Trying For a Baby II

AnnieM_3

got-it-spend-it wrote: »

Just to say that I think sometimes when people say they've not been trying long that might not be the case.

Maybe sometimes - but sometimes they tell you how easy it was! :eek: :rotfl:

got-it-spend-it wrote: »

By the way, when you're TTC, during 2ww when you don't know whether or not your pregnant how far do you go in terms of doing things you wouldn't do when pregnant? I mean things like lifting, drinking alcohol, caffeine etc etc. Part of me feels that I need to act as if I AM pregnant during this time, but part of me thinks that this could take a long time so I can't put my life on hold.....very interested in others views (particularly as my job involves quite a bit of lugging heavy things about- how dangerous could this be?)

I always avoid alcohol, too much caffeine etc during the 2ww - just in case. When I had the early mc/chem pg the doc did actually ask me about lifting at work, so I'll be very careful about some of the things I do if I think I am pg again soon.

The way I see it, I'll have to avoid booze etc for 9 months when I do get pg, so another 2 weeks won't hurt me, but I am a great worrier, and err on the side of caution - I'd never forgive myself if something happened/went wrong and I thought I might have been able to prevent it!

As for lifting in your job and ttc, I would speak to your doc about that one. Is there any way you can have a 'pulled muscle' or something to get a colleague to lift stuff for you?

mysmeg

Hi Ladies,

I am having my 4th IVF next month. Have 4 frozen embryos left and this is likely to be our last try. Had two misscarriages at 8 and 12 weeks in the last year after IVF. I am 40 in 6 months so this is our last attempt as the detriment to my health with this and operations etc in the last 4 years has been too much.

Im still optimistic though - need to be. If any of you ladies need a chat about IVF, - look no further.

Good Luck

M:A

galvanizersbaby

GracieP wrote: »

I wouldn't mind too much if it wasn't a symptom of pregnancy, if I'm feeling so icky this early on (I've been a little sick now 6 times in the last 30 hours) I'd be frightened of ending up like your sister.:o I think the nausea and sickness normally kicks in from about 6 weeks, if I'm pg it's kicked in at 4, which makes me 33% sicker than normal.:p

It's nothing like a vomiting bug, I'm keeping about 98% of all my food down, it's just tiny, tiny amounts of sick. I also have intense dyspepsia, which I've only ever had while pg and a little bit before AF last month.

I hope it is morning sickness Gracie x

With me this didn't kick in till about 8 weeks with my daughter and not at all with my son but I was never physically sick only nauseous and ironically it helped to eat something which was the last thing I wanted to do!

I've heard it said that morning sickness is a sign of a healthy pregnancy - but having said that I had it with both m/c's and when I was pg with my daughter but not with my son who was a normal pregnancy?! - probably an old wives tale!:rolleyes:

got-it-spend-it

galvanizersbaby wrote: »

I hope it is morning sickness Gracie x

With me this didn't kick in till about 8 weeks with my daughter and not at all with my son but I was never physically sick only nauseous and ironically it helped to eat something which was the last thing I wanted to do!

I've heard it said that morning sickness is a sign of a healthy pregnancy - but having said that I had it with both m/c's and when I was pg with my daughter but not with my son who was a normal pregnancy?! - probably an old wives tale!:rolleyes:

I think morning sickness is caused by hCG levels and so a higher level of this is more likely where the baby is developing well etc. I might be wrong but am sure I heard/ read that somewhere. This is why it is thought that morning sickness is a sign of a healthy pregnancy. Having said that I guess it is like anything in that some people will be more predisposed to it than others. Hope you feel better soon though Gracie and that your suffering is for a nice reason :j .

shelly

galvanizersbaby wrote: »

I agree with you Shelly but it's so hard not to get obsessed - I often feel a bit nore normal after coming on this thread!

Believe me, I have been obsessed in the past about getting pg and I know how it feels.
I think now though after 4 years of trying, 2 mcs and cancer its easier for me to take each day as it comes.
I'm just happy to be alive and of course I would love to be a Mum but for us it won't be the end of our world if it doesn't happen.

becs wrote: »

Ah Shelly,

I think we must be lone voices in a sea of madness! I completely agree with you. < snip>
It's also like women who tell everyone they're pregnant when they did the test a few days ago. Had a friend who has had 6 MC and every time she was pg she told everyone immediately, I don't get it! Obviously on here is different because it's all anonymous but telling friends and relatives so early is just mad or is it me?

Glad I'm not alone

My opinion on telling people you are pg changed after my first mc. When I got my first BFP I told my parents, my brother and a couple of friends at work so that they could do my heavy lifting....I didn't go mad, just told those few people. When I lost the pg it was absolutely awful breaking the news to them what had happened. It was like shattering their dreams along with my own.

When I got pg the second time it was easier as I wasn't working at the time so we told no-one. Hubby and I were the only 2 people who knew.
When that pg ended it was still hard to tell my parents but easier than the first time.

When, not if, when we get pg again, I won't tell anyone until at least 3 months have passed.

got-it-spend-it wrote: »

By the way, when you're TTC, during 2ww when you don't know whether or not your pregnant how far do you go in terms of doing things you wouldn't do when pregnant? I mean things like lifting, drinking alcohol, caffeine etc etc. Part of me feels that I need to act as if I AM pregnant during this time, but part of me thinks that this could take a long time so I can't put my life on hold.....very interested in others views (particularly as my job involves quite a bit of lugging heavy things about- how dangerous could this be?)

I don't change anything at all until I get a BFP. Its easy for me though as I rarely drink, don't smoke and am unemployed at the moment (my last job involved lots of heavy lifting) If I went out with the girls and it was during the 2ww it wouldn't stop me having a drink but if AF was late it would make me think twice and I probably wouldn't go out.

galvanizersbaby wrote: »

I've heard it said that morning sickness is a sign of a healthy pregnancy - but having said that I had it with both m/c's and when I was pg with my daughter but not with my son who was a normal pregnancy?! - probably an old wives tale!:rolleyes:

I think its an old wives tale. A cousin of mine has 4 perfectly healthy beautiful kids and another on the way. AFAIK she has never had sickness with any of them.
I wasn't actually sick with my second pg but felt on the verge of being sick all day everyday from getting BFP to a day or two before mc was confirmed.



Sorry for such a long post ladies but wanted to do my answers/comments in one post rather than several


Have a good weekend everyone! (hubby currently has "man flu" but is being a brave soldier :rotfl: soon as he feels better bding can begin for this month)

becs

Ah Shelly,

I love your sensible positive attitude! I have a friend who's had 6 mc's and she now has a lovely 18 month old and number 2 on the way so it does happen. I completely agree with you on not telling people until 3 months although haven't decided if that's what we would do with my parents yet. They know we're trying and think my mum would guess quickly anyway plus I'm absoloutely rubbish at keeping anything from her. Part of me would want to tell her fairly soon probably around the 8 weeks or so then another part of me thinks it would be nice for it to be our secret without the good intentioned interference of my mum!

shelly

becs wrote: »

Ah Shelly,

I love your sensible positive attitude! I have a friend who's had 6 mc's and she now has a lovely 18 month old and number 2 on the way so it does happen. I completely agree with you on not telling people until 3 months although haven't decided if that's what we would do with my parents yet. They know we're trying and think my mum would guess quickly anyway plus I'm absoloutely rubbish at keeping anything from her. Part of me would want to tell her fairly soon probably around the 8 weeks or so then another part of me thinks it would be nice for it to be our secret without the good intentioned interference of my mum!

Thanks!

I admit that 95% of the time I am able keep my "sensible positive attitude" but some days are just rough. Some days I crave a baby with all of my being.
I feel the whole world is against me and I must have done something wrong in a former life to be treated so badly in this life :rotfl:

Most of the time though my attitude is definately "If its meant to be then it will be"
I'm just happy to be here with hubby and count each day as a blessing.


In an odd way hubby and I are quite lucky that we can keep a pg to ourselves until we are ready to tell people.
We now live a little further out of town and pretty much keep ourselves to ourselves. If we see friends and family its because we choose to make the trip and see them.....as we live further out of town we don't get people just drop in...suits me fine!

I have to say that having the secret between just me and hubby the second time was really special while it lasted.

becs

It is irrational how it just hits you some months, guess it's just our hormones!

My parents live about 40 miles away and like you only see them when we make the effort to go down and see them, they rarely come up. My mum and I do talk most days on the phone though, since I was diagnosed with my tumour in march she's become even more pushy about how I should be doing things and pushung for more help etc from the dr's. She won't accept that because my treatment only put my cycle right in May that effectively we've only been trying a few months so all the dr's are going to say is come back in a few more months. I know she is desperate for another grandchild as she doen't get to see much of the other 2 as they live 400 miles away, realistically the amount of time she sees us is less than them anyway so chances are even if we do have a baby shde won't see anymore of it than the other 2!

I'm not at the completely obsessed state yet but as we've only been trying a few months I'm definately not as grounded as you and I do envy your ability to accept it if it'c not menat to be. I have another friend who is the most lovely person, she was not able to have children and tried for many years and did then accept it. It was a great shame they never considered adoption because I think her and her husband would have had so much to offer a child.

homeaway

Good news, I hope your little beanie sticks. Good luck.

netdumdum

Sorry, I have removed my post now, didnt mean to upset anyone.