The Compers Inn - Part 8

toomanykids

Well said Chris, go to your gp now stressed. And that's not true that there's no-one there for your youngest, YOU are. But you are the one that needs help so get some, phone your OH or mother/sister/best friend and get to your GP. Everyone will rally round if they know you need them. Trust that your daughter will return safely to you and that the lawyers' bill is only a piece of paper that can be dealt with when you feel stronger.

easter65

Stressed...sorry hun I dont know whats happened with your situation without trawling back through the comp...Please talk to the girls on here they are absolutely fab...I Joined MSE a while back with money worries and there was lots of help..I lost my mom 2 years ago after caring for her for 26 years with Parkinsons...Had family probs from In laws, Had lots of worries the last few months with hubby losing £80 from his wage each week due to no work, hit us really wrong time of year and Other worries as well...Dont know your personal circumstances but if you have a large bill like that have you sought Bankrupcy help......Please please talk to the girls here because you wont get any bad advice.....People say you have to hit the bottom before you can spring back up....Hun things WILL get better ....

T--J

(((((((((((Stressed)))))))))))) As you say, DD13 needs you and the LO needs you too to get her out of danger. It's perfectly normal to feel overwhelmed when it seems that life keeps kicking you down but you can find the strength from somewhere to carry on and keep fighting back - it'll make you stronger and sometime soon you'll be able to enjoy life again, hopefully with LO right by your side.

I've been there too (although not for the same reasons - my eldest is profoundly mentally handicapped and youngest nearly died after birth due to a severe heart condition) and only yesterday, as I was out driving, I thought to myself "I'm so glad to be alive and I wouldn't change my life for the world" - hopefully they'll be your thoughts someday soon.

Please make sure you go to that appointment at your GP and let it all pour out, don't hold anything back. Anti-depressants have helped me through the tough times several times over the years.

toniq

stressedofdevon wrote: »

I can't go with DD13 here. She's devastated at the loss of her baby sister too, and is seeing her mummy crumble. I have to pretend I am coping for her, she has big halloween plans and deserves a break and some happiness. I am just so very low, I wish any abuse on myself, but wonder why this has happened to my babies. Am so scared for LO now alone with that man and no-one to help her.

Stressed im gonna have to be blunt, u have to get help for your depression and thoughts, Before u do something silly, make an urgent dr's appt and get yourself referred to a Mental health team,
Life is !!!! for u at the moment but kids make u go on, dont do anything that will scar their minds, your daughter will have social services and the courts watching her closely, they will not let any harm happen to her as they will be accountable.

You have a reason to keep going, and thats because god gave us life to live.
We all have days when we dont want to go on, but u have to and do , and slowly day by day, hour by hour u will cope.
u will get through this as long as u stay strong xxxxxxxxx
((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))) xxxxxxxxx

Splodz

Stressed I'm not very good at giving advice and so won't try, but there are many people on here who make a lot of sense (they've helped me too). Thinking of you and yours.

stressedofdevon

Thanks everyone. I am not going to do anything silly, I would not do that to my kids, but I just wish I could the pain is so great. First thing in the morning, facing a whole load of pressure to be brave and keep things going and yes, today it has overwhelmed me. But I WILL survive the day, and tomorrow will be another day, and next week I should see LO again and I pray she is fine. Once I find my armour again and do pumpkins and face painting with the two kids I have here which they are looking forward to then I am sure I will be boosted. Kind words help, domestic violence isolates you so much from friends and I think of you all here as my invisible friends and the only ones I can talk to.

toniq

Why not go get a lovley bath, nice bit of makeup ,feel good feeling and get stuck into making jellies and halloween stuff xxx
u r allowed to smile, u r allowed to have a good day xxx
xxxxxxx

easter65

Stressed your being positive already hun...You know at first you come here and think People have no probs and they cant understand...But then after a few months talking to all the girls here, you realise everyone is having probs...Thats why its best to take their advice...They are all so bubbly and laughing all the while but theres alot of hurt in their lives with different situations. I bet your 13 year old is a star...I say every time you feel low call her over and say I love you so much and just hug her...I have done it myself and yes it makes you cry but Its not a Low feeling but a thank god I have them feeling..

toniq

im not sure how much faith u have , but this is beautiful and carries me through bad days xxx

Footprints in the Sand

One night I dreamed I was walking along the beach with the Lord. Many scenes from my life flashed across the sky.
In each scene I noticed footprints in the sand. Sometimes there were two sets of footprints, other times there was one only.
This bothered me because I noticed that during the low periods of my life, when I was suffering from anguish, sorrow or defeat, I could see only one set of footprints, so I said to the Lord,
“You promised me Lord,
that if I followed you, you would walk with me always. But I have noticed that during the most trying periods of my life there has only been one set of footprints in the sand. Why, when I needed you most, have you not been there for me?”
The Lord replied, “The years when you have seen only one set of footprints, my child, is when I carried you.”

Mary Stevenson, 1936

gerturdeanna

I love footprints in the sand Toniq and I've got tears in my eyes now