Weekly Flylady Thread 27th October 2008

chunky79

OH gawd i am in tears!!!
Thanks girls i do feel really crap, and i know i have got to do something so i think thats my job for monday morning.

SummerMoon

Chunky..... Don't be afraid to ask for help. Its the responsible thing to do. You know you are struggling so it's the best thing for your own wellbeing and for you kids. They want a happy mum, not a miserable mum if you get what i'm saying.
I know what you going through, I suffered from PND after both my kids and was scared to ask for any help... but the day i screamed at my 3 month old baby i knew i needed that help!

(((HUGS))) hunni. Do what you need to do.

Pink_Fairy_2

Boddy - sorry I forgot to thank you for the welcome back.:o

Chunky - thank you for the good luck wishes. I can only do my best (Or as William Booth apparently said to his granddaughter "That's not good enough. You must do better than your best!")

Also - You are not a bad Mummy. (Coz if you are that would make me a bad one too!:rotfl:)

• Both mine ended up full time in Nursery by default. They started off part time, but others didn't take up places so they were offered more. I can honestly say that they both loved it. They got to meet other children, play with different toys, learn to share - there's 7 years between mine. They developed a measure of independence and it prepared them for the slightly tougher world of "big school". Having said that, someone forgot to close the connecting door, so DD tried "big school" early coz she went exploring. I did warn them she'd wander given the chance, but did they listen (Mrs Workman - you were lovely!) It also turned out that DD was "bright" having a reading age of 12 at 7 years old, so Nursery probably helped her a great deal.
• For you - if you have an appointed time, you can do all the stuff that LO hate such as shopping, housework, but............ you can also get the "me" time you richly deserve to make you the "Yummy Mummy" you are!
• This will mean that when you are with your small people, you will all enjoy the quality time you have.

Now keep repeating SarahShattered's mantra and go book a place!!!

SarahShattered

chunky79 wrote: »

OH gawd i am in tears!!!
Thanks girls i do feel really crap, and i know i have got to do something so i think thats my job for monday morning.

Oh no..... you've got me started now!!

I think one of the problems we all face these days is that we're expected to do everything... look slim and beautiful, give our children life-enriching experiences, work, run the home, exercise, cook stunning, healthy meals from scratch, having sourced the best, locally produced low carbon-footprint food, and smile while we're doing it all!

It's just not possible. So many of our mother's generation were on tranquilisers, or drinking "Mother's Little Helper". And I don't think they were expected to perform in the way that we are.

Give yourself a break girlie, you've got loads on your plate. And it sounds like you're doing really well too.

SS
xx

loopy-loo73

Chunky - you are not a bad mum, you are doing what is best for you and your family, that makes you a good mum, a very good mum - don't ever forget it !!!!!

ok, results of hhc ...
got dressed
got suitcase down form loft for dd1 (she's only away 1 night & wants a suitcase :eek: )
put washing on line
mrT arrived
made cuppa

that's it :eek: might just carry on i think, plan of action ... drink cuppa, put shopping away, s&s kitchen

Lou x

chunky79

Well massive thanks for the well wishes and i have defiantely made mind up, also just quickly had a chat with OH on msn and he says go for it.

Also been looking up about mirena coil, which i know is coming out on 26th of november. I am usually bubbly, happy go lucky nothing stresses me out etc... in all honesty i have been hiding behind a front for a while "Oh look i am doing well" kind of thing. Apparently its can cause depression!!!! Lots of reports of it on the net
so i will have to see how i feel once its out, lots of people say within 10 to 12 days they feel so much better having not realised they felt that bad it wasn't until it was removed that they realised. My mum has been saying for months i have been a nightmare. Maybe its that or maybe its just the fact that i have got alot on??? I suppose i will know midway through december.

I cannot believe how much better i feel for actually admitting it and thankyou again!! i needed it xx

chunky79

I better start my HHC or i will be nowhere near ready for heading out the door to the dentist!!!

sexymouse

Well I've sent the PM to MSE Wendy for the lovefoodnotwaste comp, and have finally caught up with the thread. Big hugs to lil_me, chunky and anyone else who needs or wants one.

Sorry I missed you toochoosey before you went on hols, but hope you have a fab time.

Is anyone up for a HHC 11-11.30?

I'm going to finish getting dressed and make a cup of tea before I start if anyone wants one?

sexymouse xx

Valli

Flylady_Flower wrote: »

Ooooh, go for it...!:j (Tom, you had your chance...)

It was never an option - he has been single at the same time as me on two occasions and never showed an interest...but at least I have a hunk to chat to whenever ourpaths cross...sadly not often enough;)

hollyh

Happy Halloween everyone

Chunky you are not a bad Mum. I've put Ds2 in nursery two afternoons a week ( and it would be more if i could afford it;) ), we all need a break sometimes.

I'm really struggling to get going this morning. I think a HHC is required 11.00-11.30?

OH has stolen my hoover:mad: , he came over for it yesterday lunch time and my living room hasn't been hoovered since yesterday morning:eek: . It's such a state, it's really unforgiving and every little speck shows up. He was supposed to be bringing it back last night but it's still not here . If he's wrecked it i'll do unspeakable things to him.;)

So far today i have

Made beds
Got DS2 dressed
Showered & dressed
wm x 1
td x 1
Washed dishes
Emptied bins

Utility Room
Tidy I have started this
S & S
Hoover
Mop

Insurance form
Toddlers accounts
Rent Tods
Attack ebay pile
Sort, list & wrap presents
List presents to buy
Sort out post on top of microwave
Milk bottles recycling
Update spending spreadsheet
Ds 1's List

Tremendous Tuesday - the Land of Spare Oom and the Kids Room of Doom!!
Level One
Clear the floor of clutter.. books on shelves.. toys in chests... Reward - 15-30 minutes on the pc/gameboy/Wii/PS whatever... you choose...
Extras!!! - 'cos I know you did all that lot super-duper fast!
Finish any homework ready for back to school next week!

Thursday Thrills - Master bedroom and landing
Level Three
Clear out one cupboard/wardrobe that needs it
Extras - Pick a few!
Find 5 things to ebay
List those 5 things on ebay.. no escape this time!



Friday Frolics - SURPRISE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! a bit of catchup!
Level One
S&S the [STRIKE]kitchen[/STRIKE] and bathroom
Make time to do something for yourself!! A haircut, a long bath, a facial... whatever it takes.. do it!
Level Two
Whizz over the main living area.. make it presentable
[STRIKE]Clean the fluff out of the TD filters.. or clean the WM/DW filters
[/STRIKE]Level Three
HHC clearing the messiest room in the house Living room
Wash any windows that are needy Utility
Complete 1 task you have been 'meaning' to do for ages and not done it!! Insurance form
Extras
Clean out a cupboard.. Will do 2 bedroom ones with xmas presents in
Polish all your electrical appliances.. tv's, stereos etc
water and wipe any neglected plants
[STRIKE]Collect all the dirty laundry strewn about the house.. bedroom floors are the worst!
[/STRIKE]

Hmm still have loads to do.:rolleyes: