 6 years older. She wouldn't let me into her side of the room, which was kind of difficult because the door was there! She used to hold me down and sit and fart on my face!! :eek: I honestly thought she would kill me. I also remember her babysitting me and trying to get a lit fag in my mouth and make me have a drag. I was 9. So mums (and dads) don't let your older kids babysit their younger siblings. It was torture!! Made me a non-smoker so I suppose I should thank her.

That made me laugh so much.

My sister two years older started terrorising me when I was still in my cot. She used to complain to my mother that I had bit her but my mother caught her one day giving me her finger and telling me to bite!

For years I slept with even my ears tucked into the bedding as she told me a monster who lived in the attic came out at night and nibbled little girls ears:eek: She was a bit handy with her fists too and once made me sit on the footboard of my bed with her on my lap to do a double backwards somersault. I ended up with a nose bleed.

My eldest sister who is 11 years older just treated me with disdain but my brothe (8 years older) was fab and used to spoil me rotten:T

One thing though, no matter how much we hated one another, we always stuck up for each other outside the house and never grassed on one another to our parents if we were in trouble in school - we did use it as blackmail though:D

whitewing

Just intrigued now with family dynamics (as only have 1 DS). Why don't son/step-son share? You don't have to answer obviously as it's not directly relevant.

doelani

whitewing wrote: »

Just intrigued now with family dynamics (as only have 1 DS). Why don't son/step-son share? You don't have to answer obviously as it's not directly relevant.

son and stepsons bedrooms are two small for 2 beds and nor suitable for bunks due to rooms having slanted ceilings lol believe mewe did all the configirations lol also son is 20 and works shifts and stepspon is 12. Boys need privacy as well if you know what I mean :rolleyes: would have been easier to have just got a bigger hosue but 5 bedroom was all we could manage lol

Savvy_Sue

doelani wrote: »

Think we will get them both drawers with a lock on one each for personal things

Don't go to IKEA for these, or if you do buy different things, or double check the keys. We bought office type locking drawers for work but one key fits all ...

seven-day-weekend

I have never regretted the fact that my sisters were grown up when I was born and therefore I was like an only child.

This thread has done nothing to make me think otherwise.

I would get the OLDER girl a lockable drawer. She is the one who is having her things stolen. If the other one's upset, well so she should be. May teach her consideration for others' stuff.

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Oldernotwiser

doelani wrote: »

my daughter is very good to her stepsisters and to old to play games to get one of them into trouble. I do not think the 14yo thinks there is anything wrong with just taking stuff to use, it is only makeup and perfum, but I feel my DD lost her privacy when they started to share. No solution to that one I'm afraid.
Think we will get them both drawers with a lock on one each for personal things

But it's important for her to learn that it IS stealing, even if you solve some of the immediate problem with locked drawers. After all, it's not really fair to your daughter to have to lock her shampoo away when it's not being used. Nobody should have to live like that!

Oldernotwiser

mademoiselle wrote: »

At that age, the lure of clothes and make up lying around the home is too much for most girls...they see it, they take it, it's as simple as that.

You must have a very strange definition of stealing if you don't think that behaviour fits the description!

Oldernotwiser

doelani wrote: »

Boys need privacy as well if you know what I mean :rolleyes:

And you think that girls don't have the same reasons?

belfastgirl23

I'd say too though that someone needs to have a proper word with your SD about this, whether you or DH is up to you. It is a lesson you need to learn at some stage. Especially if you think your DD is likely to agree to DSD using her stuff if asked first! I think at the minute it's all a bit reactive and falling into the accused/denying type of conversation whereas what you want is a general talk about what is and is not acceptable in the house...

Lockable drawers are a good idea too though!