The Compers Inn - Part 8

krailton

I would play it by ear, and carry on going to see him and see what it brings, hes the one that has a girlfriend so he will be the one thats needs to decide what he wants to do, but may take a little time....If you feel strongly then follow your heart..

ThinkingOfLinking

On the upside, just had a call from a HMV near me; I may get a Xmas job!! I have an interview tomorrow.

ThinkingOfLinking

krailton wrote: »

I would play it by ear, and carry on going to see him and see what it brings, hes the one that has a girlfriend so he will be the one thats needs to decide what he wants to do, but may take a little time....If you feel strongly then follow your heart..

Thanks. I would never slag his GF off to him, or get heavy, drop hints or ultimatums. I am just going to continue to be there, looking good, making him laugh, singing his songs with him and hope he begins to move closer towards deciding but it has to all be up to him.

He gets jealous of me talking to other guys if he does nto know them too as he walked in the other night and I was taking to a guy who is minging to be mild but ok for a chat, and when I went to this man he asked me who he was but trying to act like he didn't care!!

bella165

Flickering_Ember wrote: »

On the upside, just had a call from a HMV near me; I may get a Xmas job!! I have an interview tomorrow.

goodluck for your interview tommorow

toniq

i know bell and gert and sfh have recentley all been badly hurt by men straying,
sometimes u need to look outside what makes u tingle and think what effect it could have on other people xxxx

Ive walked away many a time from someone ive lusted after because there could be issues, it just aint worth yours/or someone elses heart ache xxx

ThinkingOfLinking

bella165 wrote: »

goodluck for your interview tommorow

Thanks. I just had a call off the p/t job I quit, asking me to come in early today, or rather telling me to.

ThinkingOfLinking

I know....I have been the "other woman" before but won't do it again. But this time it's real.

gerturdeanna

Unless he does finish with her (but then how would you know he really has??), I would not touch him with a barge pole!!! It ain't worth the trouble tbh and you would never really know if he was doing the same to you...she may be ill or have a job that is on at the same time as his gigs, there may be loads of reasons why she isn't there cheering him on too.
Just my twopennyworth!! hehe!!

End of the day its your call FE, but I think you are sensible enough to know that there are 3 people involved in this 'relationship' and most only have two!!

Happy_shopper

Hi Flickering Ember, :wave: it's probably not what you want to hear but I'd stay away for a while. If it's you he wants to be with, he'll find a way to find you (it sounds like you have mutual acquaintances at the venue). It sounds a bit harsh, but does he often pick someone from the audience to sing to etc.? Do you know if he'd still act the same if you weren't there? And I agree with toniq, princess pixiedust etc. - I'd be really wary that he has a GF at the moment. I'd distance myself from that too- if he wants to leave her, it's up to him to do it. I'm really sorry if this sounds cold because I'm sure we've all yearned for someone we couldn't have for one reason or another but maybe he just isn't the right person for you, or the time is wrong right now. The best relationships for me have been where things have just fallen into place (I haven't even been looking out for them) and I haven't been able to believe my luck! I believe we all have someone out there who is 'the one for us' - there's someone in the world right now for too, you'll just need to be honest with yourself about whether this man is that person. I wish you well.

ThinkingOfLinking

His GF has been there a few times, either looking miserable and bored and texting and not singing along or jsut sitting there looking smug. She then follows him around like a lost puppy when he's on his break, like she'll follow him out for a ciggie break even though she does not smoke.

He has always been very honest with me. And I do think I could do a better job of looking after him than she could.