Weekly Flylady Thread 20th October 2008

juliejim

Morning All

Hugs to all

Catch you later

Jue

Justamum

Triker wrote: »

Bringing children up is like trying to herd cats.:D

:rotfl:Great image! But so true. Also your earlier post was full of wisdom and great advice.

Michelle tbh your sister's children sound awful. A 5 yo encouraging a 3yo to attack a toddler with scissors :eek:. Maybe your mum could have a word with your sis?

SarahShattered

(((((hugs))))) Michelle I really feel for you honey. That's a really difficult situation, esp. when the children didn't respect you disciplining them.

Here's my opinion on the subject, feel free to ignore at will!!!


For what it's worth, I'd have been disciplining them too. And I certainly didn't think you either over reacted or were over the top.

My best friend's little girl (6) is boisterous (to say the least) And I discipline her now... even using the naughty step when she's here. But that's in agreement with her mum. It's really difficult to get involved with disciplining other people's children, particularly when their mother is seemingly unconcerned. ( I'm sure pigpen is right tho, that deep down she is bothered, and wants to believe that this is normal, and that all children behave like this)

My best friend is like my sister, we are very very close. But I didn't want my friend and her little girl over for Christmas last year, because I knew the nipper would ruin my day. I couldn't bring myself to tell her why I didn't want them over. We ending up having a big upset after christmas, with her saying that I should have just told her how I felt..... (hmmm, I'm still not convinced it would have gone down too well!) But it has cleared the air now, and she is concerned about her dd's behaviour, (she has a shared custody arrangement, not a good situation for continuity) but at least now we can talk about it.

I think what I'm trying to say, very long windedly, is that I think I'd risk the conversation with your sis. If you can have an opportunity to have a child
free sit down. It may well blow up, and from what you've described it probably will...... But.... it's blowing up already, without any hope of resolution..... IYSWIM. At least like this you can try and explain how worried you are for her, and for your nephews.

Furthermore, I wouldn't have them at your party either, after yesterday's performance.

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Here's one for you lovely ladies, vile child alert!

Yesterday a group of girls in DD3's class were off to a party for one of them... DD2 remarked what lovely boots one of the girls was wearing, (she'd changed at school) she thanked my dd2, and said that she was going out. Then one of the other girls said
"yes, we're going to see High School Musical 3 and then having a party"

I said,
"oo, how lovely for you all, have a wonderful time"

this girl turned round to my dd3 and said

"And i hope you J**** have a lovely time at home this evening" And turned back laughing.... what a little mare..... Honestly I could have throttled her. I remarked to my DD2 "what a boasty bella" (a la tweenies)

This little one always makes a point of saying 'hello' sweetly to DD3 whenver her mum's around..... yuck, she make me want to spit!!! :rotfl:

I'd be mortified if one of my girls said something so nasty to another child.

what say you all?

AnW'sMum

Morning

Sarah I know just what you mean, there is a girl in A's class who sounds very similar. When anything goes wrong with anyone she says 'I'll tell my mum about you' and she does because her mum believes EVERYTHING her daugther says never ever once thinking her child could be at fault. This girl is one of A's friends DH and I decided that there was no point in saying they could not be friends as at school they will team up with who they like. We just hope that she develops other friendships (which she has) and this girl will have less influence over her.

Right work for me, see you all later :wave:

SarahShattered

AnW'sMum wrote: »

Sarah I know just what you mean, there is a girl in A's class who sounds very similar. When anything goes wrong with anyone she says 'I'll tell my mum about you' and she does because her mum believes EVERYTHING her daugther says never ever once thinking her child could be at fault. This girl is one of A's friends DH and I decided that there was no point in saying they could not be friends as at school they will team up with who they like. We just hope that she develops other friendships (which she has) and this girl will have less influence over her.

That sounds horrible..... fortunately, my DD3 isn't interested in being friends with her. Hopefully your lovely Miss A will move away from wanting to be friends.

A few years ago this same child suddenly burst into tears, wailing that my child had bitten her.... :eek: My child was on the other side of the room to her!!!!! :mad: Fortunately, the staff saw what had happened and this child was rebuked. Given that DD3 has Downs, and at that point a significant language delay, she'd have got into so much trouble if they hadn't have seen.

I mentioned it to her mum, saying 'just in case her daughter said my girl had bitten her.... this is actually what happened.... ' her response

"oh, yes, she does tell fibs sometimes"
:mad: :mad: :mad: Oh well, that's ok then!!!!!!

Valli

AnW'sMum wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl:yes it is a proper one near Crystal Peaks

Yup that's the one - I COULD NOT get out of the car park! Did eventually!
Mind you I used to regularly get lost coming out of Meadowhall - I once ended up on the bottom deck of the Tinsley viaduct heading northbound! Another time it took 3 goes - I ended up back there twice!
I am getting better - honest (but I have even missed M1 exits):eek:

Valli

Gryfon wrote: »

I always feel like a mean mummy as I keep saying that they can't have x, y and z. At the moment I tell them to put it on their Christmas list and maybe they'll get it. Most of the time by the time we get out of the shop they've forgotten about it! Biggest girl wants a ride on Ferrari but I've told her that it's a tad bit expensive :rotfl:

Same here...although my kids are nowhere near perfect they are perceived (outside the house by people who don't know them, obviously:rotfl: ) as well mannered and unspoilt.
As regard disciplining other peoples kids - in my house - my rules - DS's mates who come here and swear are told off...they are warned I will ask them to leave...
Basically my personal policy is to say no fairly frequently just to keep them in check. And I did ring ex OH to tell him that since I didn't diss him in front of the kids (just everyone else;) ) I expected him - and more importantly his mother - not to slag me off. AFAIK it stopped. Both kids were very upset about it. I also had to ask him to let the kids get out of the way when exMIl and exBIL were smoking!

Sarah - re THAT little 'angel':eek:

Kids can be so very unpleasant..and cruel...it has been an eye opener for me...in my job...I am developing eyes in the back of my head!

Morning all BTW!

Flylady_Flower

Michelle / Sarah, you both sound like you've got your hands full, It was the only thing I didn't like about my kids being that age - the other kids (same now really... :rotfl: ) some of them can be so nasty, either verbally or physically, and they must learn it from somewhere? not necessarily parents, but other children, TV, ect...
Mine are no angels (as you well know!) but I'd be horrified if they upset someone like that. Best of luck with whatever you decide to do Michelle, and well done Sarah for managing to sort it out with your friend.

I have been a good little flylady today and have done all this... :A

Thursday Thllliiing!- Master Bedroom & Landing
Level 1
Check fire alarms are working - Talking of fire alarms, I've been checking mine but they are wired into the electric so always go off - I have asked council how to check the battery but no-one has got back to me yet - I've just read on it that battery is not replaceable but there is a red light on the one downstairs and it keeps bleeping since I pressed it this morning... any ideas?
Remove and wash bed linen and duvet covers. - in the machine now...
Fling open the window and let in the rain sunnyness
Level 2
Air the duvet - It is on the line as we speak - with one grey, one white and one blue peg on it, one to the left, one to the right and one off centre just because I could... :rotfl:
2 [strike]15[/strike] minutes floordrobe clearance Pretty good as only stuff on the floor was dirty from night before
My Dailies
DW x 1
WM x 2
TD x 1
Hang washing on airer x 2
HHI x 0 (going to do when H&A is on again, seemed to work yesterday)
Vacuum Hall, Kitchen, Stairs & Lounge x 1
S&S Kitchen x 1
S&S Bathroom x 1
S&S Living room x 1

Valli

Let's see how far I get with this long list then...


Monday Moobles- Living Room, Hall and Stairs
Level 1
Vacuum floors and sofas
Level 2
Dusting, even if around everything
Remove clutter making sure stairs especially are safe
Clean TV, other electricals and cabinets
Clean the windows.. get up clean nets and curtains
Level 3
Wipe and water plants
Put all your hotspots in one pile and work your way through it..
Vacuum under furniture you can manage to move without hurting yourself
Extra Mission: Pick one or more of the following tasks –

1. HHI
2. Wipe down any paintwork that needs it.
3. Binbag dance.. Get a binbag.. fill it and bin it!!!
   
4. Wash any cushions, throws or curtains that need it

Tuesday trauma - Kitchen and Dining Room
Level One
Clear and wipe kitchen surfaces
Level Two
Sweep and mop floors
Clean the oven.. & hob
Wipe dining table.. (clean table cloth if necessary)
Level Three
Dust any extra furniture in dining area, checking for cobwebs on way round
Wipe and replace all those small appliances.. kettle, toaster etc
Clean cupboard door fronts and fronts of appliances .. don't forget those kick boards..
Clean out your mankiest kitchen cupboard..
Extra Mission : help yourself

1. Degunge the fridge
2. Wipe down any tiles and shine those taps.. a toothbrush is great for cleaning away the gunk!
3. 34 fling boogie..
4. Empty the bin.. wash it out.. and make it smell SWEET

Wednesday washings- Bathroom and Study/Pc Area
Level One
Clean floors in these rooms
Level Two
Clean baths, toilets, don't forget the outside! and sinks.. shine the taps with a toothbrush
Clear any clutter from desk
Dust PC and desk and wipe off those cup rings!!
Wipe keyboard, house phone, sockets, switches and mouse etc
Level Three
Wash your bathroom mats, nets, clean blind/curtains etc
Wipe down tiles in bathroom.. defragment your pc while doing this.
Empty and clean out all the upstairs bins!
Clean shower screen/curtain if you have one/if required
Collect all the dirty laundry
Extra mission: Take your pick!

1. Wipe the skirtings, door and window frames in these rooms
2. Fling all those empty bottles and tubes
3. replace any sponges, flannels, toiletries that need it
4. clear a clutter spot in the bathroom andmake it clean and decluttered!

Gryfon

Valli...I'm with you there about my house my rules! I look after a friends child every now and then and he has been sent onto the thinking step before after being a bit too rough with my DS and not stopping when asked. I'm not going to pander to him and put him right above my three. Same at parties, if any child is rude and doesn't listen which spoils it for others I threaten with calling their parents!

Anyway I shall be here joining in this afternoon. I have photography club tonight so this morning shall be spent sifting through thousands of photos trying to find some to print out!