First one to clear 15k gets a paper hat

CAFCGirl

oh no, by the time i posted, you were sorted...

why cant I type faster!!!!! *drowns sorrows in a glass of water*

poorandindenial

PinkTwirl wrote: »

Yes, you would think. Except I had to rid ex's house of his ex's things (from years ago) and his joint ownership of his house with his ex (that he hadn't seen for 5 years). In the end he remortaged and cleared his debt, but held all the grief against me.

Apparently that's what changed his opinion of me, but he kept going on about possibly losing his house (where I was living too). I couldn't sleep for worry!

Hmmm it sounds like he wasn't willing to take responsibility for his own life and wellbeing and decided to lay the blame on you instead. If you hadn't done anything he would have been up !!!!!! creek.

Maybe you being motivated and efficient just made him feel inadequate??? In which case he probably wasn't worthy of someone as fantastic as you. All that you did for him requires huge amounts of energy and effort. Well done you and boo hiss him for not appreciating you.

poorandindenial

PinkTwirl wrote: »

Goodnight Ms Denial!

Weirdly I quite like that, Ms Denial :rotfl:

Right am really going now

CAFCGirl

everyones gone to bed then....... sad times

PinkTwirl

CAFCGirl wrote: »

Okipoki...
Gift time

G-Pa, likes the g g's and a tipple.....What about a book on whisky?

Aunt, likes whiffs -posh ones...... what about a room spray and candle gift
If you dont mind giving a free gift, pm me and I'll let you know what Im thinking :rotfl:

Other Aunt, likes her food ....... what about some flavoured oils and a cookbook? Saw some nice sets of flavoured oils in local BHs...

TMD - How about an old vintage style tea towel for your friend, pm your email address and I will email you a photo tomorrow of something I've got in mind :T

Ah, no, not all lost, my dad loves books (has read about 3 a week since he was 18, god knows how). That would be a really good present!

Flavoured oils! Definitely a good idea. I could get her a yankee candle and a bottle of flavoured oil.

will pm you!

Thanks:o

CAFCGirl

on the theme of purple, saw these (hopefully link works) slipper socks in a plum and cream.... quite fancy a pair myself now
http://www.dorothyperkins.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?beginIndex=20&viewAllFlag=false&catalogId=20552&storeId=12552&categoryId=66945&parent_category_rn=51593&productId=919374&langId=-1

CAFCGirl

http://www.dorothyperkins.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?beginIndex=0&viewAllFlag=true&catalogId=20552&storeId=12552&categoryId=66943&parent_category_rn=51593&productId=789969&langId=-1

more purpleness?

PinkTwirl

poorandindenial wrote: »

Hmmm it sounds like he wasn't willing to take responsibility for his own life and wellbeing and decided to lay the blame on you instead. If you hadn't done anything he would have been up !!!!!! creek.

Maybe you being motivated and efficient just made him feel inadequate??? In which case he probably wasn't worthy of someone as fantastic as you. All that you did for him requires huge amounts of energy and effort. Well done you and boo hiss him for not appreciating you.

He wasn't happy with me throwing out his ex's belongs (I felt threatened). She had been gone 5 years and didn't want them. He said he felt differently about me after that. I felt second best.

Maybe, he called himself a procrastinator. I'm very much a if there is something to be done, get it done sort of person. I'm very "goal-oriented" as they would probably say at work (corporate !!!!!).

He got an £18K car out of it and cleared £20K of debts. To be fair he bought me a £3K car out of it so he can't have completely hated me, but he used to have to take me to/from work, so deep down it freed his time up and he could afford it, so I think that is why he did it.

Still miss him, but only the way he smelled, looked, smiled. Not the way he treated me.

CAFCGirl

If your Dad likes books, try The Works, they have loads of paperbacks on 3 for £5, I got DH loads for in his stocking, quite a large variety, although plenty of historic stories, crime books and womens fiction...

CAFCGirl

PinkTwirl wrote: »

He wasn't happy with me throwing out his ex's belongs (I felt threatened). She had been gone 5 years and didn't want them. He said he felt differently about me after that. I felt second best.

Maybe, he called himself a procrastinator. I'm very much a if there is something to be done, get it done sort of person. I'm very "goal-oriented" as they would probably say at work (corporate !!!!!).

He got an £18K car out of it and cleared £20K of debts. To be fair he bought me a £3K car out of it so he can't have completely hated me, but he used to have to take me to/from work, so deep down it freed his time up and he could afford it, so I think that is why he did it.

Still miss him, but only the way he smelled, looked, smiled. Not the way he treated me.

Trust me hun, there are better smelling, better looking and better at other things fellas out there who will treat you like a queen and expect nothing back!

I cant believe he felt "different" about you, after you tidied his house
(essentially!)!!!!:eek: If my DH did that, the only thing different would be I'd love him a hell of a lot more for saving me the effort :rotfl: