The Compers Inn - Part 8

ThinkingOfLinking

OK gert, and everyone. I would love some answers here. Firstly, nothing has happened physically with this man who I am going to talk about, other than the hug I'll explain later.

Going back to the summer, I'd nipped into a venue he was playing at to quickly ask a mate who worked there a question. I then left and when I came back later, I saw the man who'd been on stage, on the stairs, and he'd noticed me dash in and out. It was one of those instant moments and he began, not in an arrogant way but trying to impress me, telling me the songs he can perform etc and promising me a favourite of mine (not saying which!)

I came the next week and he dedicated that song to me and smiled lots and I decided to tell him I am interested, something I've never done before. He seemed thrilled and said he is "flattered to f**k" although he did tell me he is taken.

There was this nasty girl at the venue a lot over the next few weeks, who began spreading rumours and internet stalking me so badly I deleted most of my friends off Facebook and then beefed it up so you cannot search for me or message me or anythig if you're not on my friends list.

I kept away from him thinking she was his GF and she was jealous although nothing had happened. He saw me a few weeks later and asked what was wrong so I explained but she is not his GF, just some silly bird obsessed with him.

She then moved to the other side of the world so I am back. He began singing to me, as his GF was not there, and there was loads of banter, and we just spent the evening talking, drinking and flirting and he admitted he was interested.

I then saw him on my birthday and again he sang to me and dedicated songs to me and was lovely as his GF was not there.

On Friday, same as above, and even when I put on a green cardie he started playing Greensleeves. He knows he is the only guy I have ever liked (as in more than just fancy because he's hot), and that he is not even my usual type but there is something inexplicable drawing me to him. He was upset aout something and confided in me; I hugged him but he held me really tight and it was more than platonic, and we also kissed on the cheek in a more than friends way...

I know this is harsh but he has crossed the line in his mind and he is clearly not as happy with his GF as he could be with me. There are no kids involved, so I am wondering how to, without obviously saying anything or hinting, get him to leave her for me.

I can give him everything she can and more. I just currently am there a lot, looking good and having fun especially as often I am the only lively one there.

bella165

lol good,
its nice and warm here heating on full and ms is looking after me and eldest has taken miss molly out for a walk to the park,

fe whats up hun??
if i go away its probly cus ive fallen asleep as i feel so knackered,this time tho i will NOT fall akip on my dinner lol,
mavis ive got the avon book and this time (ill do it sunday)ill do a bank transfer so i know you will get it,

gerturdeanna

hmmmm, tough call!! hehe!!

How old are the people involved?? How long have they been together? Do you know for sure that he isn't happy with her and is just 'playing' you??

Nicky63

Sorry to hear you're feeling pants Bella, not long to go now and it'll all be over wont it?

gerturdeanna

Oh yes meant to say - cheers Melvis for the new book!! Haven't had a peep yet, will do later!! Loving the little lipsticks!!! hehe!

bella165

well fe sounds like the feeling is the same for him,next time ask him to go for a quiet drink someplace and then ask him out straight,and say you would like to get to know him better ect and see how it goes from there,

toniq

FE, ill shoot from the hip,
however u disguise it he is took, u only have his word about situation regarding his gf.

If he wasnt happy he wouldnt be with her.
u wouldnt want him to do it to u, so dont do it to her.
Married/attached men are a minefield, could ur conscience let u do that to another female? xxxxxxxxxx
theres loads of unattached men out there xx

bella165

Nicky63 wrote: »

Sorry to hear you're feeling pants Bella, not long to go now and it'll all be over wont it?

i wish hun i still got a away to go,aslong as i stay strong with the help from my family and freinds on here im sure as hell i wont let it beat me without a bloody good fight,
im really lucky as this is my 3rd lot of treatment and ive still got my hair even tho its thinning bad,you lot wont get rid of me that easy lol

Miss_Cinnabon

hugs for bella

FE - sorry to be blunt, but he is taken, you shouldnt even be thinking about it, think about his gf for a change and how u would feel if you were her? he is just messing about, been there done that and learned the hard way to never mess about but hope you can come to a decision either way xx

right thats my afternoon mucked up, thought i was getting a kid free afternoon but no, lo was sent back from nursery as he couldnt stop crying, looks very white and tum was sore a bit, seems a lot of sickie bugs on the go the now

ThinkingOfLinking

Toniq, I am not going to get involved til they're over. I said to him, "I like you. I can't be with and get involved emotionally with someone who could cheat, SO I RESPECT THAT YOU'RE NOT DOING ANYTHING ABOUT THE SITUATION" but basically, there is an obvious mutual attraction; he gets the whole room to look at me while he sings to me, stares at me, etc etc. All I want to do is keep on doing what I am doing but if there's a way to get him to see that he could be happier with me, and then HIM make the decision to leave her, then and only then I'd start something new with him.

Gert, I think he's 35. I am 23 but very mature; at 20 I had 2 stepkids and was ready to settle down (the man was an idiot hence it not working out).